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relatable.
i used to be more social but cut back a lot. i'm happier for it. Why? because all the socialize I was doing was overwhelmingly negative. People just endlessly complaining, whining, and refusing to do anything constructive about it. I prefer my socializing to be constructive, so I mostly do it now around volunteer work.
I really do better with a handful of quality relationships than I do with generalized socialization, so I focus on that. it's also why i'm happier single... because every romantic relationship i had was just endless agonizing about nothing and my partners absolutely refused to do constructive things to improve their lives and saw my own improvement as a 'threat' and actively tried to a sabotage it.
what i don't get is why so many people's friendships/relationships are built on an anti-growth sentiment.
Yeah, we all need people, but none of us need every person.