ArseAssassin

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[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 6 points 3 days ago

Nope. Usually when I heard it argued that humans are used to moving from area to area throughout the year, what gets left out of the discussion is that they were moving with their friends and extended family. I recognize my need for intimacy in a shared physical space to remain healthy.

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 week ago

I wouldn't know what you need to know. But based on what you mentioned here, it doesn't sound like you're going through a spiritual awakening. It's very much an embodied, not an intellectual experience. Here's an excerpt from Alan Watts' autobiography describing it:

It was in the autumn of 1932—windy, with fallen leaves skittering along roads and fields—and I was trying desperately to work out this problem: What is THE EXPERIENCE which these Oriental masters are talking about? The different ideas of it which I had in mind seemed to be approaching me like little dogs wanting to be petted, and suddenly I shouted at all of them to go away. I annihilated and bawled out every theory and concept of what should be my properly spiritual state of mind, or of what should be meant by ME. And instantly my weight vanished. I owned nothing. All hang-ups disappeared. I walked on air.

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 10 points 1 week ago

You can block anything if you're stupid enough to think it's going to work.

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 21 points 1 month ago

How to crash your software and hardware at once.

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 10 points 1 month ago

Started dating a girl who liked it when I grew it out... so haven't cut it just about ten years. She's gone, but the hair stayed. I never found a barber who could consistently cut it the way I liked, so the only alternative I could see is regularly buzzing everything off.

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 0 points 1 month ago

i am all darwin on this blessed day

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 0 points 1 month ago (3 children)

we're all darwin on this blessed day

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 month ago

For the most part, when you participate in any social interaction, people will have ready-made roles laid out for all the participants. These roles consist of an unspoken list of dos and don'ts that are absorbed through cultural osmosis to the point that they become social norms. This is all quite subconscious, and when questioned about it, most of us will either reject that they're engaged in this or answer something vague to make the question go away.

When someone shows up that doesn't quite seem to catch on to the game, many people tend to get uncomfortable. If there's someone who isn't acting their part, they're no longer sure what to do themselves. They feel threatened and shitty behavior ensues to enforce the status quo. So yes, mostly people are performing a role in order to fit in, even if they don't realize they're doing it.

On the plus side, when you meet someone who doesn't expect you to perform a role to meet their demands, it's pretty freakin' sweet.

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Um. I mean, I get what you mean. But two of those are essential nutrients.

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 2 points 2 months ago

I'm not much for small talk. Instead of following a formula, I try to find a way to be genuinely interested in the other person, then ask questions without making them uncomfortable. For me this has been the best way to get to know people I get along with.

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 1 points 2 months ago

You doing okay there buddy?

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