If your relationships involve a "gut wrenching feeling 24/7" you might have other problems
this post was submitted on 13 May 2025
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Problem, preference, or orientation. It's impossible to tell.
Clearly a euphemism for anal sex. Once or twice a day is fine, but 24/7 is far too much. I'd also be hiding in nature at that point
People just seem to use me and I have trust issues
You’re not supposed to have a gut wrenching feeling 24/7 when in a relationship.
A relationship is a friend you do extra things with.
I dunno how I feel about this summing up. Like, yeah, but also so much more. For one they mostly remove gut wrenching feeling xD
Yep, a good relationship should just be your favourite person to spend time with that you also find sexually attractive (and vice versa).
I have an anxious attachment style. My brain says no, fuck my feelings regardless. :(
I'm gonna wrench her guts, alright?
"extra things" ;3
That consistent light nausea is just how true love feels, bro!
Or, to bring Relational Anarchism to bear, a relationship is an ongoing interaction between people, sometimes even just with one's own self. Then, having established that a relationship exists, the participants of this relationship may choose to define said relationship using whatever terms and conditions they feel are fitting. And here's the clincher: nobody outside of the relationship gets to have any say in what ANY aspect of that relationship means. Friendship? That's literally got "ship" in it, but parenthood? Also a relationship. Professional, personal, inter-personal, monogamous, non-monogamous, poly, aromantic, FWB... All valid terms to use, and not a single one of them can possibly define a relationship by itself.
I am a relational anarchist, but I was simplifying. No need for quantum physics where Newtonian physics do the trick !
Im gonna use that phrase from now on , thanks stranger!
There’s probably room to make it snappier, have fun !
Op had a really bad relationship
Never recovered at least thus far anyway
Honestly I get it, I've been single for 11 years now. I went through a series of toxic relationships and the last one broke me. After her I decided to take a break from dating a try to figure out why I kept attracting only toxic women.
It's been 11 years and I still haven't figured it out, and now I'm in my 40's and don't really want to date again. What I'm trying to say is, take some time, heal, get your head straight, but get back out there sooner than later. It's easy to fall into the "I'm happier single" mindset, but difficult to get out of.
at least thus far
You can do it!
Or don't. Whatever life you want to live is fine. I'm not here to kink shame.
Damn I'm sorry to hear that.
Time to end that relationship. I spend my day waiting to go home and see my partner
That was the only thing that pushed me out of bed for a while, the fact that I'd get to come home to the perfect woman later.
jokes on you I have a gut wrenching feeling from being single
A wild Fenriz meme
I've had a lot of painful relationships so i understand. It takes time, especially if you get burnt. It's still good to find someone nice who will eventually become your one.
Dated a string of people who didn't deserve my trust, so I know that gut-wrenching feeling all too well. Life is more peaceful without it.
They always talk about wading through a bunch of weeds or whatever but hey, I get it, no one has that kind of time anymore to wade through a bunch of assholes to find the fhe one decent person anymore. Life gets short. It can become the kind of noise and drama you just don’t want to mar up your life with.
Out of the plethora of coffee dates from the online apps I’d say there were approx 90% of the people on there that really shouldn’t be dating others and should be in some sort of counselling or just straight up scammers. Several hadn’t been in any relationship that lasted more than 6 months for a good reason.
Even in the last 10% maybe there was no chemistry but I did make some friends. One I’m still good friends with even today since Covid times.
It took about 3 yrs to find someone worth dating with chemistry. Like seriously it’s like friggin career training these days.
GYLVE
Happily single is how I describe it. Still got my kids and they are grown. No one has to put up with me and I don't have to take shit from anyone in my personal life.
yo Fenriz my man, wake up, you're on Lemmy !
Not in a relationship, feeling is there anyway.
How come? You can do whatever you want on your own terms without constantly having to prove yourself to someone.
Ok, to be clear I'm attempting to state the absence of a romantic relationship.
There are still people who have expectations that I need to fulfill including myself. Life is bad enough the way it is and by no choice of my own I regularly have to think about the person I have romantic feelings for. (Though that feeling is not inherently negative)
We've lost the plot if going outside is edgy