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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

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[–] hitmyspot@aussie.zone 154 points 1 day ago (10 children)

I've got 2 kids in primary school. We teach them to be kind and caring, that cheaters never win. That bullies are bullies because they are not happy.

However a study came out that compared bullies and non bullies. Bullies kids are more likely to be successful financially and socially based on studies. I was sad for humanity when o found out.

It makes sense, in the same way that it makes sense that CEO's are more likely to be sociopaths. Human brains are made for small societies. When it's a larger society, negative traits can be helpful to get ahead. It's likely part of the reason we experience wars and famine and billionaires.

[–] Doll_Tow_Jet-ski@fedia.io 99 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I love you put billionaires next to other disasters

[–] Coelacanth@feddit.nu 26 points 1 day ago (1 children)

In many ways billionaires are worse than the other disasters listed.

[–] jballs@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Mostly because people aspire to be billionaires. Society would be much better off if people aspired to be hurricanes.

[–] clif@lemmy.world 7 points 23 hours ago

Thank you, I have a new goal in life.

[–] Saleh@feddit.org 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That is unless the bully messes with the wrong person and gets the shit beaten out of them.

[–] TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 33 points 1 day ago (1 children)

And then they become adults and find different ways to mess with people, hire bodyguards, expensive lawyers, group up with other corrupt people who find joy in people suffering, shit in their diapers under their suit, etc.

[–] P00ptart@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

End them all.

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[–] SalamenceFury@lemmy.world 63 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (6 children)

Maybe, but it also means that you'll be alone for eternity and will never have true friends or camaraderie, and that by itself will consume you.

There is only so many people you can do that to before everyone else catches on and shuns you. All the evil people in the world don't have any friends and are subject to betrayals and threats in their lives constantly. To me, that's not a bearable existence. Sure, you got power, but you're miserable and afraid all the time. Was that really worth it?

[–] HappySkullsplitter@lemmy.world 56 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That doesn't seem to bother the kind of people being described

[–] Saleh@feddit.org 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Does Muskrat seem like a happy and balanced individual to you? What about Coked up Bezos or AI Zuckerberg?

[–] TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Zuckbot seems legitimately happy now after being less involved with the company and pursuing personal goals

[–] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 21 points 1 day ago (10 children)

you’ll be alone for eternity and will never have true friends or camaraderie, and that by itself will consume you.

I AM a morally decent person who makes efforts to do the right thing. And that last part is STILL true!

I just don't like most people.

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[–] TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago (10 children)

There are plenty of corrupt people who are never caught, or even caught and let go with little to no consequences due to their influence and money. As much as I want to live in a world where karma exists and assholes get what they deserve, that is unfortunately not the reality we live in.

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[–] Artisian@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You can be selective with this power; works well for a lot of folks. Have a smallish in group where you're always upstanding, enjoy all the benefits that our tribal brain craves, and also enjoy the material benefits.

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[–] lemmy_outta_here@lemmy.world 35 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is only true in a world that is mostly full of people with morals. A society built on lying and manipulation inevitably collapses - look at what is happening to the United States. They elected an amoral lying manipulator and in just six months their society is unraveling. They just passed a law that took money away from hungry children and sick people so that their psychopathic leader can better persecute his enemies: that is, anyone who opposes him. ICE just became the best-funded "law" enforcement agency ever created. It is obvious to everyone except a handful of naive idiots that ICE will be used against US citizens to consolidate MAGA's power in an attempt to create a permanent regime. These states always collapse sooner or later, though, because morality is the foundation of law. No one is going to invest in a country where their assets can be seized and they can be imprisoned on the caprice of a senile madman. You can't have trade without trust - all that is left in places like the US are predators and prey.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 21 points 1 day ago (2 children)

This unraveling has been going on a lot longer than just six months. It's been accelerating hard since the Patriot Act after 9/11. And even before that, Republicans had been lying about their support of free markets for generations.

[–] vivalapivo@lemmy.today 27 points 1 day ago

Yes and i would choose to have morals anyway

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yay capitalism! Perfect reasoning not to feel bad lying on a resume.

[–] Speculater@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If they can lie about the company and position, I can lie about my experience and fit.

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[–] Eknz@lemmy.eknz.org 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It may seem this way at times, however, it really depends on the system you're participating in.

Have a play around with: The evolution of trust - https://ncase.me/trust/

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[–] Fletcher@lemmy.today 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

One doesn't do the right thing to be rewarded or to 'get ahead'. One does the right thing because it's the right thing to do. Selfishness only leads to insecurity and loneliness.

[–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 day ago

Yep. That's what the selfish ones have been telling us for thousands of years.

[–] el_eh_chase@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

You'll still be a shit person, likely with no meaningful friendships. That's gotta factor into the equation somehow.

[–] TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 19 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

People with low empathy don't see people as companions, but more as tools to benefit themselves. So they don't really care as long as they have enough money and pawns to take care of themselves.

[–] LadyButterfly@lemmy.world 8 points 2 hours ago (7 children)

I'm a domestic abuse outreach worker and I see it a lot in clients. Abusers are always selfish and generally manipulative and liars. They have little or no empathy for their partner and rarely care how the partner feels. They're often highly successful in their field, because they have such great manipulation skills.

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[–] Eknz@lemmy.eknz.org 6 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (9 children)

Reducing other people to mere tools is a symptom of psychopathy rather than simply low empathy. Yes, psychopaths are within the set of people with low empathy, however, shouldn't be confused with the set itself. It's also specifically a lack of affective (warm) empathy that's more of the problem than a lack of empathy in general, as some psychopaths do have cognitive (cold) empathy, and so do understand others (albeit to a limited extent), however, just use it to be more exploitive rather than less. This is by contrast with autistic people who often struggle with cognitive (cold) empathy, however, not with affective (warm) empathy, i.e. they don't know how they've hurt people but they know they've hurt people and try to avoid doing so.

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[–] thevoidzero@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

Sure but it's lonely at the top. If you rise to the top by backstabbing people, you'll end up exactly how some people right now are, and you keep trying to accumulate more and be great or whatever messing up everything else and being hated.

While a simple life with your loved ones will give you satisfaction. And satisfaction is the key to happiness. Rather satisfaction is the ultimate happiness.

[–] vane@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It depends where you want to go. Knowledge is always bigger than power, power gives money but knowledge gives depression and suicide thoughts. The fast escape path is obvious.

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[–] FreakinSteve@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

I so wish that I could grift the fuck out of the goddamn Nazis and get rich off of their idiocy but I would feel icky with dirty money.

[–] kelpie_returns@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

You could do it and then give me the money

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[–] the_q@lemmy.zip 12 points 17 hours ago

A system designed by psychopaths benefits psychopaths? No way...

[–] JPSound@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

Depends on how you define "further". I'd like to leave this earth knowing I had a positive impact on those i met while I was here. I can sleep easy at night, even dispte all the hardships in my life atm, knowing I'm doing the best with what it is I have. Also, in my early 30's, I started to really internalize the, "having nice things means keeping things nice" i.e. you don't need new shiny things all the time. Take care of what you already have and you'll never be without.

I can't lie and manipulate my way into being a kind and honorable man, friend, son and brother. Me achieving those things brings me greater peace of mind and satisfaction than anything I'd ever need to lie my way into to get.

[–] Pencilnoob@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I disagree, other than a few notable counter examples most times folks are only successful when they build reliable business relationships. Most relationships will dissolve if one party is playing games.

On average it's more effective to follow "The No Assholes Rule". There's plenty of studies (referenced in the book Good To Great) that indicate that humble business leaders produce build more stable and long term profitable companies.

Lying manipulators can sometimes get ahead but just as often they get found out and blackballed.

I think it might be like a game theory type situation where if everyone is honest, then the first liar might get ahead a lot (although I suspect in that situation they'd immediately be shunned by all honest folk if found out). If everyone is a liar then honest folk have nothing to hide and probably will just be really defensive in their dealings.

[–] TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Business relationships are almost always purely transactional. When you stop being able to supply someone with what they want or at a good price then they will find someone else. The average CEO is not a friendly selfless person, which is why sociopaths find success in the business world.

Do you believe that the majority of people who hold power and influence are genuine philanthropists?

[–] Duckworthy@piefed.social 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I think power and money corrupts people. Plenty of people who started out as honest business people turn into monsters. As you move up the ladder, less and less people are honest with you. Some are climbing the ladder because they are unhappy and that definitely makes things worse, they think money or power will make them feel better, when actually I’ve found living with less and doing things yourself is ultimately more satisfying.

Anecdotally, I personally felt how wealth corrupted me - when my economy car was totaled and my insurance rental gave me a Mercedes because they were out of reasonable models . After a week of driving it I started feeling like I was better than other people on the road. Luckily I got a replacement crappy hatchback and became a normal person again.

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[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Yup and add intelligence to the list as well. Smart means nothing if you can't back it up with being an amoral pile of shit that takes advantage of people every opportunity you get.

[–] realitista@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (8 children)

If you are smart, you can afford the luxury of not being a complete piece of shit if you get into the right career.

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[–] mitexleo@buddyverse.one 9 points 1 day ago (2 children)

It's true. Still, I can't lie for some reason.

[–] Michal@programming.dev 10 points 1 day ago

It's easier not to lie. Remembering all the lies is too much effort, and being caught can be particularly embarrassing especially if you already have social anxiety.

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[–] yarr@feddit.nl 8 points 1 hour ago (3 children)

I've known this for a long time but I continue to do my best to operate honorably. I may never be rich or powerful, but I sleep very well at night.

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[–] thatradomguy@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

House MD Pilot

[–] benni@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

It makes a lot of sense. Lying and manipulation are done specifically to achieve goals. A defining characteristic of morals is that you're supposed to follow them even if it's neutral or disadvantageous for you. If someone follows "morals" to achieve a personal goal, they're not actually following morals, they're just acting in a way that incidentally looks moral.

[–] Strider@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Absolutely true and stating otherwise is just crowd control.

[–] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

See, we used to exile those types. Modern society lost that ability and now we have CEOs.

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[–] Doc_Crankenstein@slrpnk.net 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I mean, yea, that's how the economy is kinda designed for most of the world right now.

In the employee-employer relationship, the better you are as an employer at manipulating others into working for you while you retain ownership of the revenue, paying employees out percentage of what they generated as a wage while keeping the excess value as profit, is how you make a successful business.

The business-consumer relationship boils down to a transaction where you want to be the one who has the advantage on the transaction. Sellers want to sell their products for more than they're worth while the consumers want to buy those products at a discount of their perceived value. The seller's entire job is to manipulate the consumer into perceiving more value in their products than the base material value of the product to generate a revenue that exceeds the cost of its production to generate profit. That's like the basis of advertising and marketing.

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