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This one hits a little too close to home...

Also, the word you're looking for might be "abusive" rather than "strict".

• How to be attentive to one's surrounds
• How To project effort
• conflict resolution
• Extemporaneous creative modeling

My parents were strict about things that didn't matter. They taught swear words and being gay was bad but never taught me anything about surviving life or making money or managing hobbies or anything having to do with self growth or independence.

They limited my ability to grow. Along with society at the time and then blamed me when for it when I became an adult and was socially dysfunctional.

It's weird... If you're not teaching your kids no one really is. They'll end up learning from entertainment or people taking advantage of them. But still people have kids like it's a set it and forget it process and then blame the kid/person for not knowing x thing.

As the other person said, it really depends on what people mean by "strict".

My parents were "strict" in that they enforced a bed time. Now I have better than average sleeping habits. So that worked out.

But I've also read about "strict" parents that, like, take doors off their kids rooms, or read the kids private messages, or other nightmares

There's a difference between strict and abusive.

These are all invaluable survival skills, NGL.

It's the resulting FFF hairtrigger readiness that's fucking hell on the psyche, though.

strict ≠ abusive

I had a wonderful combination of “strict” but also “there aren’t actually rules.”

I could have handled even unreasonable expectations if they had been communicated. But there was no structure at all.

I could ask permission to do something, do it, and then have that permission retroactively revoked. I could have an entirely normal day without anything seeming off, then be grounded for a week because there were dishes in the sink or something.

It never made any sense.

Ok but tbf those are all great skills to have

Anecdotal observation from college: Lots of people got hammered on a weekend, at least sometimes, but the people who couldn't draw a line and keep it from destroying their grades were mostly the ones whose parents kept them rigidly controlled at home. It seemed like those folks had no practice in drawing their own lines because their parents always drew the lines for them, so when they were on their own they went nuts. The preacher's daughter is a cliche with a lot of truth.

Btw, is there any laws against pissing on a grave, just wanna prepare for when my parents die.

That's not strict, that's abusive.

Depends on what you mean by "strict". I think the meme is about the parents who get angry over little things but don't actually pay attention to their kids much - the ones who just assume that their kids would not dare to misbehave. However when I was in high school, I also saw plenty of kids (often immigrants) who had successfully been taught to work pretty much non-stop. I think their parents watched them (or at least their grades) closely enough that they couldn't have gotten away with anything. It seemed to work well - they got straight A's, never got in trouble, and went to prestigious universities. I can't think of a single one I knew who burned out or rebelled (while in high school - I don't know what happened to them afterwards). However, the ones I got to meet were already filtered, with the low- and medium-achievers not admitted to that school.

Perfect training for a lifetime of unfulfilling work for insecure bosses!

What is strict? When I was a kid that was a wooden spoon or a belt. Across the backside or hands. As well as a long list of chores. The strap still hung on the wall of the principal's office at school as a warning but didn't get used anymore. Mostly suspensions and expulsions were the flavor of the day.

I got called a strict parent on Lemmy not so long ago because we limit screen time in our house to an hour a day with some exceptions. Our kids walk to town alone at 10 years old though (2 km one way) and have the knowledge and awareness to manage on their own. We trust them and they in turn make mostly good choices. They are kids after all.

I've become so used to it that now I lie to any sort of authority figure or any authority adjacent figure out of habit.

My mom was barely there on medication and my father just wasn't. It was cool to be able to do whatever I wanted, but I had to make sure Mom fell asleep on her side.

So basically how to operate in most of the jobs I've ever had