It's where all good engagements start!
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No, I mean engagements to marry.
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Is it just me? It's just me, is it. Oh, okay.
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qA fA qing plaH! Today is a good day to die!
It would also make more sense to divide the day into something decimal but some base twelvers showed up first. It would also make more sense to stop using measurement systems where 12 hooplas equal 1 boink. The alphabet is just another thing like that. It's been stolen and rewritten and now we are stuck with it. You can write an alternative sound map to help new learners. But the 26 letter order is here to stay.
When you're using lemmy or mastodon, you don't have to use the website. You can use an app that goes from your fingers to the server without needing a browser and a website to exchange the information.
So most if not all the instances of the fediverse are also a website if you need to use it. But not every website is an instance of the fediverse.
Socialism badge unlocked.
In their defense, they were probably lying before the advent of so-called AI as well.
That presupposes though that a shapeshifter would need to see their own reflection to judge the look. If you have developed over millennia the ability to change your appearance at a molecular level, or physically speaking thereabouts, you probably have developed the ability to judge the look without having to look at it. You would be a rock who knew how to become Michelangelo's David.
I'd be amazed to hear that chameleons practice at a puddle before they try to blend in with the jungle. But I was sick a lot when they taught biology in school.
I'm sorry about your mom's illness.
What I'm reading here in this thread is that you haven't found the right therapist yet. And us jokers on the internet cannot fill that void for you.
We all have to live with bad memories. Regardless of quality if we were to enter a pissing contest to see whose suffering is greatest. You're not living with yours, they keep you as a pet. I would go so far as saying being an obsessive goodie has not worked for you either. So look for a different therapist. At the very least another channel for you pent up regret. You can of course still be nice to the people around you. But you gotta give yourself a break from trying to outshine your average saint.
Without wading into the therapeutic too much, is there a way to move your PC, maybe to the bedroom. Or to set your partner up with wireless headphones.
I would say it isn't so important to put a label on either of you as it is to find a workable solution. So frame your approach in these terms, make a schedule for headphone time, don't engage in the at home therapy. Other than that, look for somebody who knows both of you better than me or anybody else here. The advice is probably going to be better.
How long have you been together? How long since you moved in together?
European-Americans
Why only those?
need better leadership role models to show them that education and hard work
Compulsory education in the US is straddled with numerous problems. Underfunding is maybe the biggest one. The fact that schools need to be converted into bullet proof bunkers doesn't help. Standardized tests are not a foolproof way to assess people's aptitudes. The curriculum in some states leaves a lot to be desired. A defective system cannot produce perfect students. And we're not even talking about the insane for-profit higher education system that gives people debt for life. The system produces undereducated leadership role models. The good people tend to find other areas to work in. You cannot demand new role models without a complete, well-funded overhaul of the entire education system.
Hard work can be helpful to get ahead in life. But it's no guarantor of success. It's more luck or inherited wealth that get you ahead. You seem to adhere to the good old American dream idea, rags to riches stuff. It's a mirage. Like the melting pot theory or manifest destiny it deserves to be deposited on the trash heap of history. There was probably more truth to the dream when rent/mortgage was a fifth of your average paycheck when it's now most of your average paycheck. That is if you still have a home. Times have changed, ideas are still catching up.
— not violence, promiscuity, and criminality — are the right ways to get ahead.
Violence? Agreed. Crime? Also agreed. Promiscuity? You'd have to define that first. And I have an inkling I may not agree with you once you have.
Fundamentally, you could make a caveat even for violence and crime under certain circumstances. One man's terrorist is another man's freedom fighter. To the Brits George Washington was a violent criminal. Violence is baked into the birth of a nation, along with the prolonged history of slavery and segregation.
I also think that former criminals can be valuable role models. It depends on many factors, e.g. have they paid what we call the debt to society? Have they atoned? Etc. But if I'm not mistaken you're looking more at financial fraud and maybe sexual misconduct - don't have a clue why those two popped up first in my head - and I would say that disqualifies perpetrators from being leadership role models. People who vote for people like that to get into positions of power anyway are a real thorn in my sight as well.
So I find bits of your statement that I can warm up to. Overall, I think it's a bit populist for my taste. I disagree with some of the assumptions I think you've made. And it does nothing to address any underlying problems as I see them.
The movements of people since time immemorial does not adhere to the arbitrary political lines we've drawn between nations today. Both France and England have seen large scale immigration by the Romans, various old Germanic people, then the Vikings. All these people have killed and fucked each other. Attributing DNA to an area is partially a statistical likelihood, so there's a margin for error. Except in geographically and/or historically isolated areas, we're all more blended than anything else. That makes the race theory of the late 19th century seem so utterly ludicrous today but we can't quite completely get it out of our heads either.
But we already know what to expect thanks to Stormy Daniels.