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Geez with that kind of ability to just magically know everything about someone I'm shocked that you're here wasting time on the internet. That kind of skill should be put to you saving the world shouldn't it? Guy over here is basically Wonder Woman's lasso.
Here's a thing. There are people who have mental illness that absolutely does interfere with their ability to be honest about who and what they are.
There's also a whole host of other things like neurological divergence that causes people to mask. Both behaviours and views to fit in. Some people know deep down that their beliefs are wrong but they are selfish about the investment they feel they have in another person, so much so that they won't leave because they don't think they can get someone else. Trying to boil something down to "you were married, you should have known", especially when marriage for love in history is a relatively very new thing is kind of ridiculous. I've been married for 12 years. I still don't know everything about my spouse or their views. And given that people's views can change drastically over time, it's reasonable to assume that one or the other person is going to disagree about something they may have believed a year ago or 5 years ago etc.
I've been married twice. I certainly wasn't expecting the first person I married to leave me in crippling debt because he couldn't take care of himself or be an adult. I had no reason to think he would just stop paying bills. No reason to think he'd get addicted to pills and hide it from me. People. Change.
Chill. There was no reason to go off on this guy. And you really did. WTH?
I didn't say I magically know everything about anyone. I said if I'm marrying someone, I make it my business to find out who they are.
Okay I got it. So you have a magical power that as soon as you say I do you gain full and complete total knowledge of somebody. Impossible to fool no way whatsoever something could get by you. We're taking you to Vegas. Going to set up a CIA black site and an Elvis impersonator and get some shit done.
Are you 11?
Not able to discern that huh? Don't worry I know it's just cuz we haven't said I do yet.
Do you really believe you're making a point here?
Do you really feel you're the person to ask that question after your little sanctimonious speech about how everyone else is stupid if they get fooled and you'll never be fooled by anybody? Did you think you were making a good point with that?
My, ahem, speech was literally "Find out who you're marrying before you marry them". If what you heard was "everyone else is stupid if they get fooled and I'll never be fooled by anybody", then you might have some introspection to do.
Sure buddy, you totally came off as genuine and not at all judgmental with this:
Literally said you fault them. Really holding back the judgmental nature there weren't you? I don't know why you just be a dick like that. There's no reason for it. So take that introspection and maybe apply it yeah?
Yeah, I fault people for not finding out they're marrying Nazis and then acting surprised. Again, if you believe the bottom line of that is me calling you stupid, that's a you problem.
Oh looks like introspection isn't possible for some people I guess. Sad.
Very sad indeed.