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[โ€“] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 47 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ok, let me try to approach this seriously.
You need to figure out some things:

  1. Why did you cheat
  • Because you were angry with your wife?
  • Because you like the other woman?
  1. If a similar situation arises in the future how are you going to react
  • "I won't do it again" is not a good answer. "I'm going to do X instead" is better.

You don't have to respond to us here, think about these things and talk about it with your wife.

Why did you cheat Because you were angry with your wife? Because you like the other woman?

These are far from the only two reasons. Some people cheat because they are unhappy with their lives generally, outside of a partner, and don't know why. Some people have impulse control issues. Substance abuse. These are not excuses, but explanations.

Couple's therapy is often recommended after infidelity. I think it's far more important for the person who cheated to start with individual therapy. If you don't change your behavior you can't rebuild trust.