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Someone just asked the opposite of this question here and I was wondering if there are cases were you're just not interested in something but you know the community is great nonetheless.

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[–] wuzzlewoggle@feddit.org 126 points 2 days ago (4 children)

For me it's Metal music. It's just absolutely not my genre but an overwhelming amount of metalheads I met were just the nicest, most wholesome and fun people all around.

[–] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 50 points 2 days ago (1 children)

We trash and bash in the mosh pitts, and get out our aggression. But if someone falls, you YANK them up. Many times I've fallen, and then suddenly felt myself lifted high into the air by the hand of god. Then I can see who lifted me, and it turns out it wasn't god. It was a long haired, bearded, tattood muscleman. Which makes sense. I'm like 300lbs. If you're suddenly yanking me up effortlessly, you're a big muscle man. And then there's other times I see women fall. I yank them up. I'm doing the right thing, I KNOW I'm doing the right thing, but the whole time I'm just like "Sorry sorry sorry sorry." because you don't aim where you grab. You grab and yank up, by whatever you can. You don't want the pitt to come her way and stomp her head, not knowing she exists down there. So yank, but also "Sorry sorry sorry sorry". I've yet to have any women mad at me for doing it, they get it, but MAN it feels weird just grabbing a woman like that.

Pushing, shoving, looks like a massive fist fight but it's all love. We're trusting them with our life. They're trusting us with theirs. We all get super violent, and have a good time. Then the show lets out, and we're like "Oh, you wanna go get some late night eats? Anyone know a good gyro spot?", and we're just friendly for the rest of the day. We're like the Canadians of music genres. Violent when we play, and friendly the rest of the time.

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[–] HoneyMustardGas@lemmy.world 26 points 2 days ago (3 children)

There is research and papers showing that heavy music in general can actually be therapeutic and make someone calmer, rather than the perceived opposite effect. It can be a great outlet. I listen to metal, heavy music, all the time but when I have used it as a coping mechanism, i.e. an outlet for stress, it has definitely allowed me to release such tension. Not only that, but singing/screaming to vocals along to the music surely does release all of energy, and while there are outsiders who might perceive the music as 'angry' the incorrect connection they're making is that anger is an energetic emotion, as in unreleased energy/tension. Metal isn't angry music, it is energetic. That is why it makes such good workout music. It stimulates and satisfies that part of our lives, letting us be some of the 'nicest, most wholesome and fun people all around'.

[–] LandedGentry@lemmy.zip 8 points 2 days ago

You’re all in it together. That’s just the whole vibe

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[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 24 points 2 days ago

Metal Heads will absolutely be your best friends in time of need. Need help moving a body, no questions asked? Call your metal friend.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago

That's funny. That was the first thing that popped in my head. I don't know how to pronounce any of your favorite Scandinavian bands' names, but I think we'll get along just fine.

[–] ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml 71 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Furries are cool people ~~and the backbone of modern society~~

[–] Lv_InSaNe_vL@lemmy.world 62 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This. To be clear I have absolutely no problem with furries existing and I believe anything less than letting y'all be would be tantamount to treason.

But God damn I just cannot understand it. I don't get it. And it weirds me out.

Like I said, I would actually fight to defend your right to wear your fur suit out in public. But I'm also going to make fun of you because man it's just weird.

Although I did have a coworker (I work in IT so this isn't actually that surprising) who was a furry and he tried to meow at me one time when I called his name. Don't do that. That was weird. Just tell me what you did to fix the computer man.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 10 points 2 days ago

Although I did have a coworker (I work in IT so this isn't actually that surprising) who was a furry and he tried to meow at me one time when I called his name. Don't do that. That was weird. Just tell me what you did to fix the computer man.

He did. What you don't understand is that meowing at the problem is often the solution. If meowing doesn't work, try barking.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I was never into furry stuff, but I hung out with an online furry community way back in 2006. Furries are cool. Furryism is just not for me.

Same, lots of great people and a nice community. As a whole, they're very accepting folks too and have no problems with the respectful non-furs.

[–] blackstampede@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago

I like furries because I appreciate modern technology. If all the furries went to lunch at the same time, we'd be eating each other in the streets before they made it to the diner.

[–] OldManBOMBIN@lemmy.world 71 points 2 days ago (7 children)

Lesbians. Hate that they aren't into me, but damnit I get it.

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[–] LouNeko@lemmy.world 56 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Books. I'm dyslexic as fuck but heavy readers are mostly chill people.

[–] Plum@lemmy.world 21 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Did you ever get into audio books? It's nice to have someone else read to you at bedtime or during a commute.

[–] null_dot@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Ooohh ooh audio books are my bag baby yeah.

Podcasts too.

It's all about timbre and accent. I could listen to the right voice read the phone book.

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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 44 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (5 children)

I am not a fan of the hardcore heavy/death metal music itself; but the metalheads are awesome people. The more unintelligible and scary/evil sounding the music, the nicer the crowd. It's weird and cool and funny.

[–] Tujio@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Metalheads. The nicest people in the world cosplaying as the toughest.

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[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 32 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (5 children)

Smokers. They have decades of being able to strike up an angry conversation in a street with an absolute stranger, whilst never letting it escalate, because, fuckit, brotherhood of smokers.

Plus a healthy appreciation of nature. Sure you can smoke and look at your phone, but you still have to be outside and that means glancing up from time to time to look at the scenery, the night sky, to wave at your neighbours, etc.

Good people smokers, filthy habit.

(Vapers dont count, cos you can't really share a vape concurrently. Also a lot of them take pride in their devices which I find weird. Real smokers have a decent sense of self-hatred at their habit)

[–] tomi000@lemmy.world 31 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

Not sure what kind of smokers you meet. The ones I have to deal with blow cancer in my face right next to children, get aggressive when I ask them not to, spit on the floor every 5s, throw their still lit cigs into trash bins or into nature and cant stop coughing on the train.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago

Those are just assholes who happen to smoke

There's some in every crowd.

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[–] Tiger@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Fuck yeah, I miss it. Smokers are my people. Risk takers, nihilists, indulgers, hedonists, adventurers, rebels, fun-havers… but I’ve gotten domesticated and want to live a long and clean life. Sigh.

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[–] AwesomeLowlander@sh.itjust.works 30 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Not particularly into guys, but I love women who are into them.

[–] Discoverthemind@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago (12 children)

I have always been a liberal leftist but I actually really enjoy being around old school, fiscally conservative Republicans, when they aren't talking about politics. They tend to be softies on the inside - they value strength and tradition and care deeply for their communities and families; often more directly demonstrating that care than liberals tend to. They also don't accept the victim mentality and tend to shoot straight with their words, and can be hilariously harsh. They are responsible and tend to follow through with their commitments.

The problem is, I can't really stand being around them because they can't help themselves bringing up the dumbest opinions of all time and they typically don't like digging into fact based thinking.

Same now as 20 years ago, when they would say shit like, "pretty cold out today - don't seem like global warming to me! Hahaha" etc etc

[–] Big_Boss_77@lemmynsfw.com 7 points 1 day ago

TIL 20 years ago is 2000... not the 60s... fml

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[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 21 points 2 days ago (3 children)

My wife is a huge Rush fan. I've been to two concerts, I don't get it. It's loud, it's screechy, I can't understand the lyrics, but they're her favorite band.

Bought her the "Rush 50" set for our anniversary next month:

https://www.rushbackstage.com/product/6XAMRU303/r50-backstage-exclusive-super-deluxe-edition

She tolerates my taste:

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_nU_JDbqfgfN7-xDYOi2lzyoC9cjh7ajq4

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_liRnR3E2H7SpBrYXT-3CJye3snP3P3w5g

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[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

One that’s less relevant now, but throughout my life has been relevant: Juggalos.

I was a big metalhead in school, and i had a bunch of juggalo friends. I liked a couple of their songs well enough, but I found the “culture” grating. Still, those mothafuckas were the most accepting and tolerant people I knew. Tolerant of anyone’s way of life, except they fucking hated bigots. In the 90s, being accepting of queer peeps really wasn’t in vogue (to put it lightly) but juggalos welcomed queer peeps as friends with open arms.

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[–] ryathal@sh.itjust.works 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Grand strategy games aren't for me, but I love reading the insane stories from CKII and Dwarf Fortress.

[–] superkret@feddit.org 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

CK2 and DF aren't grand strategy games, they're story generators.

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[–] Corno@lemm.ee 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I'm not into other girls, but I've got lesbian friends who are great! 😃

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[–] HoneyMustardGas@lemmy.world 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Marijuana Aficionados. I've been straight edge my entire life but always hung out with them. Now, it is more common since legal restrictions have been lifted. The community in general is well, chill.

[–] Plum@lemmy.world 15 points 2 days ago (8 children)

My dad gave me advice a hundred years ago, and it's probably a George Carlin bit or something, but there's a difference in philosophy between drunks and stoners. A drunk will pound a beer, or sip from a personal flask, or bring their own six pack to a party. A stoner's first impulse is to light a joint and find someone to pass it off to. It's communal, and it brings others into the circle, where alcohol is isolating. Obviously it's a generalization, but it sort of fits.

[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 11 points 2 days ago

Real stoners always load a full bowl.

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[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 16 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Sex. Neurodivergent/nerd social circles often have a lot of kink/BDSM and otherwise sex positive people, so my friends group is pretty open about sex.

I’m on the asexual spectrum and would rather forget that sex is a thing, but I love my friends and as long as everyone is consenting and safe, I’m happy for them. I sometimes get awkward when sex convos happen around me, but hey, I get awkward with many other convos too.

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[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Boardgaming. I play an occasional boardgame with my friends, but I'm not searching youtube clips for strategies, importing first-print Euro games in the original German and printing English-language stickers for the boards, or watching Essen livestreams every year.

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[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 13 points 2 days ago

I don't like to dress in a slutty outfit and go out in the public

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Pineapple on pizza. You're wrong and I wanna fight you but we can still be friends and have a good time over drinks.

[–] Trail@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago (3 children)

No I am not wrong. And I can raise you with pineapple on burger.

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 6 points 2 days ago

Grilled pineapple on a burger.

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[–] theacharnian@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 day ago (9 children)
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[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 days ago

Punk/Emo Style

[–] VirtigoMommy@sh.itjust.works 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Metal and punk music, not my style but def my scene

Skateboarding/ bmx/ rollerblades / scooters- have a fucked up knee so I don’t like to anymore but I love the energy the crowd brings

Street racing- car scene is dying and wifey doesn’t let me any more 🙃

Graffiti art- I’m just bad at it

Furries - not my thing but they’re fun folks

Larping / roleplay/ dnd - same

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[–] AnthropomorphicCat@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I FUCKING HATE ketchup. I can't tolerate the taste or the texture. But I recognize that people that love ketchup are not evil, just misguided.

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[–] stinky@redlemmy.com 9 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Surprising from a user named stinky. I guess you're more the type who don't frown when you go down to brown town.

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Eggs. Never much liked eggs outside of scrambled or omelets and I only really tolerate those but I know pretty much everyone else likes them so 🤷

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