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[–] baronvonj@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Sex becomes inconsistent or dead bedroom.

Studies show that coupled persons on average have more sex than singles. I'm on Mobile and many of the sites I'm getting in search results are badly formatted a butt load of popups and shit so I don't want to link them.

What's yours is hers and what's hers is hers.

That just sounds like an unhealthy relationship in general, not something to do with marriage. Shared property is a financial benefit of marriage. One of the many marital rights that the LGBTQ+ community had long fought for equality over. If you're phrasing in a "lost everything in the divorce" context, then there's always pre-nuptial agreements. You need to enter a relationship with well communicated expectations and goals. Planning out how the eventual divorce will go before you're even married sounds like manifesting failure to me.

Your hobbies aren't as important at times.

Again, clearly communicated goals and expectations. Someone expecting you to give up cero hobbies is something you should know before the relationship is that serious. You naturally shifting your priorities away from a hobby of your own choice also isn't a negative regardless of relationship status.