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I have a pretty firm "just don't get me any presents" rule. It's taken some time to gain compliance with this rule. Similar to the shirt rule, I assume you gave some of those presents before being asked not to? Try the exact same approach that was used on you. Then you might have to reiterate it every once in a while.
But OP doesn't have that rule, because OP clearly loves both the 3D printer (gift from spouse) and whatever old dented thing is being replaced (gift from mother in law).
OP can't pivot to a "no gifts" rule when prior gifts have been well received and did enrich OP's life.
I'd certainly argue he can pivot. He just can't expect adherence prior to voicing that opinion. I'd also mention that despite my personal "no gifts" rule, I've received gifts that were spectacular. With the rule in place it seems to force people to actually put thought into the gift rather than just trying to get somewhat close to my current interests and hobbies.
My husband and I told family what we wanted for occasions was a gift in our name to charity X. We picked one each year that takes online donations and sends cards "Person donated to us in your name!" They went along the first two years, they didn't donate the third year, and my husband and I stopped announcing charities after that and we all went along happily without gifting.