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For those that can't stand this time of the year, my misery seeks company. What does it for you?


For me: aside from the usual family stuff:

I worked front-end in a post office back when that meant a line-up before I opened the doors to the end of the day when I had to inform the line-up that was still out the door that, yes, I was going to close on time. (Some didn't take that well. For me it was just another Tuesday...)

It meant a lot of work with little thanks and I had to listen to the same shitty Xmas playlist over and over all day.


Edit/PS: The quick downvote sells it. Perfection. chefs kiss

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[–] oopsgodisdeadmybad@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 hours ago

I like the idea of seeing all my siblings at one time (except for that one cross country one) and seeing my nieces.

But I hate all of Christmas. Everything about it, from people having decisions up the day after Thanksgiving, to them staying up until February, the fact that most songs from this time of year talk about Jesus...

The way it (this is a little redundant) takes up the whole month is the 2nd biggest part. No other holiday gets more than 48 hours of observance, including prep time. Even extra Halloween candy is done being talked about after a day or two once the discounted stuff is bought up.

The biggest part is the religious part. My siblings all know how I feel (most of them share the feeling), but my parents didn't and I aim to keep it that way unless point blank asked about it. That conversation will not end well. I've already told them that outside weddings and funerals (and hopefully not even then) that I will not ever step for inside a church again. My family was not exactly cult level, but it bordered on it. When I finally came out of that bubble it was rough. Really rough. I didn't wanna claim religious PTSD, as I don't think it's that severe, but churches bother the hell out of me (pun not intended, but it works).

Growing up Mom had way too many decorations (in general, but especially Christmas ones) and just bringing them all in the house, and being made to help out them up was a PITA. I think part of me figured it (religious faith) out early, but it took until I was almost 31 to figure it out. But even then I was annoyed by how much work it caused.

So (TLDR) I wish it was just a day or few days where you'd hang with family you might not get to see any other time of year.

Literally every other part of it can just be forgotten with no ill effects.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 3 points 1 hour ago

My wife is determined to make it as stressful and chaotic as she can, and then spend the rest of the year complaining about how stressful and chaotic it was.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago
[–] Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 2 points 5 hours ago

Because I have this stupid condition named Avoidant Personality Disorder, which means i long for contact with people, but the more i know them, the more i start avoiding them because i do not trust the contact to be genuine. Add a dash of paranoid traits and *BANG*, you've got the perfect mixture for a complete lack of social contact even if the possibility exists.

[–] TheWeirdestCunt@lemmy.today 1 points 3 hours ago

I don't hate it I just don't celebrate it. I got a bit fed up of how stuffy most European holidays are.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 1 points 27 minutes ago

I used to hate Christmas because I felt obligated to surround myself with my asshole family.

Then I retired from family Christmas, and all is well.

[–] stringere@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)
  • Started with always stealing my birthday thunder as a kid.
  • Blatant commercial holiday (in the USA at least) encouraging rampant consumerism.
  • Cultural appropriation; no fucking sleighbells and fir trees in Jerusalem. Pretty trim on reindeer, too.
  • Stole the holiday and trappings from the pagans they persecuted.

Edit to add:

  • Had to visit family from the born again christian evangelicals on one side and republican supply side jesus christians on the other.
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