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Inspired by another question on this community about "the first time you drank alcohol", so I was just feeling like I'm the odd one out here.

I personally have never smoked (neither tobacco nor weed), never drank any alcohol. (Parents also don't do smoking, or drinking, or gambling so I kinda got lucky with the environment I grew up in, I guess...) Is that unusual? Gen Z btw.

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[–] 9point6@lemmy.world 32 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Yes, in short, because I like them.

For better or worse, booze is a big part of British socialising culture, so it's unusual if someone my age (mid thirties millennial) has never drank, but a couple of my mates have gone tee total in recent years.

Why do I still do it? Beers with your mates whilst enjoying a beer garden or watching the footie is a pretty enjoyable way to pass the time. I'm also a bit of a nerd with it all so I love trying new beers, there's been a huge renaissance around beer variety over the past decade-ish, so there's always something new to try. I've gotten more into wine and cocktails in recent years too, and there's a rich well of variety in there to experience too.

Smoking tobacco I generally avoid now, it's nice to have the odd one with a beer but I'll probably only have a few a year now. I regularly smoked last in my 20s. I occasionally have ended up with a vape in my pocket after a big night out, but I don't really like them much flavour wise.

Weed is something I still enjoy, it helps me clear my head, relax, and kinda be more present with whatever activity I'm engaging in, if I'm smoking with mates it can often be a pretty hilarious time. However, it's easy for me to slip into habitual use with it especially though, I don't really seem to get much in the way of acute negative effects beyond tolerance, so I try to be mindful to keep it in check these days. I'll probably try and relegate it to a treat for when I visit somewhere like Amsterdam in the coming years given the downsides of smoking (I've got a vape, but I basically never choose it).

FWIW I've heard that Gen Z is differing their consumption habits significantly from previous generations. Less drinking alcohol in general, preferring non-smokeable forms of tobacco/weed.

[–] Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 5 days ago

I've never smoked and I don't ever plan to (it can lessen the effect of HRT) but I do drink alcohol occasionally. Meaning I drink maybe one cocktail or longdrink every two or three months.

[–] tipicaldik@lemmy.world 18 points 5 days ago (1 children)

There doesn't appear to be too many bad examples in here, so allow me.

I smoked cigarettes for a long time and, at 59, got to experience lung cancer. I'm currently 62 and still dealing with it. I'd probably be dead now if the mass in my lung hadn't adhered to the back of my chest cavity and eroded into one of my ribs causing a ridiculous amount of pain. Lung cancer usually goes undetected until it spreads to other places, like the brain, so I guess I got lucky. It did pop up on an adrenal gland, but we nuked that one too. I have another small mass in my other lung that will probably have to be radiated too. I'm also dealing with emphysema and a mouth half full of fucked up teeth. (So glamorous!)

Having no wind in my sails and trying to talk around and eat with both upper and lower partials just sucks all around. I'm only 62, but I feel like I'm 82, and I only have myself to blame.

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[–] aeternum@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 5 days ago

No. I don't want cancer, so i don't smoke. I also was an alco, so I'm recovered now and don't want to go back to that. I'm sure my liver agrees with my decision.

[–] kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Elder millennial. I think we were the last gen where cigarettes, booze, and drugs were seen as "cool". Younger people seemed to have figured it out early how much of a fucking waste of time and money all three are.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Who is drinking because they think it makes them look cool? Drinking at home isn't to impress others.

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[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 10 points 4 days ago

I drink beer cuz look around.

[–] chunes@lemmy.world 9 points 4 days ago (7 children)

No. Paying money to ingest poison is extremely unappealing

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[–] GreyShuck@feddit.uk 8 points 5 days ago

I'm the older end of Gen X, and have never smoked. The major factor in starting is peer pressure and I didn't have any peers around me at the critical time who did. My family didn't either.

I seldom drink alcohol and then I have only ever enjoyed cider - not beer, wine or spirits. This is just a matter of the taste for me. I simply don't like it.

As a kid, I had had grape juice and I had heard adults enthusing about wine as usual and I had a idea what it must taste like.

If you imagine a taste/mouthfeel spectrum with wine at one end and grape juice in the middle, what I imagined wine to taste like was pretty much at the opposite end of that spectrum to what it actually tastes like. I had one mouthful and had no desire for any more at all. I have obviously tried wine and the rest at various times since, but my opinion is basically the same.

With cider, I'll seldom have more that a pint or two a month these days.

[–] Kennystillalive@feddit.org 7 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Smoking: never, it smells awefull.

Drinking: yes, but not regularly and never alone. Most of the time in social situations and when partying.

Drugs: never.

Gambling: I play gacha games.

[–] zwerg@feddit.org 7 points 5 days ago

Smoking no, never. I was a heavy drinker in my teens and 20s, gave that up because I was getting fat (I'm vain, deal with it!). At that time, I started taking MDMA and speed. It was the late 90s, so it was a pretty standard for the rave and alternative scenes at the time. Gave that up when I got Menieres disease in my early 40s. Now I have one drink once or twice a month, but mostly drink plain old water.

[–] Octavio@lemmy.world 7 points 5 days ago

I started smoking and drinking at 12 because I thought it would make me look cool and developed a pretty bad drinking habit in high school and college. After college it got worse and there were some severe consequences. Finally got sober at 30. I’d been trying to quit smoking for years but would always light up when I’d had a few beers and since that was pretty much all the time, I wasn’t able to quit smoking until I quit drinking.

I haven’t touched either in almost 27 years and I’m so much better off for it.

[–] farngis_mcgiles@sh.itjust.works 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

i drink cigs and smoke beer

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[–] bent@feddit.dk 7 points 4 days ago

I like to get a little intoxicated and find the different headspaces the drugs provides to be very relaxing and fun. That said, I get a really good calming buzz from a cup of coffee and some particular candy (vespebol) these days.

I used to drink a lot, mostly because it was fun and relaxing to start, then it became habitual. I drink way less now, I like the buzz and mindset I get from a few beers, but I no longer need the escape that drunkenness provides and I've grown to really dislike it. Stopped drinking for a little while, then eased back into it and experimented with it for a few years. I found that for me the cost of drinking increases exponentially per unit and the benefits flattens and become costs after a few units now.

I only have tobacco when someone has rolled a joint with it. Had my first while cigarette at 29, I got a really good nicotine shock from it, which I loved, but my lungs hurt for days afterwards so I'm staying away from tobacco, never tried snus either even though it's pretty huge around here.

Don't really smoke much weed either, but I'll have a puff if someone is offering. I like the buz and calmness it brings.

Not nearly as much as I once did. I quit dipping about 15 years ago and started drinking a lot less after getting diagnosed and medicated for ADHD.

I do enjoy a good cigar and a glass of Macallan occasionally but that's too expensive to be a regular habit.

[–] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

No and no, because I'm Muslim and because both are poison that will literally kill you.

[–] als@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I understand if you don't for religious reasons but both only kill you if done to excess. Yes, they're not healthy things to do but in moderation there's often little harm done. Too much water will literally kill you. My personal view is that we're all gonna die anyway, the world's an absolute mess so I might aswell enjoy the bits I can

[–] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

but both only kill you if done to excess.

You'd think so but nope! According to WHO (and every other relevant organization), relevant risks increase from the first drop of alcohol, so while smaller amounts are less dangerous even moderate consumption will still literally kill you. Technically moderate consumption has some minor health benefits, but those are canceled out by the risks.

while the greatest risks are seen with heavy long-term use, even low alcohol consumption (defined as less than one drink per day) or moderate consumption (up to two drinks per day for men, and one drink per day for women because they absorb and metabolize it differently) can increase cancer risk. Among women, light drinkers have a four percent increased risk of[breast cancer, while moderate drinkers have a 23 percent increased risk of the disease.

Apparently alcohol kills about 170k+ people a year and causes millions of ER visits in America alone through various mechanisms (this data is an underestimate).

PS: I chose alcohol because it's the more controversial of the two, but everything I said here also applies to smoking.

[–] Brekky@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago

Can not will

[–] BryceBassitt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

No tobacco because ew and no alcohol because headaches

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

You loose a lot of money and a lot of life expectancy for very little fun and you smell bad after.

Also, you annoy people around you and eventually poison them too

Not worth it.

[–] ameancow@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Quit self-medication years ago because it's lethal, killed my whole family, and right now we should all be hoarding money to keep it out of the hands of the oligarchs and tyrants trying to seize our land.

[–] brachypelmide@lemmy.zip 6 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

No to both.

No to smoking because it stinks, it's expensive, and it deteriorates everything around you and inside you.

And no to drinking because it has ruined the lives of everyone around me, which in turn partially ruined mine as well.

Polish drinking culture is devastating, even among Gen Z. Lost too many of my friends to alcohol - somehow each and every one of them who started went into a downwards spiral and became a shell of their former self.

My home stopped giving me the feeling of safety as my parents' alcohol-induced fights stripped it away. Same thing happened to my university dorm, as 9 times out of 10 I'd come back to a room that had vomit everywhere and my drunk roommate laying unconscious on the floor.

I don't know if I'm a magnet for these kinds of people or what, but because of that I've been against alcohol ever since I first learned what the word meant.

[–] Lucelu2@lemmy.zip 6 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

I don't think this is unusual for your generation. GenZ seems risk adverse. It is surprising that you all drive before age 18. Many won't actually call somebody or someplace using your voice.

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[–] bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 5 points 5 days ago

I'm chronically ill so I can't smoke or drink. But I used to smoke marijuana and drink alcohol. At least at parties or sometimes a glass of wine with dinner. I sometimes miss it but not too much.

Friend of mine is basically like you. Never smoked, never drank except for half a glass of champagne on his 18th birthday. The closest he ever came to real drug use was when we were playing board games with friends in a closed room and three joints were constantly circling the table. At one point he remarked feeling a bit woozy.

But people mostly accept his choice. And even in our most egregious party phases he was constantly one of the last people to leave a party. So it didn't exclude him socially or so.

[–] Bunbury@feddit.nl 5 points 4 days ago

Millennial here. Never smoked, never tempted to either. Don’t like the taste of alcohol unless it’s in deserts, so no temptation there. Tried weed once, also that is not for me. Heck, I even avoid caffeine most days so I don’t build up a tolerance for days when I actually need it.

[–] dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works 5 points 4 days ago

Alcohol yes. Less the older I get.

I've got an appreciation for bourbon and wine, so tasting those is pretty enjoyable. I also like a cold beer every now and then if I'm running the grill and it's particularly hot, just not IPAs: I'm not that basic.

Tobacco no. I have tried it, but both my parents are smokers and I don't like the smell.

I'm a millennial.

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.4d2.org 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I never smoked. No desire to do so. Too many adverse effects and too expensive compared to psychiatric drugs.

I used to drink a little bit, specifically liqueurs like Disaronno and RumChata. I just liked the taste, honest! Can't drink those anymore because of my meds 😕. Oh well.

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[–] ModernRisk@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 5 days ago

I used to be a social smoker (cigarettes, shisha and randomly a cigar). However, I quit years ago with it.

I once had a thought “we are like a lucifer lighter, isn’t it? We smoke, smoke and smoke. Get all burned up and then throw away our lives because of it”.

At that moment, I told myself; no more. Quit cold-turkey. I never drink alcohol (due to religion).

[–] ChetManly@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago

Beer, Wine, Mead, Spirits a couple times a week on average. I am super interesting in alcohol and its production as it pertains to our culture, biology, technology, and frankly our existence today. Fermentation, in general, is truly a cornerstone of us as a species.

[–] Lokoschade@feddit.org 4 points 5 days ago

I have a friend that I smoke a cigarette with at parties (the last time was several years ago so not a common occurrence) and I also have never once bought a pack for myself. If I drink it's only at social occasions and only if they have anything I like (and if it's not too expensive). I smoked my selfgrown weed once the rest I gave to a friend and I'm probably gonna test this years harvest as well. And while we are at it I also took LSD once and I would want to try shrooms one day.

[–] stoy@lemmy.zip 4 points 5 days ago

Tobacco: no absolutely not, I hate the smell and just don't see the point.

Alcohol: extremely rarely, I have a well stocked bar at home, and used to drink alcohol a few times a month, but in the last few years two things happened.

  1. I got a driving license and a car, I was 35 and got it late. I have a zero tolerance for alcohol and driving, no light beer, nothing, if I am going to drive I will simply not drink any alcohol. And since I got the driving license and car I want to be able to get in the car at any point in case of emergencies and not have to worry about having had alcohol.
  2. I realized that alcohol was just simply annoying to me, I get hot, have trouble sleeping and the next day I am really tired and slow to get going, even after just having drunk a small ammonit. I apparently am a lightweight, and that it perfectly fine, alcohol doesn't mean much to me, so I don't feel like I am missing anything. I like the bottles of alcohol I have so I will save them for a bar shelf that looks cool. I do participate in toasts or celebrations when I know I won't drive, I even have four bottles of cheap champagne with customized ribbons for Trump, Putin, Musk and Orban to toast with when the world is spared their existance, but that is the extent of my alcohol consumption.
[–] Horsey@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago

I hate everything about tobacco. Drink? Only specialish occasions.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

I used to drink more during my college years. That and right after was the hardest part of my life, aside from now, but I don't drink as much now.

Joints though, nothing beats the convenience of a nice joint. Good edibles are hard to find, drinks are nice but pricy and rarely less than 10MG, and my herbal vape (not a typical vape) is nice but feels weak. I need to break off of them. I also enjoy rolling them, it's therapeutic.

I'm allergic to cigarette smoke and hate tobacco, thankfully

[–] HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 days ago

I smoke nicotine plants maybe once or twice a month ritualistically. It's genuinely nice in moderation (and something only a tiny, tiny minority typically pursue).

As for alcohol, it's GHB but toxic--GHB is better in every single way, no thanks.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 4 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (6 children)

I smoke cigarettes. Because they're fucking addictive and it's hard af to quit.

I smoke weed because it stops me getting anxiety and also makes my thoughts slow down and become quieter so it's not like a crowded room full of people having different conversations talking over each other.

I have drank alcohol, and very rarely still do, but I don't like being drunk. Just like the taste of a white russian or margarita once in a blue moon.

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[–] Jarix@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Grew up in a house with 3 smokers. I breathed second hand smoke for more than 30 years. (Total, not consecutive)

I won't ever smoke cigarettes, smoke cigars occasionally, (been more than 4 years, but I still have a bunch in my humidor.

I will say that after I finally left that environment, it took about 6 months to realize what cigarettes actual smell like on clothes from the perspective of someone who isn't noseblind to the smell.

Good damn I didn't know how I just have smelled to other people, doing smoke around other people who don't want to be around it please, that caused me more problems than I ever knew

[–] TomMasz@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

I've never smoked. My mom died of lung cancer when I was 14, that was a clear message.

I have consumed alcohol for most of my adult life. At present, I have 3 beers a week on average, wine perhaps a couple of times a year (usually holidays), and other drinks every couple of years. I drank more and more often in the past but it's been less and less over time.

[–] baduhai@sopuli.xyz 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I've tried smoking cigarettes and cigars a few times, tastes like shit. If I go out with friends to a shisha bar however, I'll probably smoke with them. Haven't done so in years though. As for weed, I don't care for it enough to smoke regularly. I won't say no if I'm out with friends, but I won't seek it out myself.

As for drinking, I'll have a beer on the weekend, I'll buy some white wine 3 or 4 times a year, and have cocktails on special occasions. I suppose I'm a social drinker.

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[–] ArsonButCute@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 5 days ago

I firmly believe in moderation.

I roll my own cigarettes, I might go through two a day if I'm overusing. Vaping changed my relationship with Nicotine such that I have a much as I want, when I want it. Rolling my own allows me to bypass the markings on a cigarette that tell you "you're done smoking this one" giving me power over it, a chance to decide I've had enough without the smoke making that decision for me.

I also occasionally consume alcohol. My partner is a recovering alcoholic who also believes in my philosophy of moderation over abstainance, simply for the power over substance aspect. We occasionally pick up a four pack of session brews, every few weeks or so. Beer is tasty, but we never want to have more on us than we'll have in an evening, and we try not to make a habit of consuming.

Why? I enjoy my vices. I don't feel as though the way I partake in them has negatively affected my life, so I plan to continue partaking in them as I choose to.

[–] miked@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 days ago

Quit smoking 25 years ago. Still drink.

[–] urheber@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 5 days ago

I drink since I'm 12, at least once a week (not quite till blackout ...) because, it's the only legal drug I can take.... Except for Weird stuff from pharmacies, but that's too expensive, and you only trip for 4 hours

[–] twice_hatch@midwest.social 3 points 5 days ago

Nah. Grew up in a non-smoking family. Never got the taste for alcohol even though I've tried it a few times. I'm a sugar fiend though

[–] Glytch@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

No tobacco and no alcohol here. I used to binge drink in college but after a night of drinking ended up with a $6000 ER/ambulance bill (yes I am American how did you know?), I decided it was time to stop altogether because I can't control my intake when I drink.

[–] Nibodhika@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

I don't smoke tobacco, tried it once when I was younger, not my thing, didn't liked the feeling on my lungs at all, and I've seen how difficult it is to deal with the addiction from both my parents, so I never wanted to start. Weed smoke is a bit less coarse on my lungs, but still I strongly dislike the feeling (dry herb vaporizer is much better in that regard).

Alcohol I don't usually have. I might drink a beer or a whiskey in social situations, but haven't been drunk in the past 20 years.

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

No, watched a close relative die a long, slow, painful death from emphysema. Never felt a desire to smoke.

As I've noted elsewhere, my liver doesn't process alcohol correctly so I can't drink either.

[–] Kyle_The_G@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

I don't do tobacco, I just don't like it and the adverse health effects are well documented.

I do weed occasionally on weekends to relax, I'll mix things up between a dry flower vape (Pax) and edibles.

I also drink on weekends for the same reason, relaxation. I usually have a set amount in mind then stop for the evening and switch to tea. I only get stupid a few times a year with friends.

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