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Can we please leave TikTok face on TikTok? I come here specifically to escape the brain rot.

Being a parent is hard af

There is essentially universal agreement in the field of child psychology that "beating" your child is the wrong approach.

I've yet to meet a parent that completely ignores their child in a public venue. In many cultures children are considered to be a part of society / community and so they are given some autonomy to discover the world with their peers. Hyper individualistic Western society is really the odd one out here and Western cultures are the only ones where I've seen this take expressed openly. Conclude from that what you will.

I don't hit my kids, I barely even yell. They're the most well-behaved kids I know. Almost as though respecting your kids and spending time with them makes them happier? And maybe kids that feel respected act better? It's a parenting problem. Youth are the future, we the parents decide what that future looks like.

ITT people taking issue with parenting methods not even being advocated for. If you take your children to public places, of course everyone knows they are children, but they still shouldn't be pulling stuff off racks, running around screaming and licking the windows, or putting hands on other people or children.

You don't have to yell at them or beat them or anything else, but if they can't pull themselves together in public then work on it and consider not bringing them to such places. My mom made us all repeat the rules before we left the car (no running, no putting things in the cart without being asked, keep one hand on the cart while we are moving or something like those) and if we didn't follow the rules we all went back to the car. Simple as that.

Edit: sometimes you gotta go do something and take the kids. If they're acting feral at least maybe don't be the parent who looks like they are totally cool with it and just pretend it isn't happening?

My mom had 4 kids. 3 of us were well behaved in public and she said "I would look at those parents with screaming kids in the store and think I am doing something right, my kids don't do that. So God gave me Janet. I was so judgemental, then I got one who screamed in the store."

I swear, Americans are obsessed with the idea that kids need a beating once in a while. That would get you arrested where I am from.

Gen X, I presume?

Me watching my only heir reenact Bruegel's Seven Vices: 🤬 (they heed me not)

Me watching the unheeded parents of another demonic recreant: 😌

I don't mind rambunctious children, as long as they aren't hurting anyone, doing ear piercing screaming, or doing something that spreads disease. (Like putting their hands directly into ice cream topping trays instead of using the fucking scoop)

Frequently I see parents be way overly harsh with their kids where I'm at like the parent is terrified of being seen as a bad/lazy parent so they take it out on their kid by way over reacting to a kid doing something disruptive but ultimately pretty harmless.

There are occasional situations where the parent just dumbly stands there doing nothing to stop their kid doing something they really shouldn't (like that Ice Cream Topping example... which is a thing I recently witnessed). But that's less common than the former. Might be because I live in a rural conservative hellhole where kids are seen as their parent's property.

Lots of people have procreated that really shouldn't have, unfortunately.