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Do people actually call their parents by their name (as in First-name basis)? Have you ever done that? Or witnessed someone doing that? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 17 hours ago by DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Just curious. Because I think it's very "rude" in the Chinese Culture where I grew up in, to use the real names of people older than you. You have to address them by relationship like "father/dad" or "older brother" or "oldest aunt" "2nd aunt" "3rd aunt" (ordered by who was born first). Like I don't think you are supposed to say Aunt [Name] or Uncle [Name]. Names are never used, only the relationship.

I'm under the impression that some Westerners, particularly Americans, apparantly are on first-name basis with parents... like either because they are very close, or very distant... is that really a thing irl, or is that just the media? I think I saw TV/Movie scenes where the kids (or maybe adult children) called their parent by their first names.

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[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 10 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I mostly call my moms by their first names. I almost never directly refer to them as "mom." When talking about them to people who know them, I refer to them by their names. Basically only call them my mom to people who don't know my parents.

I'm in the US. But I think part of the reason I do that is having multiple moms. OTOH, they are trying to teach our niece to call them grammy and nana and I know my cousins have a similar way of differentiating their moms.

[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 3 points 15 hours ago

My son calls me mum but his other mum (my wife) by her first name.