FriendOfDeSoto

joined 2 years ago

There is no simple answer to this. It's like at least three factors interacting. How much empathy do you feel towards the other person? How close is your relationship on the scale of strangers bumping into each other on the street to best friends forever? How big an issue has any of this been objectively (or as close as you can get there)? So that's three sliding scales to adjust to get an outcome. The closer a relationship is, the harder this can be because there is history and people (I'm including myself in this) can be very petty.

Just judging by the hints you dropped you should probably reconsider your approach to your coworkers. And I don't mean you need to be submissively apologetic all the time and share everything from your private life, even your hemorrhoid problems, with the crew. You'll probably make your life easier just on a human level plus improve odds of promotion if you do more of that, even if it feels more line cosplay to you. I share your "grow the eff up"/no bullshit stance but that only works in a group of like minded people.

I think it's the wrong label, anti-intellectualusm. Sense of reality might do it more justice. I think there are two factors at play. 1) how much does higher education cost you? Does it put you in debt you'll be lucky to have paid off before you retire? Have other people gotten degrees and still ended up unemployed? Why get majorly in debt to get no job in the end? That's more a North American specific problem. I'm in Asia and I haven't heard anybody shit talking college degrees in favor of the trades. 2) We need plumbers and carpenters and welders and whatnot. And due to declining birth rates in many places and the fact that the numerous birth years of the boomers are retiring and will continue to retire in the short term, we are running out of sparkies, masons, and HVACs. So if you had to career advise people today, you'd be silly not to bring up a profession with near certainty of getting a job once you're trained up.

Shitty work environments exist in more high brow professions as well.

[–] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Think about it

I have done that. I'm just more forgiving than you. They may have shot the go ahead scene and cut it for an unrelated reason. They may have decided not to want to get Romijn or Mount do another ADR session, which costs money. The Paramount/Skydance merger loomed heavily over this season's production with tight budgets and uncertainty for the future. I'm not saying the episode is perfectly put together. I guess what I am saying is that you are hung up on one detail here. I suggest you give it the Elsa treatment.

This is my perspective: this is a silly show. They did a musical episode, which I really didn't like. They did a documentary episode, which I could've done without. I feel Babylon 5 did a much better job with this kind of meta TV episode. They took the established "space dad" Pike character and made him unsure and hesitant this season and I don't know why. They are taking a soap approach to relationships within the show. The show is a dead man walking with its end after 5 more episodes already decided. All new Trek shows have already been axed and I'm not optimistic about the success of Academy. S31... With all of this going on in the background I choose to smile that SNW exists and not cry because the stories are wonky here or there.

People are mad. There are mad people on both sides.

Consumers can feel very empowered by a few hundred followers and one bad experience. And that translates more into a diss track, embelished and dramatized, than an honest review. Entrepreneurs justifiably fear this because this can hurt their businesses significantly. So they fight back with this legal retcon attempt. It's most likely not enforceable - and they probably know that too. If they wouldn't mind you speaking positively about you online, they cannot keep the negative stuff out either (as long as it is based in fact, libel is a different story). This little boiler plate serves only to give pause to the consumer. It plants a seed of restraint in their minds (if they actually read it).

Humans are a complicated species.

We can all agree kids shouldn't be watching porn. We do not agree on how to achieve this.

That was only option 2.

[–] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 19 points 1 week ago (2 children)

You need to try for yourself. Or consult a therapist who knows you well enough. Us idiots on the internet cannot look inside your head.

[–] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 11 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I think "vibe scripted" is harsh. The writers were bumping against the restriction that they need

spoilerChapel blood next to anybody when they enter or exit the place. That's why the alien buys it. Scaredy pants tries to go out on his own and gets fried. They wanted to avoid another entrance/exit on screen to keep us guessing how this Star Trek Inception works.

It's a version of "commander, you better take a look at this." It keeps the suspense up for the audience as Riker saunters over, maneuvering over multiple chairs, to take a look at the corpse of the mortal enemy of the federation. In a real military, Worf would say something like "heads up, Romulan casualties on the premise, everybody be on the lookout." That's to prevent the commander or anybody else from getting shot by a possible half-dead Rom in the rubble. But that's not great television. It's just script writing 101.

[–] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Gul Darheel* is dead and buried on Cardassia. Smug Dukat tells Odo he attended his funeral. That's kind of a big ask for Bashir to accomplish resurrection from DS9.

Marritza suffered from the HDJ syndrome as well. It befalls characters whose death fits the story - and it is a more impactful ending with Kira almost mourning the loss of this guy.

*previously mentioned in the title but since edited out.

[–] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Wortfindungseuphorie.

That's not universally true. Necrophiles may be past that, according to preference.

Kids are probably old enough to get it. I would just think that you will be loading a shotgun that's going to shoot you in the face down the line. Either the ladies will get in each other's hair or, worse, they'll team up against you. I think your girlfriend is either insane or not entirely honest when she says she would be fine with your arrangement. I would sooner suggest you look for a place closeby. I'm guessing the 15yo is eye rolling you hard and the 13yo will soon not care about you either. You've carried them through the divorce rough spot with your unique living arrangement. Take a bow and let it go. Provide a better environment for your new relationship.

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