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Ruined my relationship with my sister and was never part of my nephews lives because I declined to be their godfather because I'm an atheist. One of the aspects of being a godfather is promising to raise the children in their parents religion if their parents should pass. I told her, unequivocally, I cannot and will not make a promise I know I can't keep, and that's a promise that I could not possibly keep as it goes against my personal views and values. I will not raise your children to be Christian in your absence, and thus I cannot in good faith be their godfather. I thought I was being respectful of her belief by not lying and saying I would do such a thing. My nephews are adults now and I've seen them maybe three times in their lives. Oh well. I don't have any good familial relationships so I guess it doesn't matter. Fucked up families is as fucked up families does. I've always been treated like my life is less valuable by my family since I didn't have children anyway, so fuck it I guess.
You’re just a dick. I’ve never seen a godfather/mother actually do anything beyond confirm they have a good relationship with the parent. Lmao. You saved them by showing who you are, a “reddit atheist.”
You're just an idiot. You think a reasonable reaction on the sister's part is to keep her children from meeting their uncle/aunt? Dumbass take, sister is unhinged, fuck you for judging a situation you know nothing about.
Did OP say that the sister kept them from meeting them? No. I'm sure terminally online atheist didn't go about it as smoothly as your brain.
Only met 3 times. Doesn't say why though.
Dude, the church my family followed was similar. I was asked to sign a document pledging I would do all sorts of things, like raise the kid in the religion if their parents died, also to live a "moral sex life" and resist the evils of gay culture and drugs. I didn't sign and saw it as an act of honesty and respect to explain I couldn't fulfill their request.
If you think so little of other people's religious beliefs that you would lie to become a godparent, you do you.
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If I was in that position, I'd have said the same thing. But my friend wouldn't ask me to do that. And I am godfather to her kids.