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I don't hate Christmas, but it's a holiday that relies on tradition and I derive no joy from traditions. The whole "we're doing this because it's been done every previous year of our life" schtick just rubs me wrong. I recognise that for some people there is comfort in tradition. For me however it feels more like indoctrination.
This was one of the few incompatibilities between my ex wife and me, but it ended up being huge to her. She likes tradition and is incredibly nostalgic. I have very little nostalgia, I had a bad childhood and I have a poor memory. She's the type that will listen to music from 20 years ago over and over. I like to find new music or things I haven't heard before. She can watch the same movies over and over again. Even my most loved movies I have only seen two or three times. She would even watch the entire run of shows like Friends that she's seen so many times before. Can't stand that shit, it's a shit show anyway.
So be careful. I wish I hadn't made my dislike of nostalgia so abundantly clear, and spent more time trying to enjoy it Most people feel it deeply and sometimes it might be better to go with the flow.
Oh definitely. Like I said, I don't begrudge others the things that bring them joy, and I will make reasonable effort to not spoil it for them. But it drains my social battery to be masking all the time, which further degrades any second hand fun I might have.
It's a constant dilemma. I am an introvert, I have severe ADHD, possibly autistic, and I have masked my entire life- I don't even know who I am sometimes. Although life is much better than it was a couple decades ago. I used to absolutely rage at how fake the whole world seemed to be.
I could have written this myself. I know exactly how you feel!