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This sounds true for men but I feel like being an attractive woman likely puts a target on you from a bunch of people you have no interest in

Probably, but being stupid is a worse curse than being ugly.

you can dress nicely and get a good haircut. you don't need to commit to being unattractive.

I think this is at least partially true, in that if you had two identical people and one was more attractive, that one would have increased benefits over the other.

This is my (male) perspective: I think an important part is to feel attractive and emit that confidence. Attractiveness can also be material things like how you dress, carry and style yourself as well as managing your personal hygiene and all those things.

I think a moderately attractive person with a lot of charisma and humour would get a lot further than an attractive person. I think an attractive person without humour or charisma, maybe even a shy person, would possibly not go all that far based on their appearance.

There are literally some negatives to being extremely attractive. Attractive men get unwanted advances, too - they're probably less likely to get outright raped than women, but very few people like to be sexually touched by people they aren't interested in, and that's definitely a thing that women do, too. And given the choice, I'd definitely prefer to be hired or promoted on merit, instead of because my boss wants to fuck me.

I'm physically attractive, but I don't have a lot of friends. Never have. I was always the weird kid at school, not because of my looks, but because I thought differently.

I think in reality it's a lot more about what you make out of your own existence. The young people you have doing so well that are attractive seem like they are so successful because of it, because we envy them. But I assure you, even they are missing something. No such thing as a complete person.

My sibling is also physically attractive (why they always gotta be our off-looking mirrors). He was bullied in school. As he hit around 17 though, he managed to pull himself out of it with the help of his friends (literally laid next to one of em in the hospital after birth) and is now one of the most charming people I know.

I'd much rather be socially more competent at my age and be ugly, I'll tell you that much.

And before anyone says I'm one to talk, I haven't actually thought of myself as attractive until like age 22. Took a good bit distancing from teenage years to realize it. People were still cruel to me.

Maybe I'm a gloomy person in a very unfortunate part of the world, but it's wild to me that someone thinks like that and not think immediately in sexual violence, kidnapping, human trafficking, etc. The standard of beauty near me is whiteness, of course, and beautiful white girls disappear a lot more than they should given the percentage they are among the population. Yes, I'm close to a sexual trafficking hot spot.

And for men there's less danger but it's also not perfect. Nobody's safe in the times being...

And it doesn't have to be crime, regular people often get a grudge over those things! Envy and resentment are powerful emotions. Also, there will always be the assumption that life was indeed easier for you and that you don't deserve the fruits of your efforts. These ones may seem like trivial social conflicts but, in a psychologically vulnerable person, they can be crushing. (Let's say, a guy loses his friends because they're all musicians and they think he got an offer unfairly because of his looks and they think he's some kind of "sell-out" or poser, but maybe our guy has been dealing with depression already and now he's mega depressed).

It's probably easier in average, but... yeah, the world is big and there are a lot of contexts.

I don't like money nor I'm overly interested in it, but it's probably the cheat-code this person is thinking about. People with money can fake their looks (surgeries are crazy these days), can buy popularity, can buy careers, can buy many many things. If you don't care about authenticity and only care about the results or the appearance, money is the answer. Just be an aware narcissist and know your limits. For example, if you buy a position of power in the tech industry, but are not very smart, do not give a complicated conference or you'll show the truth (e.g., Elon Musk and the dozen of times he's been exposed as a pretender, even in games).

Yeah...

True. But I'd argue having money is way worse. Doesn't even matter if you're ugly as shit, people will always try to rent an apt in your arse. At least when they know you're loaded. Then it's game over. Can't trust anyone anymore. Ever.

Probably in the future, they will gene manipulate every kid so they all look like models.

Disagree. It is definitely one of the traits that make life much easier. Being wise is the biggest advantage.

Popularity is a curse, and the fix for a fair economic life is anti-capitalism

Capitalism will exploit people's qualities, if that is looks, they will exploit that too

I ain't terrible to look at these days, but I was quite attractive in my youth. But I'll tell you what, being raised by right wing religious nutjobs can fuck up even that advantage. I'm better now, but I used to be incel adjacent.