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Do people actually call their parents by their name (as in First-name basis)? Have you ever done that? Or witnessed someone doing that? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 18 hours ago by DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Just curious. Because I think it's very "rude" in the Chinese Culture where I grew up in, to use the real names of people older than you. You have to address them by relationship like "father/dad" or "older brother" or "oldest aunt" "2nd aunt" "3rd aunt" (ordered by who was born first). Like I don't think you are supposed to say Aunt [Name] or Uncle [Name]. Names are never used, only the relationship.

I'm under the impression that some Westerners, particularly Americans, apparantly are on first-name basis with parents... like either because they are very close, or very distant... is that really a thing irl, or is that just the media? I think I saw TV/Movie scenes where the kids (or maybe adult children) called their parent by their first names.

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[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 4 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I would often use both the title and the person's nickname, but never just the name. So, for example, "Papa Mike" but not "Mike" or "Michael". It made more sense for grandparents because I had two of each, but I did it for my parents too.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 4 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

Fun fact, the word for paternal grandparent and maternal grantparents are different in Chinese. 爺爺 and 嫲嫲 for paternal grandpa and grandma, 公公 and 婆婆 for maternal grandpa and grandma. At least in Cantonese (or maybe its Taishanese, no clue, I always mix up Cantonese and Taishanese because I sometimes hear Taishanese when adults were talking to each other when I was a kid), idk if Mandarin is the same, I don't have any family that use Mandarin at home.

There is no confusing the paternal and maternal grandparents, its totally different words

[–] zloubida@sh.itjust.works 5 points 17 hours ago

In Swedish it's also different. Mor is mother, far is father; mormor is the maternal grandma, farmor is the paternal grandma, morfar is the paternal grandpa and farfar the paternal grandpa. I love this system, it's almost the only thing I remember from my study of Swedish 😅.