Mildly Infuriating

Don't make them a hate-group for losers, then? This speaks more about the places you're hanging out at.

There are support groups for men out there that are not generally charectirized as toxic. Toxic folks may attack men for going to them, but I can tell you before I transitioned I used to go to one, and no one ever verbally attacked me for it.

the bigger issue is that generally people think men are evil by default, and women are good by default. and that's not a cultural assumption most folks are willing to look past.

I consider myself a feminist and I vehemently disagree with that take, nor does it reflect in any way the commonly held views in the relevant communities.

Women and men are people. All people hold the capacity for good and evil within them. The real differences are 1) our respective socialization, and 2) the way we are perceived and treated by society based on our gender. That's not an individual issue, but a systemic one.

I've been part of a few support groups for men that regularly received appreciation from women specifically because they were aimed at helping men in recognition of this fact, and thus didn't revolve into inceldom and gender war nonsense.

A lot of male-only spaces descend into places to hate on women rather than proactively dealing with issues within our own community. It takes active moderation for these support groups to not become hate groups. If it stays focused on healthy self improvement (not hawking supplements and talking about a person being high or low "value") and providing emotional support for men, it can avoid the "hate group" moniker.

The "loser" thing is actually a symptom of why we need spaces like we're talking about. There will likely always be people out there who judge people for needing help and emotional support, especially men(thank you toxic masculinity), but the goal should be an overall less toxic society and greater acceptance that everyone needs help at some point.

Your "bigger issue" is not something I think I have experienced, I don't think I've ever had someone assume I'm evil because I'm male. That sounds like an internal belief that you're projecting on society, something that should be looked at in detail and questioned thoroughly in a therapeutic setting. Looking at other comments you've made on similar subjects, you seem to be someone who needs a place where your views can be safely challenged by reality, which is another way of saying we need better support groups for men like you, not just incel groups where you reinforce each other's toxic beliefs.

I understand that this may come off as insulting, I just want you to know that that's not my intent. I think you are lacking in self worth and that is leading you to project toxicity into the world. I don't think you're hopeless, mostly because I used to be on a similar course as you. I got therapy and learned to better love and value myself and I started seeing a lot more positivity in my interactions with people of all genders. The first step is wanting to change things.