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Don't know if that counts, but I will use my turn signals every. fucking. time. At dead of night, with no other (visible) traffic around, doesn't matter.
Granted, it's the law, but I can develop an irrational hate towards other drivers for not using them. And this will happen multiple times a day.
So maybe not the kind of inconvenient you're after, but at least I'm sticking to it.
If you do it habitually, it won't cost you thought or effort. You'll just do it by muscle memory. The bar for obtaining and keeping a drivers license is too damn low.
When I was learning to drive, the government issued pamphlet included a phrase similar to, “Always use your signals, the car you don’t see is most likely to be the one that hits you.”
So I use my signals for any turn, any lane shift, no matter the context, no matter where I’m driving.
When I was carpooling to work a long time ago, a friend gave me some friendly grief over my usage of turn signals within an apartment complex’s parking lot. “Why are you using your signal? There’s nobody here.”
“Because the car I DON’T see is the one most likely to hit me.” “But there’s nobody here.” “Nobody that you see, but what about the car you don’t see?”
She didn’t get it.
Oh yes. I do the same. And I often fantasize about telling these dicks that their turn signals are broken.
I don’t burn bridges with anyone. I grew up very isolated and alone and decided early in life to never be part of making people in my life feel that way.
I was the only one to visit my mom at the psych ward despite it being far and us not getting along.
I picked up an abusive ex from a date that had gone terribly wrong late at night.
I stayed on the phone with another toxic ex for a few hours as they nervously went home from a party in a bad area.
There’s lots more examples and it’s pretty much always a pain in the ass, but everyone should have someone to go to. I’m not necessarily nice or dishonest about my feelings, but I won’t leave people hanging.
That's genuinely a great way to live your life. I have some reevaluation do now. Thanks for the homework.
It’s really not a healthy way to live. Plenty of people have told me to cut back on it, including two therapists. I’ve kinda understood that view, but I get stuck at the question of who is worth being there for and who isn’t.
Ruined my relationship with my sister and was never part of my nephews lives because I declined to be their godfather because I'm an atheist. One of the aspects of being a godfather is promising to raise the children in their parents religion if their parents should pass. I told her, unequivocally, I cannot and will not make a promise I know I can't keep, and that's a promise that I could not possibly keep as it goes against my personal views and values. I will not raise your children to be Christian in your absence, and thus I cannot in good faith be their godfather. I thought I was being respectful of her belief by not lying and saying I would do such a thing. My nephews are adults now and I've seen them maybe three times in their lives. Oh well. I don't have any good familial relationships so I guess it doesn't matter. Fucked up families is as fucked up families does. I've always been treated like my life is less valuable by my family since I didn't have children anyway, so fuck it I guess.
Not using or buying anything by
It can sometimes be inconvenient. Mostly because friends and family still use them.
Pretty good list, but why Target? Do I need to add another to my list?
Target is under a national boycott because after George Floyd's murder they made a big deal of increasing racially equality though a huge commitment hiring more black employees, selling goods from black-owned businesses and suppliers, and so on. The minute Trump got elected they canceled all of that and denounced "DEI". They are the corporate poster-boy for throwing away values for MAGA, and drive the rest of the industry in the same direction with their example.
They reversed DEI policy as soon as Trump got into office.
There's no ethical consumption under capitalism.
I agree, but there is less/more ethical consumption
The Reddit API changes around third party apps like a lot of other people here. It was so clear they were being disingenuous about the changes and that it was a de facto ban. Pretending it wasn't a ban and that they "support third party developers" really pissed me off.
It's one thing to charge for API access (which is not unreasonable, per se, since API calls cost Reddit money), but Reddit decided to charge an extremely unreasonable and unjustifiable rate to third party app developers. On top of that, they decided NSFW labeled content could only be seen in their official app and could never show up in any third party apps that decided to pay for API access. They claimed it was about "making sure children don't see adult content," but that was clearly BS since they could just not serve that content in the API for non-18+ accounts and require third party developers to agree to certain terms of use or have their app cut off.
So Reddit forced third party apps to have to charge a subscription fee to their users and those users would not get full access to Reddit content anyway. Gee, I wonder what users will do if they have to choose between paying a subscription for less content or using the crappy official app with worse and fewer features to get all content for free...
The disingenuousness of the justification for the changes and pretending there was no ulterior motive was worse to me than the changes themselves. I missed Reddit a lot at first, and occasionally I still do, but I haven't been back since.
I have not been back since as well. I was so optimistic at the time that the community would force reddit to back down with the whole black out. Was so sad to see many people just went back to business as usual.
Honesty is a big one for me.
Doesn't always mean speaking the whole truth but not saying anything that's untrue. This has led to a handful of situations where I would've prefered to tell a white lie but I didn't.
This is my main thing as well. Always telling the truth. Even when the consequences of telling the truth reflect poorly on a choice or decision I made. ❤️
I refuse to use Meta or Google anything. Cuts me off from a lot of people and is pretty inconvenient, but I have to make it as difficult as possible for those rat fuck companies to exploit me.
I was working part time as a tutor in a community college. I had applied to work for AT&T or maybe Ameritech as a tech. It would've been a very good job, but I had to start training full time around late April or May. I had some students that were really relying on me to help them prepare for finals. I asked if they could put me in the next class, but they said now or never, so I told them I had to turn them down.
They gave no shits, of course, but it was a big deal to my students. And the school that was having trouble staffing math and electronics tutors. It changed the course of my life, but things turned out just fine, eventually.
Digital privacy can often be a bitch. But I just turn every "why don't you just use X" as a chance to proselytize for people to take back what privacy they can.
I'm sure, like when I do that, that they totally understand and love it. /s
Well they shouldn't try and sell me on their privacy invasive bullshit if they don't want to hear about my privacy respecting bullshit. They start it, you think I want to hear it any more than they do?
I have a fairly strict policy of being honest and not intentionally deceiving people. This cost me back in my 20’s when I was working a call center tech support job for dial up internet.
Our management wanted 10 minute handle times even for tier 2 calls. I was a tier 2 rep and this was in windows 98 era so I would have to walk grandma’s through uninstalling their entire coms stack and clearing certain registry components and reinstalling them. For grannies I could get this done cleanly in 1 hour. My managers would occasionally swoop over and tell me to tell the customer I had to look up something and call them back. This I would not do, it would make me seem less confident in the fix which grandma already had to be encouraged and made to feel they were in capable hands to undertake and what if we got a typo in the phone number or we can’t get back to them so they’re left with their computer largely bricked for internet.
This resulted in me getting demoted, then promoted again to be demoted and then ultimately moved to a different department that had much more relaxed handle times while still performing a tier 2+ experience for an extra dollar per hour. So in the end it was a win but the yoyo happened at a very financially unstable time for me so it was rough
I ratted out the VP of the Utah chapter of Pride at Work for being an aggravated sexual abuser. I was inconvenienced because he kicked me out and then my life imploded.
I highly suggest reading my posts from the beginning if you want to see how much my principles have inconvenienced me.
It's been "fun."
I cut out almost all of my extended family over their right-wing opinions.
They can dress up racism and bigotry all they like, it's still racist and bigoted.
Being vegan, every time I buy clothes or want to get some food when I'm out of house.
I run Linux on main. Started 2 months ago because it represents the kind of world I want to live in. I've stuck with it despite the fact that it feels like I'm computing on hard mode at times.
I feel this.
Permissions are a bit of a blessing and a pain
Out of curiosity, how come Linux is so massive on Lemmy? I signed up several months back and didn't specify any specific interest as far as I can recall, but it feels like I've joined a Linux community that has a side-interest in the rest of the world!
My parents were changing ISPs and we were told by the guys doing the connection that a cell phone number was necessary. We have been with this ISP a few times before and a cell was never required (we change when the other company has a sale).
I was the only one in the family with a cell at the time.
This happened a short time after I started degoogling so I had no problem saying no when someone asks me for personally identifiable information. I asked the tech "I just got home from work, what would you do if I wasn't here?" and "Not everyone has a cell phone, you must have a procedure for those people" He seemed dumbfounded by my questions and refusal to hand over a cell number.
Bud kept insisting, I kept saying no. He caved and used Dad's email address.
During my military service I constantly fought against idiotic traditions and doing things the stupid and inefficient way. I had read the regulations manual carefully to back me up and presented my cases respectfully with proper conduct.
I always started by quoting the relevant regulations, so they had to hear me out and could not officially punish me for my "disobedient queries". This got many of the regular staff royally pissed off at me, some just found my resilience amusing and a few younger offiicers even showed occasional support for me. I knew very well that nothing big would change, but I actually did manage to get rid of a few small things that were just hassling disguised as training.
My service friends thought I was crazy for stirring things up in vain, but I took good care that I never got them in any trouble. The only "punishment" they could give me was that I was always given the assignments that were considered most unpleasant and I was regularly sent on long range recon excersizes with my men, so I would be out of sight for most of the time. I loved those long trips in the woods.
I also quit my first real and well paying job out of principle a week after we got a new manager. I had been there for 5 years and really liked the work, but after the new manager gave us a list of changes he wanted, it became clear to me that it was time to leave. It would have been entirely impossible to fulfill my duties properly with the allocated resources and time. I could have done the work badly, sure, but this would have led to the customer leaving us for other services. I did point this out to the new manager when I was cleaning my desk. "Just because you cannot do doesn't mean that someone better couldn't" was the only response. They promptly lost the customer and 3-4 others also quit the team in the same year.
With the help of an old friend I landed a new, little less paying job but with vastly better benefits. Been there since.
I'm having a hard time finding a job that aligns with my ethics. I was a software developer, and it seems that everything that's hiring right now is stuff that would make me feel like garbage.
I considered taking a job as a help desk for an advertising library. I figure I could do a really bad job of it, and take a big chunk of my salary to donate to adblockers.
I earn about 30% of what I did five years ago, and prices have only gone up. I'll probably become homeless if things continue, that's pretty darn inconvenient.
I just want to make dumb little video games to feed my family, but I'm too burnt out from my soul crushing minimum wage job to make dinner.
I got fired for filing a discrimination lawsuit against my employer for barring me from wearing the kilt I'd worn at least 2-3 times per week for two years. The banning was because they decided it was not "professional attire", but all the yoga pants, miniskirts, and sleeveless dresses are just fine.
There's a lot more to the story including a trip to mental health urgent care and the actual firing call happening while I was on FMLA.
Not using Meta ‘products’
Every time i ride my bike and there is an impatient asshole in a car behind me.
We are in a city, downtown, and the maximum legal speed is 30 kph with pedestrians and other cyclists everywhere, so the fucking carbrain can in fact obey traffic rules for the 2 minutes it takes them for me to reach the next stop and let them overtake.
No need to tailgate me or flash the lights, they wont die from following the rules for a moment. Perhaps they should have left the stupid car at home before going to the most busy and crowded area in town where they cant drive it anyway.
This is obviously in Europe not carland.
Not being on social media (except this one obviously, and generic messaging apps). Missed out on a lot of potential friendships because of not having insta, or snapchat, but it's something I just can't bring myself to do.
EDIT: I wish it was more normalised to share phone numbers instead. It doesn't have to be reserved for dates ffs. However people of younger generations seem to think it's weird or unnatural to ask for someone's phone number etc. Either that or people just used Signal instead - no number required.
You're not missing anything. Those platforms aren't useful for talking to your friends anymore.
KISS — "Keep It Simple, Stupid"
Even when there's more complex software with way more features, I'll keep using the simple shit that works for me.
For example, I'm sure firewalld is great, with more features than something like ufw (maybe more secure?). But, the amount of work to add a single allow exception across the local network is more work than a single command equivalent in ufw. So, I would rather stick to the primitive approach of ufw.
Its another reason why I dont mess with stuff like tiling window managers, NixOS, and certain CLI apps that have GUI frontends. Just keeping it simple, even when it causes issues, simplifies things for me, leading to less manual upkeep from my end.
One time I tried to report a guy who attempted to mug me but I scared him off. The police refused to take a statement cuz as far as they were concerned he didn’t manage to do any harm, except for me it was an attempt. And I was worried that he could hurt someone more vulnerable than myself.
My wife, thinking I'm too careful with our child.
I think I'm (objectively) fairly balanced, maybe leaning towards careful, sure. But really I just want the baby to grow to the point of being able to walk without involuntary nose dives with both eyeballs still intact.
Yes, I think it's too much for the baby to be allowed to run around with that actual kitchen tool in hand. Yes I know the baby loves it, but it's essentially a metal rod. Constantly derails an otherwise good day to speak up, but here to on the baby's behalf.
