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Can you explain this? I was always taught to accept the sentiment and just receive the gift. I certainly wouldn't suggest returning a gift.
Fundamentally this gift is replacing something that has sentimental value to OP. That's not usually a desirable gift. If someone got you a gift that replaced your favorite [thing] in a way that replaces it you wouldn't want it either.
Cheerfully accepting a gift you don't like is dishonest. Other replies have great honest and tactful ways to accept or reject a gift you don't like. Op's approach was hurtful to their partner which isn't great.
Returning a gift is normal, that's why stores issue gift receipts. However, it is a situation that requires tact since it's easy to hurt someone if done poorly.
In the long term, it should be easy for you and your partner to do something special for each other where no one has to fake enjoyment. In OP's case, effort spent communicating now will bring a lot of enjoyment in the future and save a lot of pain.
The returning the gift is what normal people do when they get something that they don't want/like, AND when the person giving the gift isn't the spouse. You can return it, the person giving it will never know, and everyone goes away relatively happy.
OP is being reasonable from a certain perspective, in that he can't just return the gift because it's his spouse. She'll know. So he explained that he wants to return it, because it would be like being gifted a new car when you've just finished restoring the beautiful hot rod that has passed to you after your mother passed away, and it was the same hot rod that she used to take you driving in down the old country roads when she got home from work on a friday. You don't want to get rid of the hot rod, but you've only got space in the garage for one car. Should you just "receive the gift" and get rid of the hot rod? Of course not.
In the OP's case, if he doesn't just "receive the gift" then his spouse will be hurt, so there is a very large pressure there to accept the gift so his spouse won't get hurt. So to him, he's been put in a position that makes him hurt because whatever he does will hurt someone, either himself by getting rid of the sentimental 3d printer, or his spouse by not keeping the new gift.
The gift is an insult to OP. It's hurtful and savage to force them to accept something that causes them pain and suffering and then force them to make them responsible for the other person's feelings.
That's so fucked up you would blame op just because they didn't want this unsolicited gift