Whats_your_reasoning

We're Lemmy. The best we can give is the hug of coma.

I just saw an entire train of spam from a commenter that appears to be dealing with ... a lot. I'm not naming names, but suffice to say there are definitely some folks dealing with mental issues posting the way being described here.

Still, that isn't the norm. It probably just feels like more because this is such a small space - when there aren't hundreds of comments (like found on more popular social media sites), a few spam posts can feel like a lot.

Maybe it's because I like to focus on the positives, I still think there's more quality content here (by percentage of overall comments) than on many other sites. There's a lot more thoughtfulness, and more people resolving disagreements by actually listening to each other and seeing each other's sides. I've been reading Lemmy since leaving Reddit during the API debacle, and I've noticed I feel much better about engaging in the community here than I ever did there. I've seen countless Reddit arguments that hinge on one (or more) stubborn parties refusing to take in new information. I used to feel dread when I saw messages in my inbox, because no matter how carefully you tried to word your thoughts, there would invariably be some troll intent on misunderstanding your comment at all costs. It was exhausting and discouraging.

I realized recently that I no longer feel that way when I get a response on Lemmy. I mean, I still approach clicking that box with a tiny bit of trepidation, but the more I click it, the more I see rational responses, funny commentary, and simply friendly people responding in light conversation. There are trolls out there, but I've come back to see responses already deleted by mods, and other commenters defending my position, all without me knowing what the troll even said. Despite all Lemmy's flaws, there are a lot of decent people here, and it seems we look out for each other.

We must continue to practice this rationality and kindness, and encourage new-comers to leave their Reddit life at the door. If we want Lemmy to be better, then it's on us, its users, to build and maintain the culture we want it to have.

For me, I like the peace. Pass it on ✌️

Nebulae: "In fact, forget the wire!"

Spins and condenses into a star

I, for one, would rather they eat from the trees than try to knock bugs off house siding

Outside of my bedroom

At sunrise

I, too, wish to be part of the Addams Family.

Ah, okay. Hope you like Rocko’s Modern Life!

Agreed, I don’t see it as passive-aggressive, I see it as using proper punctuation. I’m an oldie, though, and most of the people I text know what I mean when I type. If someone were to react negatively to putting a period in a text, I’d implore them to talk to me about it instead of assuming motive that isn’t there. Then if that doesn’t help, well, guess we won’t be texting each other anymore. I don’t have the time or energy to play silly misinterpretation games with someone who can’t communicate like an adult.

My work has a DoorDash account and uses it exclusively. When management decides to order food for us, it has to go through DoorDash.

The other week I was told they'd buy lunch for my team. Thing is, we all have different dietary needs. I was told to pick something for lunch, and when I did I was told, "Oh that restaurant doesn't use DoorDash. Pick somewhere else. Also it's a $10 limit."

Oookay. My lunch being at an earlier time than many in my team, a lot of places that I would order from aren't open yet. I don't do fast food, which limits my choices further. Then you can't put custom information in your order (like, "the #14 sandwich, but with no cheese") which right out of the gate means a lot of options are out of reach. The $10 limit was also ridiculous, as food prices have been rising higher and now even the most basic things will be around $12 minimum. Navigating the site alone was a headache on top of it all, as it isn't intuitive for someone with dietary restrictions. I eventually gave up and told my manager, "I know this was intended as a treat for us, but this is too stressful for me to try to do while I'm also working."

Thankfully, someone else already knew of an option that would work for me, so I went with that. It sucks that although my work place is trying to be inclusive, being limited to DoorDash (and a $10 price ceiling) makes that incredibly difficult. I'd rather just be given the $10 and be done with it.

Okay, who put a camera in my apartment?

Its happening because people’s brains are ‘adapting’ to the short form, brainrot mode of modern social media.

This is what I feared way back when Twitter first gained popularity. I couldn't get into it, because the short character limit made it impossible to explain pretty much anything.

Anyway, I'm with you on this. If you've got something important or novel to share, it's probably going to take some explanation to convey it. Short-form social media leads to shallow conversations. I like depth, I like exploring others' perspectives, and it takes more than 160 characters (or whatever the limits are now) to really reach some subjects.

I say this as someone with unmedicated ADHD - modern people's attention spans are depressing. I still love watching documentaries that are 2+ hours long, even when YouTube tries to push for 30-second clips of garbage. Thank goodness for Lemmy and Mastodon, offering us the chance to really dive deep into conversations that most social media want to clip short.

Nah. It’s not subjective. It’s the result of fucking imbeciles that don’t read.

But isn't that what makes it subjective? Subjective means its meaning is "subject" to the reader's interpretation. It isn't objective, which is when the meaning exists outside such frames of reference.

That is, ending a text with a period isn't a(n objective) rule that always means a particular tone. Instead, it's a (subjective) understanding made by certain readers (who may be making assumptions that the texter didn't intend.)

Off topic, but I want to say that I appreciate you explaining your downvote. Some of the downvotes on here seem entirely senseless and definitely make one wonder, "Why would anyone downvote that?" When people explain their reasoning, not only are they contributing to Lemmy in a more constructive way, but it helps other commenters gain perspective. Thank you for adding your thoughts.