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Well in my case, there is this girl I like. I am not much of a flirt and even then I don't really think flirting would work. So I'm just going to try to Attract rather then Chase in that sense.
Just be yourself. There must be something about her beyond being a girl that you find interesting. Don't flirt, just be friendly, and if there's a common bond it might go somewhere. Or not. But if you don't do something and she doesn't, then neither will know. This is coming from a heavy introvert who avoids people in general. It's hard to get past that first step, but once you do (and you don't force something to happen) it gets easier, and the relationship usually builds from the point where both are more relaxed and... being themselves.
Girls are people, and people want to have fun. Be someone fun to hang out with. Don't make chasing her your entire personality, because then you have no personality and she has no reason to speak with you.
Everything takes practice, even romance. It might not work this time, but you'll be better at it next time.
Makes sense.
You need to attract by being a well rounded person that does not neeeed someone, but you also need to make it obvious to your crush that you are interested.
Spending too much time acting cool and hoping that they will fall for you will fail when the next person is just honest about their feelings with the crush.