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Couple examples from personal experience:

Spicy Food

I didn't like spicy food for a (relatively) long time until I was 25.

2/4 of my roommates did. We'd order two pizzas, one spicy and one not. But the asshats who liked spicy would eat half the non-spicy pizza first knowing the other one was safe from us.

Well... we'd see about that!

I bought a jar of pickled little yellow banana peppers. At first all I could manage was a tiny little bit of one. But I had that tiny little bite every evening, every day. Eventually my tolerance grew until I was eating a whole one, then multiples. In a few weeks I realized I was crunching through them and loving it. (Didn't love the first time I overindulged and found out what goes in can still burn going out, oof, lol.)


Beer

First time I had beer I did the movie-style stereotypical spit-take. Tasted like something I'd never want again. I drank when I was 18-19yrs old but it was usually Smirnoff Ice or some other "bitch-pop" as was said at the time by those around me.

When I was in my early 20s I supervised for a company that had us do a lot of traveling. Particularly three months of the year I was in a hotel more than at home.

There was a consistent crew of people who lived in a town nearby that I saw fairly frequently for those three months but not too often elsewise. As I said I was in my early 20s, 21-23ish. And they were in their late 20s to mid thirties.

They were inveterate drinkers, and they loved beer. And they undertook a self-imposed mission to teach me to love beer too. Them being older and me being impressionable, I went with it.

Every evening after work we'd hit up the local pub and I'd order three beers, based off their recommendations. One was an inveterate drinker as mentioned, the other a mid-thirties redheaded British woman I grew rather fond of and who was rather fond of me, along with some other crew. Basically, people who knew beer and in the case of the brit, someone who I would've listened to for a few reasons.

Didn't take too long but I certainly "acquired" a taste for it. Eventually acquiring my own preferences to the point I was recommending them ideas.

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[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 44 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I found out that a lot of stuff I thought I didn't like was because it wasn't made very well

[–] snooggums@piefed.world 27 points 2 days ago (2 children)

So many people hate vegetables because they were raised on bland and over cooked soggy plant matter.

Roasted veggies are so fucking good.

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[–] Beebabe@lemmy.world 23 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Yes for black coffee and tapioca pearls, as well as hot food because good lord the dopamine is so nice.

And in reverse I’ve conditioned myself to be disgusted by alcohol.

[–] tigeruppercut@lemmy.zip 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Beebabe@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Sorry, I mean like adding a ton of spices. Make my mouth fight for its life a bit before a ton of flavor. So good.

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[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 days ago

Yeah I hate the pearls, my wife loves them.

Black cofee can be really great from a good place. Mink Cafe was the best black coffee I've had, where milk took away from it.

[–] Grimm665@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I had almost the reverse with coffee. I always liked the smell of coffee but not really the taste. Then my family bought a Nespresso machine when i was in high school, and i started adding espresso shots to hot chocolate. Then i started occasionally making espresso shots and drinking them straight. Then several years later i found myself in a hotel for work, at 6am before a shift, and they automatically brought me black coffee. I took one sip and was like "oh i guess i like coffee now" and never looked back. Yep, regular old hotel breakfast coffee got me hooked.

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[–] Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world 16 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (8 children)

Coffee. I really wanted to be able to enjoy black coffee, cuz it smells so deceptively good, is cheap as fuck, and basically zero calorie. Except it tastes like concentrated dirt. Bitter. Acrid. None of the appeal promised by the smell makes its way to the taste.

Unless I acquire the taste!

Typically my coffee has a similar cream and sugar content to a milkshake, so I actually measured it out to get a baseline, then over the course of about two months phased down to just black coffee. ...and over the course of two months, my coffee phased more and more into tasting like shit. But I tolerated it - eyes on the prize. After that, I spent another month drinking it black. At the end of that month, I finally accepted that black coffee tasted just as much like shit as it did on day one.

My coffee is back to resembling a milkshake... fuck.

I tried.

New hypothesis: there's some kind of generic factor at play like there is with cilantro. That shit is delicious to some and absolutely vile to others, and no amount of trying to acquire it will flip that switch. I drew the short straw on that horrid plant, too.

[–] FrederikNJS@sopuli.xyz 6 points 2 days ago

Bitterness in coffee comes from overextraction, acidity in coffee often comes from underextraction.

On top of that darker roasts tend to be more bitter, and lighter roasts tend to be more acidic.

The main problem is usually the wrong grind size and brew method.

Grinding the coffee too coarsely makes it hard to extract flavours, leading to underextraction (sourness). Grinding too finely makes it easier to extract flavours (both desirable and undesirable) leading to overextraction (bitterness)

Regular coffee makers, pour over, and espresso are all percolation brews. That means that the water flows through the coffee and extracts flavours while it does these kinds of brews can develop channels while the water flows through, which causes the water to overextract the coffee where the channel is, but underextract the rest of the coffee, which can lead to a brew that is at the same time sour (underextracted) and bitter (overextracted)

The other general method of brewing is immersion brewing. This is where the coffee and the water hangs around for a while during the brew, and is then strained away from each other. Good examples are French press, aeropress, siphon, and cold brew. Since these methods can't really develop channels, you don't have the same problem with over and underextraction, and therefore these methods are also much easier to "get right".

So if you want an easy method too get better tasting coffee, try a French press, and be careful grinding too finely. If there's a layer of silt at the bottom of your cup you are grinding too finely. Pregroud coffee is usually too fine for French press.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

I had a similar journey.. adding a splash of coffee to my cream and sugar slurry 😂

What did it for me was experimenting with different beans, brewing methods, and grinding fineness/coarseness before finding a combo that tasted rather sweet on its own.

My new problem is that I don't enjoy coffee made elsewhere clownface.jpg

[–] Butterpaderp@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What kind of coffee are you drinking? See if there's a local brand or cafe to try. Some coffee brands are usually much worse when they don't have additives to hide the flavor (ex, Starbucks)

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[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

Try doing lattes then americano's with cream, then drop the cream. If you can do americano's it's a baby step above black coffee, and when you get a black coffee just accept that it's shittier than an Americano, but OK more or less.

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[–] heyWhatsay@slrpnk.net 13 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Kombucha, the first couple bottles taste like fizzy vinegar, but then I got hooked on it. I was trying to get my gut microbes in a healthier zone.

[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I worked at a health food store in college. I thought the people who drank that stuff were nuts til enough vendors came by with free samples. Free shit to a college kid is irresistible. By the time I quit that job I was drinking 1 a day, sometimes more. Additionally, I preferred the weird multi green one to the fruity ones (those were for noobs obviously). I still grab one from time to time, but them not being 5 feet away from me 40 hours a week put a real damper on my consumption of them.

[–] tigeruppercut@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Ridiculously easy and cheap to make your own booch I'd you get the craving

[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I feel like it'd make my house smell awful tho

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[–] railway692@piefed.zip 12 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I tried and failed with blue cheese.

Every year, I try again and fail a different way.

[–] snooggums@piefed.world 11 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Blue cheese is best as an addition to something else, like on a burger or salad. By itself or on a cracker it can be very overwhelming because of the strong flavor.

If you tried it those kinds of ways then it might not be your thing.

[–] railway692@piefed.zip 5 points 2 days ago

One year, I tried different varieties. The next, I tried walnuts and honey.

Maybe 2026 will be the year of blue cheese burgers.

[–] Ashenlux@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The first time I tried gorgonzola was on a buffalo chicken pizza at the pizza place I used to work at. They used franks wing sauce for the chicken. The vinagery spice mixed with the creamy funk of the gorgonzola is amazing to my taste buds. (Which is weird because I am generally a picky eater and it sounds like something I would hate) So maybe try it with chicken wings or on a buffalo chicken pizza.

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[–] sik0fewl@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

Same here. I'm not a very picky eater at all, but I can't seem to eat blue cheese and it's not for lack of trying.

[–] breezeblock@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Not that you *have * to succeed — but have you tried it with honey and apples?

[–] railway692@piefed.zip 3 points 1 day ago

Not yet, but it sounds like a promising strat.

[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

I’ve never been a fan of mushrooms. I did attempt to tolerate them though.

Turns out, canned mushrooms are the problem. Those are basically large boogers and not fit for human consumption. Fresh mushrooms don’t have much flavor and I’m relatively indifferent to those. They are now just something I chop up with onion and garlic sometimes now.

[–] HurricaneLiz@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I've tried so hard with celery and onions. Turns out I like the flavors just fine, it's the textures I can't handle. So I just have to chop them up into the tiniest pieces so they don't squeak when I bite down. Food shouldn't squeak when I bite down.

[–] Thedogdrinkscoffee@lemmy.ca 9 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

The cheese curds in poutine must squeek when you bite down.

[–] HurricaneLiz@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Haahaha, ew, no! J/k, thanks for letting me know something I should never try 😂💜

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[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I still barely fuck with raw onions, but grilled onions are great, and were the gateway drug to my appreciation for Onions in general. When I was a kid, I'd pick them out of everything. Had a burger unknowingly with grilled onions. Shit changed my life. Started to appreciate the flavor and even incorporate it into my cooking. Now, most things I cook have onions in them in some way, shape or form.

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[–] Hoimo@ani.social 5 points 2 days ago (2 children)

A squeaky onion is an undercooked onion imo, same for celery and carrots. I give those vegetables a big headstart on everything else. They're basically impossible to overcook and their best flavors come out when they're soft through and through.

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Onions can have all kinds of textures and tastes depending on the type, condition and cooking method you use. Try raw red onions in a salad or caramelized for half an hour to put on a burger. Also I suggest removing the first layer (after the skin) as it's often tougher than the rest.

[–] khannie@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Tried and succeeded: Guinness. Nom nom nom.

Tried and failed: black tea and black coffee

[–] Iunnrais@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

Funnily enough, Guinness was the first beer I ever liked, and I liked it first try. I greatly dislike most other beers. Which makes sense to me, given that most people who like other beers can’t stand Guinness.

[–] Dalacos@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Coffee is another example I could go into actually. Did not like it the first time I tried it. "Acquired" a taste for it too, given my grandmother owned a café that I'd eventually work in, lol. That was fairly easy.

But I also eventually tried to acquire a taste for black coffee too. Succeeded in the sense I can have it and don't hate it, but failed in the sense that I now know I vastly prefer my coffee with a bit of sugar a lot of cream.

Still, was informative. (I'm a 'texture' kind of person more than flavour and I like that creamy texture.)

Most days now I mix instant coffee with hot chocolate and cream in the mornings for a pseudo-mocha that's quick and easy. Can't be arsed to brew it. (Most days.)

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

Yes. I tried mangoes every year untill I liked them, avocado too. Raw tomatoes I keep trying, can tolerate, can't like.

Last year I made a deal with my coworker, who is a wine person but such a picky eater he went to Japan and just ate chicken tenders, same in the middle east. I told him if he honestly tried eating new foods I would try wines. He found some foods he likes, and I found I like dry elegant white wines (nothing sweet) and most wines made of Nebbiolo grapes, like instead of just sort of holding my nose and tolerating them, I can affirmatively like them .

I truly believe a wide palate is a positive quality, I gave my kids lots of different tasting foods when they were little and that helped them to enjoy more flavors. I think technically I'm picky (have strong likes and dislikes) but like so, so many foods it's not limiting. And yes, I do try to like some of the foods I don't.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Agree with beer. Now I'm slightly snobbish about beer, but it's still generally not my favorite. Stella Midnight Lager and Yeungling Black & Tan are really good though.

I used to have to drink hard stuff to get drunk enough not to taste the beer. But eventually I got there.

Other than that... not really. When I was growing up, I hated tomatoes and onions. In the army, calories were calories. Throw everything on that salad. Now I like them. But it wasn't really voluntary and I didn't set out with that goal.

[–] lonlazarus@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 2 days ago

Same, beer. Although once I took to it, it became my favorite. I decided I was going to learn to like it for social reasons; if you're going to bars, it's just easier and more economical to get some beer on draft. So I attended a monthly beer tour at a local brewery that also owned a restaurant. They toured their brewery, gave samples of all their beers along with whatever seasonals they were making. Then they did appetizers with beer pairings that they loved that may not have been their own. At some point, a flip just switched and I learned to love it, and not just as an easy cheap choice when going out.

[–] Dalacos@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It actually turned out to be my favourite form of liquor now.

Never would've guessed I'd turn into a bit of a beer snob given that first ridiculous spit-take, but here I am craving witbeirs, hefeweizens, wheat ales, lambics, refermented, Trappist, or my biggest weakness, particularly good sour beers like tart fruit or a Flanders red or even a dark sour that's one of the best beers I've ever had. (Commensurately has one of the best beer labels I've ever seen.)

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[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 day ago

Wine. I've never been much of a wine person, and I prefer beer with my food, but at some restaurants and events, the food is usually paired well with a wine. Because of this I tried to actually like it, and I am now at the point where I can enjoy white wine that isn't too sweet.

[–] matchaotter@lemmy.zip 5 points 2 days ago

When I started college, I still had somewhat of a picky palette. Would pick a lot off my meals and stick to safer foods. My partner at the time started coercing me to try foods or ingredients I didn't like, for example sliced raw tomato on a deli sandwich. This ended up working very well for many things: tomato, broccoli, cauliflower, pineapple, and a few others. This could've been attributed to me "growing up" or finally being exposed to better preparations than what I had before college, but I like to think she had the largest influence.

The only one that wouldn't work is pickles. Couldn't stand them despite liking cucumbers and vinegar. For all other foods, I'd forcibly eat them until one day I'd form a "craving", somewhat Stockholm syndrome-ing myself. Pickles never worked. At least, not for 9 years from when this venture began. During this past August, while grocery shopping I finally got my craving so I bought a jar and finished it within 2 days.

Next up, maybe red wine or beer.

[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I did it with black licorice. We were on a road trip and it was the only snack we had left

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Coconut water. I didn’t care for the taste but liked its ability to hydrate. Just kept drinking until now I sorta enjoy the taste. Has to be chilled though. Warm coconut water is nope. 

[–] zlatiah@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Quite a few!

  • Spicy food: didn't grow up in a spicy-loving part of the world but tried a lot of Indian food in college and decided to just upping the spice level. I can handle some pretty extreme stuff, which always comes as a surprise when I meet Southern Chinese ppl
  • Coffee: turns out it was less of an issue with my tolerance and just that I needed a good setup and locally-roasted beans
  • Beer: surprisingly easy to get into, similar to coffee I just needed high-quality beer. I prefer the fruity ones over blondes/browns/pils though
  • K-pop: unwillingly, because I play a "K-pop" game... I think I'm starting to get the appeal now though
[–] bitchkat@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

I worked very hard to like beer when I was in high school. It didn't help that I was "borrowing" warm Old Milwaukee from my dad's case in the basement.

[–] mika_mika@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Bud Ice. It's $1 a can of 5.5% beer and I'm in poverty. Gotta drink something, so I made myself tolerate the cheapest.

[–] FridaySteve@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

Gotta drink something

Nah

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[–] BzzBiotch@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Music fan here. Pretty eclectic but mostly leaning towards metal and prog. The melodic kind.

Currently experimenting with deathcore like Lorna shore and stuff. Just to see what the fuss is about and if I can find something beautiful in it.

[–] Dozzi92@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Do you like bands that you need to acquire the ability to read their names on event posters?

I'm into hardcore and metalcore mainly. I started listening as a kid a bit ironically: it was loud, offensive sounding, and I was an idiot who sometimes sought attention. Fast forward and I really fell in love with it. I like screaming, although not all screaming. But Josh Scogin and Keith Buckley kinda opened the doors for me, and they were two of the best for sure.

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