Yes, then you're already steps ahead. For some people, figuring out what the problem is, already takes therapy, but it doesn't end there. If you know, what the problem is and know how to fix it, you probably don't need therapy. But if you know what's wrong but can't fix it alone, that's what therapy is for.

Also knowing that they're talking to you because it's their job feels like the whole thing is a lie and a waste of time.

Only if you somehow follow the idea, that the therapist has to like you. That is not the case. It is their job and that's okay. You're also just talking to them because it's their job. Why would you open up to a stranger otherwise?

I mean you should get along together somehow, but you don't have to be friends with your therapist.

[–] Aceticon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

Also one might be aware of the problem but not actually understand the underlying causes.

One can be a bloody genious and still be unable to self-rationalize one's way out of certain negative behaviours because they're driven by things at an emotional level (fear, pleasure, habit, need for approval, low self-esteem and so on), because they became entrenched as behavioural patterns when one was too young to understand any of it (as a child or teenager - it's not by chance that a lot of Psychology "blames" one's parents) and because without the distancing that comes from looking at it from the outside with no interest in seeing certain things rather than others (it's generally emotionally unpleasent to notice and admit that certain elements of one's personality are negative) it's extremelly hard to spot certain things which for an observant trained independent outsider are very obvious.

Also I totally agree that one shouldn't be going into it wanting the therapist to like you: people who worry about the impression they make on the therapist are likely not being fully open and honest about themselves to him or her, which kinda defeats the point of going to theraphy (if one was 100% perfect and all qualities, why go to theraphy).

[–] KeenFlame@feddit.nu 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

In fact, the more successfully smart you are and perceived as intelligent, the more likely it is you need therapy deeply

[–] bilouba@jlai.lu 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Do you have a source on this claim?

[–] Aceticon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I'm curious about that too.

My life experience includes environments (Physics at University level) with a significant number of exceptionally intelligent people and in my observation they weren't any more "flawed" than everybody else, just with different quirks than most people.

Granted "smart and perceived as intelligent" isn't actually the same as high IQ, but I've also worked in environments with lots of people like that (Investment banking) and again they weren't any more "flawed" than everybody else and just had different kinds of quirks than most people.

In general, one thing I did notice was that more intelligent people tend to have more "compensation layers" over their disfunctions than less intelligent people.

That said, all this is my opinion from my own life experience, so just as unsupported as the previous poster's.

[–] Cock_Inspecting_Asexual@lemmy.world 1 points 23 hours ago

Me when I explain to my therapist what vore is cus its crucial to the session for whatever reason: