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Local gaming shops are good options if you're in an urban/suburban area. Many run regular events for TableTop Role Playing Games like Pathfinder and DnD, Warhammer, board game tournaments, etc.. Many also host discord servers so folks can make "LFG" (Looking For Game) type posts.
Obviously its going to depend where you are, but I've found it to be a great place to socialize when I'm bored.
Are they typically welcoming to people who have never played tabletop games?
In my experience, it totally depends on the shop and what kind if environment the owners are trying to cultivate. I've been to super competitive shops that are crazy anal about sticking to game rules, rude to newcomers, etc, and I've been to others (like my current shop) that realize we're a bunch of middle aged fucks playing with toys (40k is my shit).
More often than not, though, the vibe is going to be a welcoming one. As others have said, its more people to play games with! Especially in the plastic crack community, where there's certainly a 30 year Warhammer veteran just waiting for a newbie to dump their lore knowledge into.
I've never met a public-facing tabletop group that wasn't enthusiastic to introduce new people to it. I think honestly my worst experience was when some dude brought his insanely broken D&D 3.5 character to play in a level one 5E game. The DM handled it very well; much better than I would have, I think.
My experience is that they generally are, but if they're not they'll be very friendly in suggesting that they're not the right venue for you.
If that sounds weird, go (or phone) and ask them. If they say "Well we've got a pretty hardcore community here," then that's a sign that maybe it's not where you should start. But gamers, on the whole, LOVE sharing their passion with new people.
Or look for sign up sheets for a campaign. It can literally be signing up for your new gang of friends.
I've heard of them having newbie games scheduled on certain days. I don't know how welcoming general games would be to a complete beginner, though.
The doorknobs are made of the skulls from those who dared to enter, but did not already know the game. Lol
Jokes aside, while I haven't been to one myself I know people who play and they're always welcoming of new people. I'm sure the attitude is "more people to play with!"
The tabletop game meetup I know of (in New York) is explicitly friendly to new players. One of the hosts said their first game ever was at the meetup many years ago.
I appreciate all the responses!
Dungeons & Dragons is one, for the sufficiently geeky.
I woald advise other RPG than D&D, too many beginner look for D&D and nothing else, while tons of GM struggle to find player for non D&D games, as usual look for a club/meetup/shop near you
DND is tricky to recommend. On the one hand, as far as RPGs go it's mega popular. On the other, it's a very specific kind of game and rather finicky.
Many people who don't want to play fantasy dungeon crawling tactical combat would enjoy other genres, but finding those groups can be harder. One of my friends has no real interest in fantasy, but immediately was like "LET'S DO IT" when I mentioned a game of Vampire.
This one is interesting as don't you need friends already to play?
Most game shops host some games that are open to people signing up.
At one of my local stores, they specifically have the "D&D Adventure League" once a week. It does have a $5 entry fee.
Our local libraries do this too! They are free but waaay less rowdy than others I've tried (i loke a lol rowdy). And, usually One and Done campaigns. Do double check if you do see your library has them, ours do adult and teen in different groups.
If you want to start an irl group, yeah. If you're joining an existing group, no though. Fully online is obviously the easiest place to find groups looking for players, but you can also head down to your local gaming store. I've seen bulletin boards before with flyers looking for players, but can probably just ask the people working there if they know of any.
Could also check online forums for your local community, maybe even make a post asking if any gaming groups have openings for irl players.
I came here to say Dungeons & Dragons. People of all ages and walks of life play.
Pursue your interests in life and people you're going to hit it off with will be along the way.
Yeah unfortunately most of my interests are stuff that are done solo. Im also not sure if those interests became my interests because i have been solo most of my life. Moved around allot as a kid. That's why I want to bridge out to new things.
I'm at a similar age and have similar interests. I've not been successful. I've done what others suggest, but not many people are making a genuine connection. Meetup.com ends up being an activity for the meet up and not connection outside. Conventions and gaming makes people get together for the event.....but again little interest outside that.
Some of this might be a skill issue. Some of this has to do with how incredibly socially reserved the British are (all my ongoing friendships are with non-British people while living in England, because they're the ones who will accept invites and meet up again). Some of this has to do with having interests that hardly anyone shares IRL.
I've seen posts like this before on Lemmy and people even said they were interested in a chat channel to start a social group here, so I made one and no one joined.
Good luck. I'm interested in reading the other replies you get.
Yeah i so get you dude. It's funny you bring up being British. I'm half English and have the same problem when I go to cons. Like I went to the local Vintage Computer Festival South West. People were nice but just could never get anyone make the jump to genuine connection.
Being on crutches I think puts it on hard mode. As people ether consciously or unconsciously just don't want to deal with disabled people. I feel that is less an issue in the UK but in the states most people are down right hostile sometimes to disabled people.
Oh man I was the guy that said "Just go to cons" above but I see what you're saying. Genuine connections take time.
One way I have really had some luck is just messaging friends I haven't talked to in a while to check in on them. Most don't reply but sometimes one does. One guy I messaged after not seeing him in 20 years and now we hang out every other week.
Maybe there is no winning strategy, just gotta be persistent.
Go to cons my guy. Join the tournaments, stand in line. People are friendly just aim for a good conversation and be curious about people
Video games can be very social though.
Have you tried discord communities for any games you like?
Or alternative look for a game with a good community?
Yeah I tried a discord group called Gamers Who Chill: DFW but it tended to skew to collage kids or teens. Didn't feel comfortable engaging. As i didn't want to come off like a creepy old dude by talking to kids.
Some games will have younger audience, I really don't see an issue tbh but their spazzing can get annoying quick
I am not sure what's in vogue now. But for example elite dangerous used to have a strong community for middle aged cucks. Eve online too I heard
I was able to reconnect with high schools and college friends recently via video games. If you got old friends like that, might be worth reaching out. Everyone seemed settled in a rut and bored now and willing to do it. When I tried it 10 years ago, everyone was busy "living life"
Oh im not sure I can go back to EVE. That consumed my life in my twenties. 😁
Hey! you sound pretty cool! :D
Book club or maybe even some sort of 3d printing meetup? I've always found that the people that are interested in those probably would hit the other items on your list.
as one with limited mobility, i have made friends at the local, extremely small, music venue. tickets at the door are $20, beer is cheap, and everyone is super friendly.
because its a small place, the owner lets me take a chair with me when i am going to one of the stages that has no seating (i use a cane; its hard to stand for long periods). i usually sit next to the merch tables, and the friends of the bands usually strike up conversation.
this is a suuuuuper small place. it has 2-3 stages (depending on the night), but they are really close together, so only one band at a time can play (two stages are outside because the building is so small). even if its not music, go to really small local places that get decent crowds - they are a lot more personable.
Related, many small(-ish) bars have a stage for live music on Friday/Saturday. There may not be enough seating for those nights, and there's little/no standing room, so people randomly share tables. From there, you strike up conversation with other fans.
Find the small places where they advertise the bands by name, and make sure they aren't just cover bands. Irish pubs have been lucky for me, but there's another place near me that regularly has jam bands.
That's interesting how do you get to know people? Doesn't the music make it hard to hear people? I feel like in that scenario i would go listen to music and have a good time but would still be alone in a crowd.
Your nearest, biggest city's library is a good place to look. Libraries almost always have something going on in a spare public room or have public event flyers hung up. If you're interested in politics, going and yelling at city council is a great way to meet local activists.
Your local discgolf club / community if you're into that.
Check out your local library activities, check your city/town event calendar
Check out meetup.com for any particular hobbies you're into.
If you have any interest is medieval things check out the Society of Creative Anachronism. www.sca.org
Even if you only want to meet new nerdy\geeky people. As long as you don't mind wearing silly clothing.
This is somewhat dependent on living close enough to a city.
This is very cool. I think I have seen some people that do this at the Scarborough Ren Fair down here.
Kind of building on the D&D subject, if you look up your local game stores that have playspace, they probably have a calendar on their website listing lots of "Open Play" events or something similar. Mine also has craft/hobby nights.
You normally just show up to these and play.
The card and army based games may expect you to have your own stuff, but I would get in touch with somebody because a lot of the time there's going to be somebody who will let you try the game with their stuff and teach you how to play in hopes of getting you interested long-term.
I would argue that this can be any acitivty which can be done in a group setting and which you enjoy. Maybe check out urban gardening? They sometimes acommodate to people with limited Mobility.
Archery. Relatively cheap sport to get into (no consumable bullets).
As for limited mobility, that depends on what you mean, wheelchair - not a problem, upper body - maybe a problem, depending on the extent. Crossbows can solve the strength part, but if you can't aim, that will be a bit harder.
Volunteer in outreach orgs or at events that are related to your interests.
There are also mutual aid orgs. They are almost always accessibility aware. Maybe check in with MADR. They may be able to point to local groups if you're in the US.
There's also Food Not Bombs which is great!
Furry convention
If you are musical or like music maybe find a local weekly jam or open mic. Play some tunes or just go and enjoy. Typically a very welcoming and open community and supportive scene, at least everywhere I've been.
If you like animals, there's lots to do with animal rescue, and you meet lots of great people. There are ways to contribute even if you don't have a lot of physical mobility, like helping with internet activities, record-keeping, photography, and caring for animals temporarily while they're being quarantined.
Join a group thing you like.