Ask Lemmy

I think part of the reason that this sort of content is less prevalent to men is simply that men find this kind of content less interesting intrinsically. "I want to deeply understand my emotions" is not a theme that many men find resonant. Instead, I think most of the content men consume relating to their mental and emotional lives exists as a subset of achieving some sort of external goal. They want to learn about their minds and emotions because they see these things limiting them in getting to the place they want to be - getting a hot body, getting a higher salary, knowing how to overhaul an engine, living a particular lifestyle, meeting a certain standard they have set for themselves, etc.

I think this also leads to less naval-gazing. When men interact with their emotional lives, there isn't a ton of idle contemplation, which is what a lot of resources on these topics amounts to - men are interacting with their emotions just enough to take the next step forward in whatever their actual goal is. And so the men giving the best advice in this space are almost always not seen as experts on emotions, but are rather seen as experts in other things - their emotional / psychological teachings more often come through in being a good role model.

That said, here are some people/sources that I've read/listened to which I think contributed to my emotional development as a man:

General life/philosophy/emotional health:

• Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance - Robert Pirsig
• The collected works of Carlos Castenada
• The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck - Mark Manson
• The Art of Manliness blog
• The writing of David Wong/ Jason Pargin. In particular, this piece

Health, fitness, and sport:

• The books, articles, and podcast of Dan John
• The books and youtube channel of Dave Macleod

Sex and Dating:

• Models - Mark Manson