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If I may respond to this and no disrespect intended when I say this: I do not agree at all with this sentiment, to just shoot your shot. With all due respect, but if you're not getting signals from her it will only serve to embarrass you.
As long as you don't do anything truly bad when shooting your shot, the worst that could happen is some mild embarassment. Which is something you have to be prepared to endure when putting yourself out there.
In the mating game it's up to the guys to advertise interest and the gals to make a choice.
Women are pros at dealing with endless expressions of interest, they rarely know how to show/express it. Just be respectful and let go of expectations going in.
Don't let the endless whining seen on social media deter you, it's mostly lies.
If men bore the babies and women had to do the mating advertising, the human race would be extinct.
seriously, attract don't chase is how you stay alone.
love is the most common resource on earth, for anyone even remotely healthy/attractive as a partner. repeated exposure, common interests/experiences to bond over, and a willingness to learn/grow is all you need to fall for anyone.
pursue, but just take rejection like an adult. no means no etc. first couple times sting but it gets easier with time/practice
How the fuck are you not getting signals from someone and still hoping to "attract" them? If you're unable to make a connection enough to where you're seen by a specific person as attractive, then you haven't done enough to be noticed by that person. You still have to put in the work to be noticed. And many people would describe that simple act as "shooting your shot."