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I personally cringe when I hear a friend js having a kid. All I can think of is how bad theyre going to have it. Hell id definitely have been better off being born 20 years earlier, but these new kids are REALLY screwed unless they have super rich parents.

"Nothing new under the sun" I suppose!

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[–] masterspace@lemmy.ca 82 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Climate change is the only true existential reason to feel that way.

Everything else is just over focusing on a short term dip. On average things are getting better over the long term. The British Empire collapsed, and so will the American one, and the world will keep on turning and progressing.

Hell kids born these days may have legitimate cures for most forms of cancer by the time they're old. We won't.

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[–] LastYearsIrritant@sopuli.xyz 54 points 1 day ago (6 children)

VERY specific people would have been better off born 20 years ago.

The vast majority of people would be better off today.

You can imagine in another 20 years that would be different, but almost everyone is better off today than they were 20 years ago, and they will be even better 20 years from now than today.

Specific groups may have a harder time in one time period or another, but society at large is getting better at the world scale over the long term. Hope still exists.

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 82 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Maybe when it comes to social issues but when I read OP’s post I think of climate change and how it seems to be worsening at an increasing pace.

[–] dditty@lemmy.dbzer0.com 47 points 1 day ago

That and personal privacy and freedom from despotic and fascist government

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

I’m in my mid thirties and I’ve had a tough time the last few summers. I’m too hot to eat, causing nausea and reducing the amount of water I can drink without vomiting. I’m sure it puts a strain on my vital organs. I wonder how much it’s taking off of my life expectancy already and how much worse it will get over the next decades.

I don't even live in a (historically) warm place.

[–] PETE_OPSEC@piefed.social 24 points 1 day ago

I agree with almost all of this, but I think factoring in the imminent catastrophes we know are coming (and actively doing nothing about) will make a sizeable balance of this 'better off vast majority' of today.

The heaps of plastic tell a different story and define 'getting better' in a daunting light for those just now being born

[–] AmbiguousProps@lemmy.today 17 points 1 day ago

Climate change related disasters will only get worse over the long term, though.

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[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 1 day ago (16 children)

Very. I already dont see a bright future. People born today dont know anything but a broken world. Me being born 2003 atleast saw a slight bit of it

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[–] MidsizedSedan@lemmy.world 31 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Windows 11 laptops requires a webcam. The internet now wants selfies to prove that you are a certain age.

The kids now will grow up thinking that this is normal. That is what I am worried about.

[–] NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 11 points 1 day ago

That and the impending societal collapse from Climate Change lol

[–] tal@lemmy.today 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No. I think that things have pretty steadily gotten better over time, and that a great deal of people being upset about now for any given now comes from a tendency to focus on negatives. Could be social media or news media tending to bring negatives to the surface because it drives engagement, political activists aiming to drive or leverage upset, or so forth.

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[–] Redredme@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago (17 children)

You are born in the very very very best stretch the human race has ever known.

We have solutions for almost every problem which exists today.

Wars are at an historical low point.

Chances are good you've never been even experienced war first hand.

Housing is expensive, yes. But chances are you're reading this on a couch or bed in a home, heated (or cooled), with a working stove, light at night and a fridge with edibles in it. And lets not talk about your immediate almost unrestricted access to all of human knowledge.

That would be unbelievable, impossible even during 99.9% of human history. (Or somewhere near this figure)

You should stop doomscrolling and start reading the real human history.

All of human knowledge at your fingertips. And this is what you chose to distill from it.

[–] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 25 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I think you're missing the point.

Dying of disease because there simply isn't a cure is a tragedy, but dying of disease because the cure is too expensive, not because of material and resource limitations but because some shithead just wants to be rich, when in reality we could produce enough for everyone - is a farce beyond comprehension.

We escaped the wolves and I sure am glad for it, but we have senselessly created new wolves just to throw people to them.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not making an appeal to nature, or using the noble savage fallacy, nor am I reactionary moron who thinks everyone went to Galas or that in the past I'd be admiring the decorative architecture rather than be the slave making it, I'm a huge simp for science and technology, but I also can see that the world is headed in a very dark direction compared to the 2010s.

As a minority in both legislation and in practice my rights and safety have been actively eroded since the 90s and things were quite literally just better back then for basically everyone.

I struggle to think what exactly would be worse for your average Westerner being born earlier in actual human scales of time, like e.g. the 1990s.

The boomers around me don't even understand that you don't just "get" a job for existing, and my parents can't imagine having a degree and worrying about making rent or skipping on heating or meals in a "first world country" like the UK, and they grew up in the fucking soviet union and not exactly during it's heyday.

Living in wartime is awful. Living while wishing for things to be fixed, or even for any kind of hope, even if it means death in war, isn't that much better.

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[–] icylobster@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I get what you are saying but everyone is ignoring the human condition. We feel things based on how they are around us in a relative sense.

It doesn't matter if it is statistically better. Modern times are getting worse for people. Health, privacy, freedom are all declining in America. That is what people see and feel. I'm tired of people acting like we have life horizons that can see centuries.

Chronic health is a real current issue and it absolutely destroys quality of life too.

So yeah, great, best time to be alive. But since I was a kid many things have gotten worse. From health (cost, accessibility) and education to privacy. Maybe we will be much farther ahead in 20 years, but the next 10 are looking grim.

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[–] MTK@lemmy.world 21 points 1 day ago

Politics, economics and war are all hard to predict for long term, but just on the count of climate change kids born today are screwed.

[–] Drusas@fedia.io 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Very much so. I honestly think it's at least a little cruel and selfish to have a child in a dying world.

That said, I remain supportive of the parents in my life and I try to keep that feeling to myself--unless the parent brings it up (my cousin has two very young children whom he adores, but he also worries for their futures due to climate change and political instability, and he'll talk pretty openly with me about it).

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 20 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Climate change is the number one thing. The past had fascism, tools, slavery - but it didn't have an Extinction level event looming just cresting over the horizon. I'm not having any kids until there is actual meaningful progress towards fixing that... So it looks like I'm not having kids.

[–] Stovetop@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

Not to mention that one of the easiest ways to combat climate change is to simply not bring more humans into the world.

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[–] BlackEco@lemmy.blackeco.com 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Considering that my outlook on the future is grim, I would say that I do, yes.

But on the other hand, when I look at my 3yo nephew and how my sister raises him, teaching him inclusiveness, limiting his exposure to screens as much as possible, and encouraging him to draw and go outdoors, it gives me some hope that maybe not all is lost.

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[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thirty-ish years ago, my grandfather said he felt sorry for me because of the state of the world.

Human nature is to say things are going to shit, everything is terrible, and things were better in some non-existent past.

Yeah, things suck now. But they also sucked thirty years ago and 100 years ago. The difference is that we know the outcome to (some) of the problems people faced then. And (generally) the worst case scenario didn't happen.

Yeah, we need to fight the rich on climate change. But we will. And we'll mitigate the problems we can. And we'll tell our grandkids that we don't envy their future.

[–] over_clox@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago (8 children)

30 years ago, if your microwave went out, half the time it might have just been the fuse, which you could buy a pack of really cheap at the local Radio Shack.

Today, what the fuck is a fuse? They want you to chuck that old microwave and buy a new one that connects to the internet...

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[–] RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

All the time. I fake being happy for the parents and on the inside think What the fuck is wrong with you?

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[–] daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (5 children)

I think we are in for a very hard 30-50 years politically and economically speaking.

Current young people are already poorer than their parents, and that's not getting solved. Next generation will be poorer and we will have to factor in a lot of tensions and unsolved problems that I think will derive in violence, a lot of violence. And very heavy societal collapses.

Maybe I'm dramatic, but the other day I thought that's not unlikely that a "western" country will experience a famine in the next 50 years. Many don't produce enough food for themselves by far, the moment they don't have the money or the possibility to buy it from other countries... Starvation it is. And with a growing population getting near the 10 billion humans, a few years of globally bad crops could devastate humankind.

So, yep, I think kids today are in for really hard times.

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[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Unclear. Maybe things are going to get better; it's happened before right?

It hasn't been all bad news lately, too. If you're not straight, cis, or from the the West, being a boomer wasn't such a great deal.

[–] mojofrododojo@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago (6 children)

it’s happened before right?

not what we've done to the ecosystem. we're in entirely uncharted territory.

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[–] Artisian@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

No. Only joy for the new parents and child. (Though I do put in work to shore up their finances, try to get them my next bonus.)

Several reasons: being a kid today is better than being a kid 20-50 years ago. Toys are cooler, parenting competence and training has broadly improved, minecraft exists, and there is some really good childrens TV.

Health risks are largely down, especially compared to 35 years ago. (Anecdotally about 10% of families around my cohort lost kids. Far fewer in the younger cohorts.)

While economic mobility is down, more people means a stronger voting block. Boomers run the world because their protests changed policy. I see indications that kids are a more competent politic than earlier generations (eg, climate and LGBTQ rights), we just need them to matter sooner.

For what it's worth, the economy is not just bad, it's breaking. If workers remain this exploited, there will soon be nobody to sell to. We are seeing large (usually stupid) interventions to try and address it, I put nontrivial odds on something sane eventually being tried.

War deaths are low and really don't seem likely to increase dramatically (see here).

Edit: I forgot to add LGBTQ rights/acceptance! While there are definitely still places that are not safe, many of them were not safe before (and that was just the status quo), I believe the risks have decreased and will continue to do so, while the medical access has improved (and that hopefully will continue, though I'm personally expecting that to get worse before it gets better. I think kids today probably get good care in 10 years, some kids 6-12 are in for a bad time.)

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[–] MnemonicBump@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 1 day ago

I'm not trying to doom on anyone's bloom here, but things are getting worse all around. Even if you ignore all of the political and social strife, and all of the war and terror, there's still the warming planet to contend with, and we don't have the magic technology to fix it 20 years ago yet.

As the planet gets warmer, resources will get tighter, people will be displaced, and that will only lead to further strife. Energy crisis, water shortages, famine. They're all guaranteed. We're in the cascade now.

Your future is about surviving now.

[–] 58008@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Honestly, I don't. I came up in the '80s, wasn't diagnosed with autism until 2022. My life would have been so different if I had known about it when I was a child, and if autism was as well-understood as it is today so that I had the support I needed. Kids today who have issue like that are identified much earlier and helped more. The steady march of knowledge and science is almost always a good thing. So, the present and the future are always the place to be for most people most of the time. Of course a Gazan isn't feeling the giddy excitement of scientific discovery at this moment, but for the human species as a whole, things have never been better. There is always someone suffering immense, unimaginable hardship. The human project is overwhelmingly not that.

Every generation has existential concerns, too. Climate change and the rise of fascism is on the cards right now. When I was a kid and adolescent in the '80s and '90s, I was in the middle of the N. Irish 'Troubles'. Before that, people had the Cold War to worry about. Before that, WWII and WWI. But things are always better than they were 'yesterday' if you take stock of everyone as a whole and not just those suffering the worst in any given moment.

If you took the average kid born today in an average society, and transplanted them into the 1970s with the same socioeconomic starting point, it would be tantamount to gross child abuse given the vast ocean of stuff they could have had, but now will never have (in their childhood, at least). And I'm not even talking about technology and the internet; just the treatment of children by the state and schools alone would be night-and-day different. Kids are individuals today, in the '70s you were your parents' property and didn't develop a sense-of-self worth respecting until you were old enough to get drunk.

I still wouldn't bring a kid into existence, but for those that are here already, 2025 is the best time to be born. Like if I were my parents, I would not have had me while the country was tearing itself apart with bombings and shootings every day. But I'm glad I was born when I was and not when my parents were kids.

[–] Feyd@programming.dev 20 points 1 day ago (6 children)

IMO climate change is kind of a different beast than hardships from the past.

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[–] Strider@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Yes, climate change, microplatics in brains and balls and mountain fresh water and pollution all around.

Oh and forget about ever owning your house except you inherit.

And all of it is man-made.

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[–] bstix@feddit.dk 10 points 19 hours ago (4 children)

I think things will make a turn in about ten years. Yes, climate is very critical, but the kids of today will have a better shot at shaping the world in a time when the last old ideas from the fossil fueled age have finally died.

It's going to get rough, but at least they have a chance of changing it. We never did get a chance, because the boomers were kept alive with improved healthcare. It's the same people who have all the wealth and power today as it was in 1980s.

So maybe Gen-X and millennials will be the next old assholes, but at least they're better educated and their views are much better aligned with younger generations than the old ones. We might finally be able to work together across generations politically in just a few years time. It's much needed, and it's hard work, but I envy the kids who get to be the creators of the post-boomer society.

[–] pugnaciousfarter@literature.cafe 13 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

We need more optimism, for sure. But I can't get my head around the idea that the new generation will be better than us.

The 70 years of relative stability has been exchanged by a few dickheads to make as much money over the expense of everyone as possible. Those people mean to keep it that way.

Even if I am being pessimistic, social media has made everything so depressing. We used to believe in continuous progress, we used to be excited about the future.

No, we have to funnel money to that lizard bot so he and his buddies can build their private bunkers because they know what they're doing is fucked up, but the money is too enticing.

[–] TheMinister@sh.itjust.works 10 points 18 hours ago

Yeah the problem is with all the deregulation on generational wealth and workarounds for rich people to stockpile and keep their money, the offspring of the ruling class will be the same kind of assholes. Look at Sam Altman, he’s not old. Look at mark whateverthefuck. He’s not old. Now, those people didn’t exactly inherent their money, but you can’t tell me these guys won’t be around for the next 40 years fucking shit up. And their kids? And the kids of all the Murdochs, the bush kids, the Koch offspring…there are a lot of shitty families able to reproduce and spread their sickness. This isn’t going to wind down and give us a fresh start. These rich people will be protected by an increasingly violent state and they will all burn it down before they let it change. They’re not weakening over time. They’re amassing even more wealth and the regulations and ideas around capitalism are only getting more virulent and violent. We aren’t about to ride off into the sunset on the backs of a new generation. They are going to be focusing on surviving, more than we ever were.

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[–] FenderStratocaster@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

All ye who enter abandon all hope

Seriously, you people are a bunch of cake eaters. "The future is scary and things are getting worse." It's always been scary, you've just been privileged enough for it not to be.

All I can think of is how bad theyre going to have it.

Bro, people have it bad NOW. Life is and has always been suffering and struggle. Get out of your online bubble and go see some shit. Anyone here who says their life outlook looks bleak would have said the exact same shit 30 years ago or even 100 years ago.

Life is suffering no matter when.

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Not in the least.

You should look at people born in the past.

[–] Tuuktuuk@sopuli.xyz 8 points 2 hours ago

My children are still very young, but oh are they happy!

They are enjoying their life and no future suffering will ever take that away from them.

I wouldn't want to deny those awesome humans their right to play as merrily as they do. To create, to enjoy life. They exist right now as well, in 2025 and 2026.

The end of life is always painful. Life is still worth it.

[–] Sanctus@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (6 children)

If we dont pass the torch only the rich will. Is that a world we want to fortify? I'd rather not. Someone has to oppose them. Thats our and our children's fight as the world begins to wane.

[–] platypode@sh.itjust.works 22 points 1 day ago (2 children)

That’s our fight—not our unborn childrens’.

Having a child for any purpose other than the flourishing and well-being of that child has always struck me as a deeply flawed decision. If your child doesn’t want to fight for a world they never knew, all you’ve birthed is misery.

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[–] MnemonicBump@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 1 day ago (10 children)

I can't wrap my head around this. I'm choosing not to have kids because I can't imagine explaining to them some day why I chose to bring them into the world.

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[–] crapwittyname@feddit.uk 7 points 1 day ago

I choose not to. I can choose to be hopeful for the future without being unrealistic. I can see intrinsic value in human life and the human experience even knowing that every single one of us will die at some point, some peacefully, some during suffering. The moment of death doesn't have to define one's life. Even a baby who lives for six hours has spent infinitely more time living than dying. Would you be so nihilistic as to erase that life, just because it was short?

Your philosophy is valid; it's not necessarily correct.
Starting from the assumption that it is denies you the opportunity to see things from a different perspective.

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