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Have you ever formed a friendship here?

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[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 17 points 17 hours ago

I made a friend I would message with, and he had cancer, he was a middle aged teacher, and we had all these lovely chats. His last message to me was that he was in the palliative ward in a hospital with a fungal infection, and I assume he died after that because I never heard from him again. I miss you my dear friend.

[–] Ek-Hou-Van-Braai@piefed.social 11 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Sharing my Homelab hobby, the interactions here are so much nicer

[–] razorcandy@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 21 hours ago

The average Lemmy user seems rather tech savvy. I assumed it would be something to bond over.

That’s a cool hobby :) what motivated you to start a homelab?

[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 8 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (1 children)

I've just started chatting with someone through DMs on the basis of a post about friends. A lot of users on Lemmy seem to be midlife men, so my cohort is definitely here.

Although I've been across posts 3 or 4 times where people ask about friendship, no one follows through. I make a room in any chat app they wasn't to chose and it never gets any joiners. One person asked to be added on Steam, but that's not really conducive to chatting, if just briefly see them o line sometime when they were in the middle of a game.

My favourite interactions..... I just really like that the communities are smaller (than reddit), so it feels like what I contribute counts more and doesnt just get buried. I comment and post a lot more than I used to on reddit.

[–] razorcandy@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I’ve always found it better to let online friendships form organically based on shared interests rather than seeking them out. With the second method, there’s a good chance you and the other person won’t have much in common besides wanting to make friends, and the conversation will taper off on its own.

I hope your new chat leads to a strong, lasting friendship :)

[–] Ek-Hou-Van-Braai@piefed.social 3 points 20 hours ago

You can see the writeup here https://piefed.social/post/1002037

tl;dr It started with running Home Assistant for my smart home.

Eventually it became running my own servers to replace google & Microsoft etc.

[–] swab148@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I got to play some Baldur's Gate 3 with Stamets and a few other Lemmings, that was cool! I'd still be doing it if my schedule allowed.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
[–] swab148@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I miss you guys too ❤️

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

Don't worry, you're always in our closet should you wish to return, my friend <3

[–] frenchfryenjoyer@lemmings.world 5 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Whenever I comment and people talk about my username

[–] HakunaHafada@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

What's your favorite subtype of french fry? Steak? Crinkle cut? Sweet potato?

[–] frenchfryenjoyer@lemmings.world 4 points 13 hours ago

Chips (or as Americans call them, steak fries). we call thin cut chips fries but you can't beat proper chippy chips you get from a chippy like these ones

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[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 4 points 22 hours ago

I do have a relationship, yes. But its more like a one-way relationship.

Hello to the FBI agent monitoring me 👋, will ya fuck off?

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Oh this is going to sound like my mind is in the gutter, but there have been a couple of NSFW collaborations between smut posters who met on the NSFW then made some posts together. I find that just delightful.

[–] HakunaHafada@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 13 hours ago

NSFW smut is always a good time!

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 3 points 15 hours ago

You make friends here?

Favourite interactions...umm my memory is weak so I don't remember anything that is striking. But yeah interactions have been nicer.

[–] Blaze@piefed.zip 3 points 10 hours ago
[–] Bebopalouie@lemmy.ca 2 points 13 hours ago

I get to shake my fist at the clouds when the need arises.