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A good wink. A guy can be medium attractive or not my type, but if they make a little joke and then give me individually a subtle wink, I'm smitten.
Not talking about a compliment followed by a wink. A joke, and then they let me in on it with them with a wink.
I am the total opposite, if you wink at me I'm going to be wholly creeped out.
Ô-Ô
In love yet?
Yes, but not with them eyes
that's my girl!
I'm with you there. Winking is very creepy indeed to me.
How do you feel if someone who is not medium attractive winks at you?
Or if they just say something weird, like a joke you don't appreciate, and wink at you?
I guess there has to be some kind of established not-a-creepy-stranger before risking a wink becomes appropriate.
Physically unattractive, but a good wink would still pique my interest, but it's never happened to me. Winking is kind of rare. It's like proof that they're fast, clever, and confident, and that they desire a rapport with me.
Yes, the wink has to be paired with something clever, or wise, or nice. Some kind of friendly banter. You'd have to be already attractive to wink out of the blue, but if you're already attractive and you wink, I'd probably like that too. It's conveying interest. It's conspiratorial and playful.