8 consecutive gut punches.

Ugh, casual sexism. Look at the bottom of the barrel, and judge an entire gender by the way those behave.

A lot of guys, gay or otherwise, don't think or behave like that. And by your own definition, you're also the worst. Sucks to have that terrible self esteem, but don't lump me up with your self-hating ass

That’s how you end up with the nightmare that seemed really real…or with the next conversation that ends up on Grindr’s Greatest Hits compilation.

If you download Grindr, you too can have an inbox full of poorly lit bathroom dick pics and people asking you if you know where they can get hard drugs!

It’s less a “dating” app, and more a way for “straight” men in denial of their sexuality to find dl fun.

Sounds like you need to work on your profile and set of pics. Many years ago I logged into PoF as a woman and was stunned at how bad the other guy's profiles were.

• Write something humorous, make your post amusing, doesn't have to be LOL funny

• Don't list anything you find unacceptable, too negative

• Don't list anything you have to have in a partner, too demanding

• Post a wide variety of pics, get a couple of your very best, but get some day-to-day pics in there, looks more honest that way

• Also post pics where you're in action, engaged in an activity you like, write about activities you enjoy, show yourself doing those things

• NO: Guns, dead animals, motorcycles, trucks or other vehicles you wish to show off

• No pics that include other women, no matter who they are. I'd try to leave male friends out as well.

• Don't talk about being lonely, wanting to share your life with someone, nothing emotional, sounds needy, that comes later

• No need to come with your life story, they're reading your profile to see if you're an interesting person today, not where you came from

• Do what I did and sign in as the opposite sex (sorry, been assuming you're a man looking for a woman), read their dumb profiles, don't do those things

• Once you get it down, splatter that profile across several websites. You catch more fish with multiple hooks in the water.

• One final note, when you get matches, chat very briefly, ask for the date. Women out there are seriously frustrated with guys that seem to only want to talk, talk, talk. Get that date set before someone bolder asks her out!

Sorry for making so many assumptions. If this doesn't help you, maybe someone else can get use out of it. For context, I was 50-53 and pulling so many dates the neighbors were making fun of me over all the women in and out of here. Also, I'm short and scrawny, non-rich and my vehicles are 20+ years old. :)

Grindr doesn't have matching. You just see a profile you like and message them directly.

That's probably why it actually works.

I met my wife on IRC. Try that!

Grindr doesn't really have a "match" system. You can send a message to anyone whose profile you can see (unless/until they block you). Think of it less like a traditional dating app and more like an interactive billboard of horny people in your area.

Every day is learning day here on lemmy.

make a grindr account and find out.

More gay? More gay than what?

Or mpreg

Do ah look like ah know hwat a jay-peg is?

We need a dedicated image dumps community