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Joke's on them. Ignoring it is the easy part. Guilt doesn't help. Meds do.

Meanwhile, constant anxiety kills you young. Imagine being so obsessed with being useful that you don't live long enough to pull it off.

I've had a weird arc. A number of months after I graduated college and started working, it finally sunk in that there wasn't always something I needed to be studying or working on, as had been the case for like my whole academic career. I had a job that I wasn't allowed to do outside the plant, so when I went out the gates I was done. Over the years I got promoted to positions of more and more responsibility and, even though I tried hard to keep work and home separate, at some point it was unavoidable and there was always something I needed to be doing, always emails I should be answering.

Then, after 40 years, I retired earlier this year. I had a lot to go through with selling a house and stuff, but it's just starting to get to the point where I don't have something I need to be doing, as had happened 40 years ago.

The neat part is that "chilling" is one of the things you need to put on that to-do list and make time for too!

If you do get some time off, you can always fill it with worries and anxieties!

A 20 year old that I worked with asked me what I did over my weekend. My response was basically a list of chores and errands.

She responded, "Nice, you were adulting hard."

I responded, "Unfortunately, I'm just an adult."

At one point, I was in a couples' therapy session and I had recently been diagnosed with cystic fibrosis. I realized (and said) in that session that I would never have a break again. Vacation from work? Still have cystic fibrosis to deal with.

Of course, this is different from person to person, but for me, a lot of anxiety comes from me putting it off. I found that taking care of the shit as soon as possible gives me the time to truly chill until the next wave of shit comes.

I know it against the spirit of the post but I have to go on a rant here.

"adulting"

I hate that word, its so stupid. It implies self infantilization, when in reality its use is just indicative of one's attitude towards work or getting anything done. And wanting everyone else around them to take care of things.

Every roommate I've had who used that fucking word did not do fucking shit around the house. They were always the victim when some disagreement happened. They sometimes got mad when I asked for their portion of rent. Just absolutely manipulative narcissistic perpetual victims that expected me or other's to do everything for them.

As soon as I save up and move I will be so happy to finally live alone for the first time in my life. Rent will be more expensive and I'll save way less but at least there will be fewer human variables like that to deal with.

Part of being an adult is knowing what you can ignore for a while and what you can't. So I don't really see a problem there.

I have to say, there is an established solution to this problem: having a functional and comminicative extended family/social network. Car trouble? Your uncle and cousin can help you fix it tomorrow. Paying rent/mortgage? Not when you live in the big family home with 3 other generations of people that's been paid off for the last 50 years. Cooking dinner? Grandma and aunt Bethel do it every night with help from the kids. Doing your taxes? Family friend Joe is an accountant and is glad to answer a few simple questions for you.

Unfortunately, most peoples' families are annoying as fuck.

Especially when you own a house. It never ends.

Nobody on their death bed ever wishes they'd spent more time working.

You 100% must learn how to not give a fuck sometimes. I’ve found that alcohol helps with this.

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i'm from Italy, is this an eu thing?

edit: ok if i open the post from lemmy.world the image is there, so maybe is a lemmy.zip thing?

I wish they had something to like shut my brain off and just do the shit I need to do without the significant amount of effort it takes. I just don't care about so many things that need to get down and I'm nervous to do half of them for no good reason.

Adderall helps me actually pay attention. And stay quiet.

But Jesus all this other shit that goes on makes everything insufferable.

Hang in there, it gets worse

Here's the great thing about TODO lists: I control what's on them. So I know what is completely safe to ignore and what's going to ruin me. In most cases, I have a lot of notice about important things and can plan accordingly.

Honestly, if you can get your finances figured out, most of the important things can be automated.

country music talked about that years ago ... I still enjoy quoting an old song from Hank Williams from the 1940s

"I'll never get out of this world alive!"

https://youtu.be/JyR8b_05HFc

I'm just always cutting the grass and staring at my overgrown garden.

You become aware of the futility of existence, how in another 50 years if youre lucky none of this will matter in the slightest because you'll be dead, just as life becomes the hardest to cope with.

So anyone 25-40 and still pretending to smile - youre a fucking warrior.

I cant find the relevant SMBC.

I'm in my 50s and I'm about to throw in the towel on this thing called life. I'm never going to retire. My entire life seems to be putting out fires from the week before. The world in general just seems to be getting worse.

I no longer see the point like I did when I was a young romantic.

You were brainwashed to think that you are supposed to be hyper individualistic - you arent.

ouch. I'm reading this while chilling.

God I feel this in my core.

Yeah dude, the most important part about chilling is shutting off the worry tap and fully ignoring it for a while