Greentext

I think they’re trying to say that he doesn’t even feel like her backup, he’s her backup x times removed. Which kinda undercuts his point a bit, but does set the stage for a complete removal of attraction and the very particular manic ending they wrote for their story

That's how you know its full of incel energy.

Bold of you to think anons story is real and straight

These stories are even more real and true than the real and true stories on r/aita. OP just forgot the part where the crying bald eagle stood up and clapped at the end

I mean... he took his shot with her 5 years ago, was rejected and then stayed friends while she went through all those other guys to then come back around and try to settle for him. I can see how he'd struggle with that. I'd probably feel like a last resort in that situation too. Also I think this story is rage bait so don't get to invested.

It’s pretty clear to me that anon carefully crafted this story, no matter how much of it is actually real, to cast himself in the best possible light and show this woman as evil. It’s telling that in doing so he didn’t even realize that it reflected poorly on him to shame her for having sex with someone who wasn’t him.

But have you considered that anon can't count past 2 so everything else is countless.

He got over his crush and got on with his life. There's nothing evil about that.

Yeah I super get this. Back at the height of the whole "friend zone" thing I had been hanging out with a friend one on one very regularly and began crushing on her, asked her out at some point, she said she needed to focus on other things. A semester or two later, I asked if that had changed due to different circumstances in her life and she gave me a more direct no. She was pretty integrated into my friend group and my feelings were pretty badly hurt because we had been very close. Friends in that group would go on to ask why I'd never asked her out, under the assumption she was interested, and when I did eventually start dating someone else she tried to "talk me up" to that girl in a way that felt like sabotage to me. It's hard to balance those feelings while remaining friends with someone. I was definitely at risk for falling down an incel hole around that time. Glad I didn't

Yep.

Something quite similar happened to me in my twenties. We had a pretty close-knit group of friends in university and in the second year one of the girls started to show signs of romantic interest in me. I was oblivious, of course, so my friends had to point it out for me. I was single and quite unexperienced with dating, so I thought "what the hell, why not?" So we ended up dating and I was starting to slowly fall for her.

Then we went to this student party together and we hung out with people as always. I went for a swim in the pool and when I came back, she came to me, looking extremely happy and said that she had just met this amazing guy and wanted to try things out with him. I stood silent for a few seconds and said "OK, it's cool with me" . She smiled and ran off to her new man.

I got dressed, finished my beer and walked home. It was a long walk, but instead of disappointment and sadness I remember feeling immense relief, as I had just learned what "dodging a bullet" truly meant.

She and the new guy dated for maybe a year, before she lost interest in him - he really was a great guy, right at the start of their relationship he wanted to talk with me and he was genuinely sorry for "stealing my girl". I assured him that I held no grudge and we became friends after she dumped him.

During their dating she quickly drifted out of our circle of friends by her own choice, so I got to keep things pretty much like they were before. I was always friendly towards her when we met and she did likewise. My friends were surprised that I wasn't angry at her, but I told them that this was for the best and that I was happy how things had turned out.

Next year I found a wonderful girlfriend and I was happy. Few years later I happened to meet this "ex" of mine in a work-related seminar. When the seminar ended, I walked to the bus stop and saw her standing there. Turned out that we lived along the same bus route. Then she suddenly said "wouldn't it be nice if you came home with me?" Like, WTF? She knew very well that I had been in a steady relationship for years and she had even met my girlfriend a few times.

She looked at me seductively and said "so, how about it?". I'd known that she wasn't stable, but at that moment I realized how truly fucked up she really was. "No, that's not going to happen now or ever", I said and walked away.

That was the last time I saw her. Few years ago I heard that she had been married twice or thrice before she was 40, and was single again.

I usually prefer AMD but I found it interesting too.

My wife was a huge slut. She's great at sex. Sex is fun!

It's more like he was her last choice and she outright told him that.

Woe

Eh, context. If it's meant without protection, it's a very different story. STDs are still a thing.