shneancy

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[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 11 points 1 hour ago

turnitin once highlighted my page numbering as plagiarism

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 11 points 1 hour ago

nahhh, lootboxes existed before CS:GO or TF2. and neither was supposed to be for kids in the first place! card games like MTG were one of the first mass created to use those mechanics

you know what was supposed to be for kids, had (& still has) lootboxes galore and other predatory monetisation tactics? Wizard101 (2008)

i don't see many people complaining about MtG or Wizard101, but folks love to point out how Gaben did a bad thing by taking something that was already a concept (that people liked) and making it digital, whereby he accidentally created something he could never uncreate

 

there's a million different strategies on how to function well with adhd, and some of them even work. but every single time i encounter the same problem - even if something works and improves my quality of life it's always short lived. i get distracted or something happens that throws me off the rhythm and then- i can't restart.

so now i have a mental library of all those tactics that work and very little motivation to try again, it's going to last a week maybe, and then back to being a mess i go.

is there any way to work against that? any point of view i failed to consider? any tactic that is designed to stick? or just something that doesn't work on an assumption that you need to do it consistently for it to work? (and then feel like a failure once you inevitably stop doing it)

all the tips and tricks i googled fail at this step, no book on adhd that i've read highlights this problem, this can't be just me right?

i'm just so tired

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

vegetable flavoured water? thinnest of broths? realistically, we call it nothing because what would you even do with something that's 15% vegetable puree and 85% water? my only idea would be to add more vegetables to make it into something, or to use it as i'd use regular water to boil other vegetables or make pasta in it

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 39 points 2 days ago (4 children)

seems accurate. if i had bucket of water and there was a single pea and a lone noodle floating in it i sure as heck wouldn't call it soup, or even think that its intentional

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago

we live in a world where people say stuff like that and mean it, the /s is just so for once we can be sure

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 13 points 2 days ago (1 children)

i'm guessing it was a brain shortcut for a "digital zoom lens"

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

it takes some time to learn how and when to safeword. from experience i know that the most common thing stopping someone, both doms and subs, from using them is guilt - they don't want to stop the play when they see the other person is having fun, perhaps it's that?

if i were you i'd try to have that conversation again, try to stress the importance of clear and undeniable consent. how if they want to be treated roughly you need to feel safe doing it, and knowing that they will communicate when they get uncomfortable gives you that safety. but of course, i don't know the whole context of your relationship so i don't know if this would work, all i can do is wish you the best with that!

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 10 points 4 days ago (2 children)

may i introduce you to - safewords & colour checks! :D

establish safewords with your partner, the deafult ones are:

green - keep going i like this

yellow - approaching my limit let's pause

red - stop immediately and proceed to aftercare

at any point during play you can then ask them "colour?" and in a quick and definitive way you get to know how they feel and if it's too much. (this also goes the other way! don't be afraid to safeword as a dom if things get uncomfy for you). this helps a lot with the variety of things you can try out during a scene because it cuts short the worrying if your partner likes it or not, or if they mean the "stop" when they actually want you to keep going.

bdsm is more than just the hot stuff, it's systems and safeties that allow the hot stuff to flourish safely and hot-ly <3

but i get ya, sometimes you want the same thing but a little to the left, and/or to loop the good moment in your mind. nothing wrong with that

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago (1 children)

big difference between someone using a tool to polish an already complete piece of music and someone using a tool to make a piece of music for them

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago (7 children)

may i introduce you to - BDSM. no need to imagine a scene when it's happening! :)

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago

it takes 8 min for your kettle to reach boil? why

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