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Used hinge, tinder, okcupid, and maybe a couple others. I'm a guy who doesn't date men, 30s, in a large urban area, average looks and fitness.
I found I could get about a date a week if I put in effort. Most people aren't putting in effort. Most of your effort is going to go into the void. You just have to accept that most people kind of suck and aren't going to respond. But just reading their profile and sending a message like a normal person puts you well above average.
Many people seem to just half ass it and I don't understand why. Like, their profile says they love NK Jemisen. You write that you love her books and ask if they read her latest. They write back with "no", and of message, no follow up. Like how do you expect that to work out favorably? If you don't have time, don't respond. If you're not interested, unmatch. A dead end reply just wastes everyone's time.
The apps themselves are not focused on good outcomes. They want money. That doesn't always mean giving you the best match right away. But sometimes it works out anyway.
Thanks for this comment. Definitely insightful
Indeed, very interesting. I want to thank everyone here but there are just so many...
Save the thread and compare your own experiences! I think most of these people are trying to help you arm yourself with knowledge before you try these out for yourself! The comments aren't going anywhere 😊