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That's what I mean though. Why stay or care about damaging the relationship? Sunk cost fallacy. Some times a hard choice needs to be made. This choice should be made before children/mortgages etc. There's the old stereotype of men enter a relationship thinking the women wont change and women enter a relationship hoping the man will.
Well, sunk cost fallacy is extremely common.
But also people don't have perfect knowledge. And people change, and change at different rates.
Imagine a couple that meets when they're both pretty immature in their 20s. They have fun and fall in love. Then they buy a home together, and the woman slowly realizes she's matured into an adult role while the husband is still basically the 20 year old bro. Would you casually suggest burning the whole thing down? Finding a new relationship in your mid 30s, especially if you want kids, when there's no guarantee the new person will be any better, is daunting.
What if they're not financially independent?
It's easy to sit back and tell people how to behave in the abstract, but real situations aren't always so obvious.