What the actual fuck. I am kind of unsure if this is a ragebait but I will take it nonetheless.
You can judge people for thousands of ways in which they are egotistic or not charitable. Not adopting would come just about last.
I hope the person you talked to donates every cent above the bare minimum they need to survive, does not drive a car, has adopted at least 10 children and works for a charity.
Otherwise they have absolutely no right to judge people for not going through the absolutely awful adoption process and sacrificing a major part of their life for kids that potentially require much more attention and patience than most.
Most people arent even emotionally ready to raise their own children and would absolutely fail with adopted children.
Not to mention blood relation is a very special bond and you cant judge anyone for seeking that.
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I mind my own damn business. That's my view.
Adoption is a whole process, you don't "accidentally" adopt someone the way you can accidentally get pregnant. It takes a lot of effort and more importantly, MONEY to adopt.
So, no, I don't fault anyone who chooses to avoid that process.
But you're missing a few key pieces here... it's not simply natural birth vs. adoption.
Natural Birth
Foster Care
Step Parenting
Adoption
I have no biological children, but I chose to be a step parent. Kid was not in a good state, getting his mom and him away from crazy-ass grandfather let them both THRIVE.
I've always held the view that it is reckless if people do that accidentally.
I can't afford to raise a child and I'm not mentally stable enough to do so. I'm hardly in a place to judge any other childless/childfree people who don't adopt.
Though when it comes to people who are shelling out thousands of dollars on IVF because they want their precious little Myckayla or Reighlyeigh or whatever to look exactly like them, I do judge.
That's another thing. Parents often think "can I do this" and almost never "does the child need this". Most people who are ill-suited to parent would still be better for many children than the situations they're already in.
If I adopted a child I would be one of those "broken homes" you deride in your post. You don't know my situation.
"Broken homes or parentless" is a bonkers grouping. A broken home means a parent is there. Parentless can mean anything from what is clearly intended to be implied to "living with loving next of kin"