wizardbeard

Slap a fur shader on it and ship it!

They can't leave, they can't opt-out.

If you're going to be this pessimistic about simply existing as a human being, it's worth noting that this is absolutely false. There are plenty of ways to opt-out permanently, and some of them are even peaceful.

Less darkly, there are communes and mutual aid communities and the like. Some even arguably self-sufficient.

Beyond that, if you truly feel existence is that fucking bleak, do you really think it helps to spread this shit to people who might otherwise be happily ignorant to it? Or are you content just making the collective experience of existence worse by putting this out into the world? Explicitly desiring to bring others down with you into the pit because you haven't grown enough to find life worth living and enjoying anyway.

My wife and I had a daughter with her at 45 and myself at 31. We had to use IVF, and in the end, donor eggs. So it is possible, despite the age. You're probably in a better situation biologically with him being the older one.

That said: don't have a kid if you just think it might be nice.

Kids aren't some sort of casual addition to the existing patterns of your life. They disrupt almost all of them. They are hard work, take up more time than anyone without could imagine. You can't just put them to the side and deal with them later when it's convenient for you. They need you when you're sick, when you're having a bad day, when you're grieving the death of a loved one, when you haven't had your coffee and are still waking up, when you're just trying to get some sleep, when you're hung over, when you're trying to cook, when you're trying to clean, when you're trying to get five minutes to yourself to take a shit, when the last thing you want to do is deal with a kid.

They are 100% reliant on you for years. They need to be taught everything, and I mean everything. Basic stuff like "don't bite people because you wouldn't like being bit" isn't intuitive. They will fight against you trying to get them to do something they enjoy. They will break things that are important to you. They will push boundaries intentionally and unintentionally.

And you need to handle all of your shit and all of their shit, and still have energy to handle them with kindness, near infinite patience, understanding, and with an eye for their learning and growth. You at least need to strive for this outcome, and hit it the overwhelming majority of the time. No one is perfect, but you have to strive to be for them, especially early on.

It's exhausting. It is one of the most gratifying things in the world. Just don't do it unless you're 100% sure you want to sign yourself up for it.

But look, at the end of the day, there are people having kids older than you two, and grandparents having to take sole guardianship over kids as well. You can do this, if it's something you both want.

Not much of a metal head, but the whole Nonagon Infinity album by King Gizzard and the Lizard Wizard is great. Also their album PetroDragonic Apocalypse.

What got me even slightly into metal, and stays mainstays on my playlists, are the albums Black Hole Space Wizard Parts 1 and 2 by Howling Giant. Cannot reccomend those enough. Also, their album The Space Between Worlds is great too, but isn't like one long story.

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I think part of the issue is that after winning on the platform of "change", Democrats veered hard into "establishment status quo". They won so hard that most people don't even recall the few bad parts of the Obama presidency at all (the point of my last comment, that it wasn't all sunshine and roses), and then threw that lead in the trash.

They had a chance with Sanders, but threw away an absurd amount of public goodwill by very openly pushing him out of the running in favor of Clinton. That effectively left Trump as the only candidate carrying the "change" flag, and a lot of people were too dumb to see he was full of shit.

When Democrats had a chance again, they went with another "establishment safe" choice and only won with Biden due to an immense outcry against Trump. Then they lost again because they wouldn't platform someone people were willing to get out to vote for.

If we get out of this shitshow, I'll be very interested in what history says about the last few presidential races.

Check the communities on lemmy.sdf.org, there's some for gopher and gemini.

Glad I only have two of their "dumb" switches then.

You may not have been paying close attention. Obama was astoundingly better than Trump, but invasive spying on citizens was allpwed to remain legal under his watch, and he extended what was allowed. Drone striking questionable targets started under him as well. There's more, but those two are the highlights usually brought up.

Guess what? They're trying to find a way to ban trans folks from owning firearms.

St. Jude, the research hospital that made this discovery, is in the US.

It depends. I agree with your take about engineering jobs taking time to get up to speed on, but you also need to balance it with not having a gap.

Personally, for it being a current job I would list it. Five months may not be enough to get up to speed, but it's definitely long enough to identify a bad fit, and I wouldn't want hiring managers to go "So what were you doing for the last half a year?".

I'd also stay in the job while job hunting. Most job markets are absolutely fucked right now. Thousands of applicants for every posting.

Once it drops down in-between longer jobs, I would drop it down to maybe a single line of title, employer, start and end date. Eventually it's more about the skills demonstrated in relation with the jobs than the jobs themselves, so a single line note to indicate you weren't unemployed is fine.

Companies can get weird when they get the idea you can survive for months with no income. They don't like the idea that you could easily walk off.