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An old friend/aquaintance I've not spoken to in a few years popped up recently and we got chatting a little over text. In the few years since we spoke she's had two babies by two different guys. They're ~6 months and ~2-3 years.

She said that we should get coffee and catch up properly, and I was sort of down, although I'm not really that enthusiastic about catching up with someone I've frankly not thought about in a few years. But hey, it's something to do, and it might be interesting. So I suggested a coffee shop near her and asked if she'd be able to get time away from the kids, but she said that no, she'd have to bring the kids along.

I don't want to be a dick but I'm really not interested in sitting in a coffee shop with two babies. They're mostly just going to be the focus of the occasion because they need constant attention, and I don't really like kids in general. And, if they cry or act up and attract attention I will hate that.

AITA? How do I tell her I'm really not interested in sitting with her babies for an afternoon?

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[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

These responses are as varied as you can get

[–] tauren@lemm.ee 0 points 1 month ago

Her kids - her problems, you don't have to deal with that.

[–] RedditAdminsSuckIt@lemmy.world -1 points 1 month ago

I don’t know you so these words aren’t meant to be hurtful, but I wouldn’t want to be your friend.

It sounds like you have nothing in common and aren’t actually interested in their life or you’d be interested in the kids.

The best part is you suggested the coffee shop lol.

Honestly just learn to say no if you don’t want to do something. It might be awkward but it’ll save embarrassment, wasted time and maybe even hurt in the end.

[–] EverXIII@lemmy.world -4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

No. You are not a dick. Your colleague is. Your are always allowed to exercise your right to say no, to things you don’t like to do.

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[–] Litebit@lemmy.world -5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Coffee is not good for babies, save the babies, don't meet her. Call child protection. I don't think she is your friend if she is giving her babies coffee.

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