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I found feeld to be really disappointing. As a man who doesn't date men, it was pretty bad.
I'd get about one match every 3 months. I didn't pay for it, so that might be a factor. But I think the big factor is there are a lot of men, and the algorithm doesn't show me to that many people.
Of the matches I did get, about 80% were instant duds. Either no reply at all, or a bad one. I remember this one woman whose handle was like "boobz". After like three attempts to start a conversation about normal topics (books, music, the city) I asked something tepid about her boobs. Something like if she liked when people touched them. She got mad. "How dare you sexualize this conversation" or something like that. I was just like, I tried other gambits and you didn't even half ass a reply, and you have it in your name and profile picture. What do you want? I didn't say that to her. I just unmatched. But like come on.
The next ten percent I'd ask a normal polite question like "so what music do you like seeing live?" and they'd reply sexually. Like, "oh daddy what music should I listen to?" Or "I just want to hear the rhythm of you slapping my ass". Okay. Strange but not the worst.
And the last ten percent were just normal people behaving normally. I had some nice dates and I'm still friend with one. Incidentally all of them said they'd just installed the app and hadn't been on it long.
So yeah. Feeld kind of sucks.