Yes but idc cause I'm Hindu.
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I'm usually alone for more years than not at Christmas. Also Thanksgiving. Halloween alot. I'm single for every Valentine's Day. I've got nowhere to go for New Year's Eve since I quit drinking. Basically every holiday.
I sometimes wonder how long it will take for people to notice that I'm dead after I pass. I wonder who will pay for the funeral.
I had/have the same thoughts. IANAL but I think if no one claims your corpse, the government pays for its disposal.
Let's just get through Christmas before tackling the other stuff in your post. One depressing lump of crap at a time! 🍻
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i’m chronically suicidal, but during a particularly extra bad time in my life i asked multiple people just to check in on me daily to see if i was alive so that my cat wouldn’t starve or be without water. i didn’t have the energy to talk so i wasn’t asking for a conversation. just making sure i was alive.
i had an (obviously failed) attempt.
a week passed after that with no one checking in on me.
If it wasn’t for my support workers I wouldn’t see anyone for months on end.
For the past 4 Christmases, I’ve gone snowboarding by myself. I love it. Snowboarding is my favorite activity and ski resorts are practically empty on Christmas Day.
If I have some social energy, I’ll chat with randos on the lift or at the hotel hot tub afterwards. Or if I feel like taking a break from humanity, I won’t speak a word the entire day. Both can be fun. Just following whatever my feelings are that day.
I did Christmas alone before and if you have a Chinatown near you I recommend going because it's like Christmas doesn't even exist. It'll be full of Asian and Jewish people and you can eat some good food and pretend it's any other day.
I'm Asian so living with family is the norm... (I'm a young adult, think lile college age, but I'm dealing with depression so college plans are on pause)
But idk, I remember I had fun times with my mother when I was just a kid. Now... idk...
So much depression from both trauma within the family, and trauma from outside (school... xenophobia/racism and bullying, and also political instability)
I'm not alone, but I'm lonely.
I have a older brother, but something happened years ago and we don't vibe anymore. (sibling abuse, fighting...)
I don't really have friends, I'm not good at keeping friends... so... yeah...
Not alone, just lonely.
I have a cat, but I'm not a good owner, so my cat is kinda indifferent towards me, it's my fault for not being in a good enough mental state to play with my cat. I kinda messed up this timeline, I wish I could go back to re-do it.
A cat's mental state leans towards indifference naturally, it doesn't necessarily mean you're a bad owner. If it doesn't mind being around you, and it can be relaxed in the same room, that's a good sign it considers you a friend. Although if you can sometimes muster up a few minutes of play, that might be good for both of you.
Cat pics etc can be the presents haha.
If it's meant to happen, it will find a way to happen!
I love spending Christmas alone when it's my choice... and I have food and not being crushed with stress from all directions, and not living in a street full crazy people who won't let me have any peace in my own home. It's very different when you've been treated like shit all year, then have a super shitty Christmas lined up.
By choice. I loathe traveling around holidays due to larger crowds (and weather can be shit this time of year) so I just stay home. Having arguably the biggest holiday during a time of year that frequently gets bad weather was not a big brain move. I guess it works well for the southern hemisphere though.
I'm non-religious, so the holiday just means some time off work.
Same, traveling around the holidays is awful
I spent a Christmas alone once and absolutely loved it. It was nice to have some "me" time without having to deal with the Hoi Polloi.
How comes you're going to be alone this year? Is there anything fun you can get up to on the day? (hobby or something?) if possible and appropriate try and have as much "fun" as possible; whether if it's relaxing and having a bath or reading a book with some tea.
IDK what instance or community that would be but it sounds like a good idea. Also I can personally send you a cat picture if that would help
This is the first year I won’t be alone for Xmas in a decade. I’m seeing my support worker on Xmas day
I don't do christmas so i'm always alone. Lunar new year though, i'm thinking of hiding.
Mom is suffering from shrinking family syndrome (people keep dying) and so she wants everyone home for Christmas, but TBH, I'm not confident either my wife or myself will be fit to travel by then so... 🤷♂️
Might just be us, our son and his wife...
those at a loose end could at least have each other for company throughout the Christmas period.
Hey, last year on Christmas Day we had a "chat" post here on Lemmy... I think it was one of the "casual conversation" communities, and we all just talked, maybe we could do it again this year?!
I might ask over there. Cheers.
oh yeah I finally had time to look it up. it was on "casual conversation" back before lemm.ee died, but you can see an archive of it here: https://lemmy.world/post/23527561 The replacement community is: !casualconversation@piefed.social
I have my parents thankfully. I wish I had my girlfriend but she was forced to leave the country because her visa expired and she couldn't find a job which paid at least £41,000
Obviously a privileged position, but I wish I were.
There's no Chinatown here as such, but there's a Chinese association, where they do tai chi and stuff. I might see if they're open during Christmas.
If Christmas is impprtant for.you, yoi can always go to the church. There are always nice people there ready to.welcome you