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Everyone else didn’t have these social media options. So, a lot more people were seeking interaction via community locations.
I think certain shared topics like religion have fallen aside too; even if you find Sky Man to be silly, it was quite often a good reason for people to gather and chat.
Increased media also means we have limited time and attention spans. We have such a ridiculous number of options for how we use our eyes, it feels wasteful to commit them to one thing, even just socializing, for a long period.
It’s not impossible to break the cycle if you recognize how everyone else also recognizes the issue. But being open with others, especially being the initiator everyone appreciates, takes practice.
tbh I have given up on being initiator because it is so draining to be around people who actively choose to be unhappy despite their life being objectively great.
like i went on a date two weeks ago with a new woman I met... she spend 45m complaining about her stocks don't doing as well as she wanted, her tennis game not being as good as she wanted, etc. it was frustrating and annoying how selfish and self-important she was. i find this experience to be very common... people are super negative and refuse to be positive about their circumstances. this person was living a life better than like 99.5% of everyone else. but seemed to think their life was a failure because they were not a billionaire or something.
This is the biggest reason