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Basically title, I participated in an interesting exchange over the past day or so, and it made me wonder what some of the more useful resources are for men to learn about their bodies, hormones, brains, emotions, support networks, etc.

So I’m interested in websites, forums, video series, books, whatever. Links would be great if you’ve got them.

(Disclaimer: I am not male myself, which is why I’ve no idea, and am curious, but if this gains traction, I’d also just like to have this post be a resource. It’s good to periodically take stock of what’s out there.)

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[–] Sunsofold@lemmings.world 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'd start by being wary of anything that says it's 'for men.' The male parts of reproductive medicine/endocrinology/etc. can be studied but real understanding in that area is college/post-grad level courses of material. Almost anything approachable will be over-simplified unless you really dive in. However, on the social side, (brains, emotions, support networks, etc) it's usually a bad sign when the source says anything is exclusive to men. Most philosophy, psychology, sociology, emotional intelligence training, etc. is not served by framing it based on sex, and a lot of stuff that is framed that way tends to be propagandistic in pretending this or that understanding of sex-based social norms (a.k.a. gender) is the one true way. Studying psychoanalysis can be good, and i can recommend the Quarantine Collective on youtube as a nice place to learn about philosophy and a little bit of psychoanalysis, often presenting a secure, non-misogynistic masculinity. For emotional intelligence, it's more about practice than study but Heidi Priebe has made some good explanations, though watch out for the woo in Jungian thinking. And while it might sound strange to some, finding a good (for you) teacher for vipassana and metta meditations can be very helpful in understanding yourself, regardless.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Most philosophy, psychology, sociology, emotional intelligence training, etc. is not served by framing it based on sex

I imagine that the reason OP framed it this way is because they are (guessing?) a woman, and most things discussing these topics from a practical perspective are created by women, aimed at women, and have a female perspective (implicit or explicit).

[–] ButteryMonkey@piefed.social 1 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

This is correct. I want to see what kind of resources are out there which men find helpful, and would want to share with other men. Doesn’t have to be specific to men. I know what I’ve found that’s helpful for myself, but I don’t have the perspective to know what someone with a mostly different life experience than my own would find helpful.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago

I think part of the reason that this sort of content is less prevalent to men is simply that men find this kind of content less interesting intrinsically. "I want to deeply understand my emotions" is not a theme that many men find resonant. Instead, I think most of the content men consume relating to their mental and emotional lives exists as a subset of achieving some sort of external goal. They want to learn about their minds and emotions because they see these things limiting them in getting to the place they want to be - getting a hot body, getting a higher salary, knowing how to overhaul an engine, living a particular lifestyle, meeting a certain standard they have set for themselves, etc.

I think this also leads to less naval-gazing. When men interact with their emotional lives, there isn't a ton of idle contemplation, which is what a lot of resources on these topics amounts to - men are interacting with their emotions just enough to take the next step forward in whatever their actual goal is. And so the men giving the best advice in this space are almost always not seen as experts on emotions, but are rather seen as experts in other things - their emotional / psychological teachings more often come through in being a good role model.

That said, here are some people/sources that I've read/listened to which I think contributed to my emotional development as a man:

General life/philosophy/emotional health:

  • Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance - Robert Pirsig
  • The collected works of Carlos Castenada
  • The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck - Mark Manson
  • The Art of Manliness blog
  • The writing of David Wong/ Jason Pargin. In particular, this piece

Health, fitness, and sport:

  • The books, articles, and podcast of Dan John
  • The books and youtube channel of Dave Macleod

Sex and Dating:

  • Models - Mark Manson
[–] angelmountain@feddit.nl 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Most scientific studies have been done on only men, that's why airconditioners always make rooms too cold, because men bodies generally prefer a few degrees less. It's actually an issue.

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 2 points 9 hours ago

Air conditioners don't make air too cold, they make the air how you set them. Maybe men are setting the thermostat?

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 5 points 1 day ago
[–] ButteryMonkey@piefed.social 5 points 1 day ago

I know of two things that I thought were good and they are intro level and maybe a bit more advanced but interesting, so I’ll just post the important bit, albeit reworded, of my other comment for visibility in case it helps anyone or whatever.

The first is Why is the Penis Shaped Like That? and other reflections on being human by Jesse Bering. It’s a sort of lighthearted approach to male bodies and other weird quirks of being alive, written by a research psychologist, as well as a columnist for science communication publications like Scientific American. He’s also a gay man who really likes penis stuff. I cannot not mention that, because he himself mentions it as part of his credentials within various articles.

The second is a book mostly about how penis things go wrong, testicular torsion, various kinds of erectile dysfunction and how they get fixed and stuff, it isn’t strictly informational, more like case studies that have been anonymized. It’s called Why Men Fake it, the totally unexpected truth about men and sex by Abraham Morgentaler, a urologist and sexual dysfunction specialist.

Both of these are good not super scientific explorations of things you may want to know, but don’t. I learned a lot and enjoyed the process.

[–] Perspectivist@feddit.uk 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'd say the Modern Wisdom podcast. While it's not explicitly marketed for a male audience, that's still the majority of the listener base, and even though much of the discussion about behavior and psychology applies equally to both genders, it's still mostly explored from the male perspective.

[–] ButteryMonkey@piefed.social 1 points 15 hours ago

Excellent, thank you for the suggestion :)

[–] njm1314@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago

The Demi Moore movie Striptease. At least I discovered a lot about myself as a young boy watching that film.

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago
[–] blarghly@lemmy.world -4 points 1 day ago

what some of the more useful resources are for men to learn about their bodies

idk, I just started playing with my dick one day and that was the extent of it.

hormones,

Testosterone good, rawr!

brains,

I know I shouldn't try to poke it through my nose...

emotions,

What are those?

support networks,

What, like a jock strap?

Really, most of these things I learned about through some innumerable number of sources I can't possibly remember now, which were not particularly gendered. Idk, just read shit?