The thing most people get wrong is mentioning someone’s assigned gender (the one they were presumed to have at birth) instead of the one they actually are. Being reminded constantly of the one thing you absolutely don’t want to be is really disheartening, even when it’s not done on purpose.
this post was submitted on 29 May 2025
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It's minor but I probably wouldn't say supposed to have sounds like they are wrong
Your comment highlights one of the difficulties I find with going between treating someone exactly as you would anyone else, while also dealing with particular sensitivities or sensibilities of that person. Even trying to describe how to be less offensive, includes wording that can sound offensive to some, justifiably so based on experience.
But all in all, I think most people will recognize good faith efforts and accept quick apologies and corrections when we make mistakes. We're not perfect.
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Just treat them with respect like anyone else. There are 3 topics to avoid in any work place for anyone: religion, politics, and sex life. That's just a good general rule for all forced mixed company situations.
Avoiding politics might be wise on some level, but by all means do talk about unionizing.
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I'd avoid any and all controversial topics and just keep things purely professional.
Used to be I'd engage with someone based on their physical presentation, but even that is a bit tricky anymore, and with social media blowing up even the most minor misunderstandings, it's best to just keep it professional.
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Treat them like any other person. Their gender/identity should have absolutely zero impact on the ability to do their job. So you don't even need to ask this question. If you feel like you're walking on eggshells and scared of bringing up an offensive topic, then that's an issue with you, not with them. There's nothing that you say that should be offending them since it's absolutely irrelevant to work.
Regardless of who your coworkers are, topics like gender identity or politics should NEVER be discussed in the workplace. If you simply avoid engaging in those types of topics then you will be safe. Talking about those things at work is an absolute horrendous idea, regardless of who the coworkers are. Those convos don't belong in the workplace.
I think some politics is healthy to talk about in certain work situations. Definitely not the red vs blue tribal nonsense, but discussing and understanding material conditions
The only politics that should be discussed at work are policies that directly impact the business. For example, my company has many conversations and meetings around impacts from Trump's tariffs. No one gives an opinion on what their politics are. Not a single one. We discuss the impact on the business and how we can mitigate them. It ends there.
I think many workplaces function better when workers are able to develop camaraderie by talking and joking about things that aren't strictly related to work
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Pick the one that's been working there longest and ask them these questions. Check in they feel ok with how the workplace is trucking