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[–] masterspace@lemmy.ca 71 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

Neither will harm or effect your baby in any measurable way.

What will effect them measurably negatively is having obsessive parents who min/max every decision rather than being happy and enjoying their child.

Happiness comes from acceptance, not obsession.

[–] s38b35M5@lemmy.world 2 points 7 hours ago (2 children)
[–] masterspace@lemmy.ca 2 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

Happiness comes from acceptance, not obsession.

[–] Apepollo11@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

I think people are downvoting you because "effect" is in there twice.

The first one is right.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 30 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I really don't believe either of those things will do anything at all.

[–] Kache@lemmy.zip 15 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (2 children)

The content likely doesn't matter, but I read it helps the baby recognize the parent's voices (esp the Dad's, Mom already gets a lot of time), and it can also help them get a head start on recognizing the phenomes of your language.

[–] RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 3 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

So my baby will think Mike Duncan is his father because of all the History of Rome podcast is being played to him

[–] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago

If it's a recording of someone else it sure as hell won't. Might have some effect on replay, but won't be making baby any more familiar with the parents.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 24 points 17 hours ago

It's mostly about the sound of your voice. My eldest got Vonnegut and Law & Order. So much of the latter that both before and after birth the "dun dun" sound from the show noticeably calmed her down.

[–] abbadon420@sh.itjust.works 17 points 14 hours ago

It doesn't matter. A baby doesn't understand what you read to it. It only hears you voice and regocnizes it once they're born. But it'llhear your voice in the belly regardless. Every time you say anyyhing, the baby hears your voice. Reading a book to a belly is mostly for the parents-to-be

[–] Steve@startrek.website 14 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

Reading to a baby is about exposing them to different words and patterns than what you get from normal speech.

If you want my advice, talk to them constantly as if you are the narrator, and smile and make eye contact at every opportunity.

Not sure if this applies before birth. It couldnt hurt, so I suggest reading whatever you like to read. And make sure its something that the mother wants to hear, assuming you arent her.

[–] viking@infosec.pub 9 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Not sure if this applies before birth.

Please demonstrate the prenatal eye contact, I dare you.

[–] wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago

Hold my beer, I'm going in

[–] viking@infosec.pub 13 points 17 hours ago

Heavy metal, obviously.

[–] ech@lemmy.ca 13 points 13 hours ago

The content doesn't matter in the slightest.

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

A kid in the womb is better off listening to old people's regrets and dying wishes so they can handle dying of old age better when the time comes

[–] henfredemars@infosec.pub 5 points 17 hours ago

I really hope kids in the womb today get the chance to die of old age.

[–] wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago

baby is inundated with 'back in my day', [redacted] ruined everything, complaints about life sucking ass, etc

9 months pass

baby pops out

immediately uses all their strength to jump to the nearest window ledge and yeet

[–] Apepollo11@lemmy.world 11 points 9 hours ago
  1. The baby doesn't understand English (although they can recognise the rhythm and sounds of language).

  2. The mother understands English

  3. The baby experiences the same emotions as the mother.

In conclusion, read something that will make the mother relaxed and happy. If that happens to be The Cat In The Hat, then great. I read Don Quixote when my wife was pregnant with our first, our second got Moomin and Hairy Maclary (by virtue of being there when I read to the first).

The most important thing is to keep reading to them, every day, after they're born too. Buy tons of children's books (for your own sanity), do the voices and have fun with them.

[–] vala@lemmy.world 9 points 13 hours ago
[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 8 points 5 hours ago
[–] Sanctus@lemmy.world 7 points 17 hours ago

Just talk to the baby and play them calm music. The type may matter but what is most important is you interact in some way.

[–] sprite0@sh.itjust.works 5 points 16 hours ago

I read to my child every night while they were in the womb and when they came out my reading voice was like drugs it would knock them out so quickly if they were sleepy!

[–] SolidShake@lemmy.world 5 points 16 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 5 points 15 hours ago

Not with that attitude.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 5 points 10 hours ago

I remember my mother telling me that if I don't get staright A's, she was gonna regret it, and my dad told me: "Don't make me regret fucking your mom last night". I spend the next 9 months planning for school, and the next 18 years trying so hard to be top of my class. Never had any fun. Wtf even is this "video game" y'all talking about. -10/10 would not recommend.

Please don't berate your fetus into depression, it's not worth it. Instead, play ~~baby~~ fetus shark.

[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 3 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I don't think we're at that stage. People are still debating whether or not that kid is a kid or not.

[–] khannie@lemmy.world 3 points 12 hours ago

My wife had a favourite song when she was pregnant and it was very useful for calming after the birth. It was quite a chill tune.

[–] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago

Music of any type would be infinitely more impactful than random words.

[–] Oka@sopuli.xyz 1 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)
[–] nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 10 hours ago

Cat in the Hat. Kid's got a while life ahead of them to get depressed about the vile things humans have done (and still do) to each other. Let the kid have a few months of happiness.

[–] nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 10 hours ago

Cat in the Hat. Kid's got a while life ahead of them to get depressed about the vile things humans have done (and still do) to each other. Let the kid have a few months of happiness.

[–] Bishma@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 16 hours ago

Jonathan Swift

[–] DeceasedPassenger@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago

Fwiw, my mom had a similar debate and decided classical music instead. Came from some company called baby beethoven. So I'm biased but I think music is probably best. Words won't really be understood anyway just tones. No angry sounds around baby.