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[–] AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Wow, that's horrifying. He sounds psychotic and psychological. That must be hard to come back from without permanent trust issues. I hope you're doing okay. Was it long ago?

[–] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It was around 6 years ago, at this point. I'm safe now.

I'm lucky he wasn't a smart man! Manipulation is one hell of a drug. Also, drugs are one hell of a drug! I finally initiated the divorce because he punched a hole in the wall. That wasn't the final straw.. it was actually me finding nearly 50 cans of duster (canned air) in the wall that did it.

Yeah, I'm not sure I ever "came back", unfortunately. Dealing with the aftermath is not fun.

But I'm happy to finally have a safe & stable environment of my own now. Peace is all I crave now. I'm fortunate to finally have some.

[–] AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That really does sound like a nightmare. I'm glad you're in a better place now.

Is he still around doing his lying thing to other people m

Thank you.

He's around, but away from me. Hasn't had contact since I made it clear that I have a legal leg-up on him, so he can't continue to manipulate me. I think he's still with the woman he cheated with, so he's her problem now.

I sincerely hope that his life returns to him what he has given to others.