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[–] sjmarf@sh.itjust.works 129 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 45 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

unfortunately I think this is the current answer, at least on Lemmy.

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[–] Draconic_NEO@lemmy.world 112 points 2 weeks ago (15 children)

lemmy.blahaj.zone has a decent amount of women and both their admins are women, it's not a "women's space" as one would describe since everyone is welcome there but it's probably the closest thing one would describe as an instance "by women for women". I am obligated to mention that it is a queer instance and that many of the women there are either trans themselves or strongly supportive of trans people, and do not tolerate transphobia or anti-LGBT sentiment (including refusal to support LGBTQ people) at all.

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[–] StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone 101 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Lemmy has an undeniable woman problem that it carried over from Reddit. I've lost count of the number of pathetic blokes that I have blocked on here for anti feminism.

[–] AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works 47 points 1 week ago (21 children)

yep it's pretty horrible. any time gender issues are brought up there's dozens of comments saying "what about the men" and completely missing the point

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[–] mholiv@lemmy.world 29 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (24 children)

EDIT: Look at the responses to this comment for the proof.

100%

It’s really bad and lemmy is really in denial.

Sexism here is much worse than it was on Reddit.

It feels like 2008 Reddit here sexism wise, except instead of Ron Paul libertarians tooting their horns everywhere we have heavy tracked vehicle enthusiasts.

I did hope lemmy having a left leaning culture would help but it does not.

Try making any post that focuses on situations uniquely or disproportionally experienced by women and you get mostly “everyone has that why think about women” or “what about men” or “men have it worst” responses.

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[–] merc@sh.itjust.works 65 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

This seems like a very good niche for someone willing to do it. Problematic accounts could get a site-wide ban instead of each woman having to ban someone herself.

[–] Flamangoman@leminal.space 106 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

Niche? Bruh, they're half of the population lmao

[–] LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net 65 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Unfortunately it is niche right now in the fediverse based on the stats. That could change but probably requires a different approach to achieve.

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[–] merc@sh.itjust.works 40 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I would guess that most women wouldn't feel the need to be on a woman-focused Lemmy instance for their main / only account. But, some might want an alt account to discuss certain things there.

[–] otter@lemmy.ca 33 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

While this won't be the case with everyone, it was mentioned a few times in a post I made here a long while back

https://lemmy.ca/post/9443464

I’m a woman, and make no attempt to hide that fact in my posts. That said, I also don’t personally have much interest in talking about being a woman, so don’t sub to any of those places you linked.

Over on Reddit I just sort of let people assume I was male a lot of the time, since it wasn’t really relevant to what we were talking about. But from the start on Lemmy I’ve made sure to call out incorrect assumptions, downvote and give a talking to people stereotyping or being misogynistic, etc etc. And the more of us (of all genders) that make that same decision, the better things get

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[–] Die4Ever@retrolemmy.com 28 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

we all know there's currently only 1 chick in the fediverse

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[–] FaceDeer@fedia.io 19 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I don't know of any "men only" instances, the fact that it's gender-specific is niche rather than the specific gender.

[–] Tonuka@feddit.org 20 points 2 weeks ago

Same reason womens magazines are more popular than mens magazines and womens subreddits and websites are more popular than mens.

Maybe one day we'll have full equality and it'll be weird to think of "women's spaces" as something that's necessary. But it's very much so today.

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

this is a bit of how Blahaj works as I understand it, so it's a good model - if anything I would think Blahaj might already be poised for this kind of instance-level protection of women

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one of the Blahaj guidelines does include removing bigotry, including sexism, and would be a candidate for a safe space for women:

Inclusion and Acceptance

Embracing inclusion and acceptance means listening when people tell you who they are and what their needs are. It means not telling people that you know their experiences better than they do. It means not gatekeeping experiences of identities of others. It means no bigotry such as racism, sexism, anti LGBT commentary, ableism etc. It means doing your best to ensure that you don’t over-talk the voices of folk who don’t share your privileges.

That said, the women spaces on Blahaj are mostly for trans women, so a more general women's community would be nice.

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[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 48 points 1 week ago (7 children)

Youre absolutely welcome to join Blahaj zone. Our wonderful administration team (both of whom are women) bans misogyny whenever it comes around to our communities. The mods for our main communities share a very aggressive moderation policy.

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[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 47 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Most of the fediverse is male, and there's a significant trans woman space, but there's no spaces that really cater to cis women or to trans men specifically that I've seen.

And yes, I think it's reasonable to look for a space that is strongly (though not exclusively) cis-woman, in the same way that a Protestant would feel out of place in a Catholic community, even though they're all Christian. I imagine most cis women feel the same way as I (a cis man) feel when going to blahaj - like a friendly, allied visitor in a foreign land.

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[–] Eiri@lemmy.ca 36 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

But like what even is a social media for women? I wasn't aware the ones we currently have were for men

[–] Tonuka@feddit.org 50 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

reddit has /r/TwoXChromosomes which is one of my favorite subs. It's a general womens subreddit, and though it obviously leans feminist it's not its main purpose. It welcomes all genders, but remains a womens space.

The fediverse could really use that energy.

[–] lunarul@lemmy.world 24 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

There's also /r/WitchesVsPatriarchy which is also very strictly woman-centered.

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[–] carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone 34 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

its kinda sad how one of the biggest women’s community on the lemmy/mbin side of fedi is !femcelmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone

i mean, it’s a great community, but yea.

[–] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 21 points 1 week ago (7 children)

There seems to be a majority of males even in that community though

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[–] hendrik@palaver.p3x.de 30 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

beehaw.org aspire to be nice, friendly diverse and safe. But they're more towards nice, not women. And we have lemmy.blahaj.zone for queer folks. To my knowledge, there isn't a place aimed towards women. Maybe heehaw is the closest... Still not really a fit.

You could go ahead and also ask in some of the women communities, see how they get along here on the Fediverse.

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[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 23 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Depends. You looking for a woman's space...or a terf space?

[–] tfm@europe.pub 27 points 1 week ago (17 children)

I definitely think it should be an inclusive, not exclusive space

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[–] MECHAGODZILLA2@midwest.social 23 points 1 week ago (4 children)

The comments here make me very disappointed in our little corner of the internet. If anyone wants this but doesn’t know how, neither do I but I’d be happy help.

[–] i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 1 week ago (9 children)

I am disappointed but not surprised. The attitude of men here reminds me a lot of default subs in Reddit. People tend to be more civil, but there is so much "but what about men?" when talking about women's issues or belittling women still. Business as usual on the Internet, but I can see why it would cause women to avoid Lemmy.

I haven't been back to Reddit, but it makes me miss the small niches where I didn't see that as often.

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[–] Ulrich@feddit.org 22 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Pardon my ignorance but what would be the point of that? You can sign up on any instance and participate in any women's communities. It's not like there's any way to verify the user's gender anyway.

[–] Genius@lemmy.zip 31 points 1 week ago (5 children)

A community like that would hopefully ban misogynists who go unbanned on other communities.

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[–] pseudo@jlai.lu 28 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Local feed I guess. I wouldn't trade my french local feed to another despite the abillity to subscribe to the community that made it.

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[–] Snoopy@piefed.social 21 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

This idea is pretty cool, i hope they will succeed to achieve that. Imo, we lack diversity on the forumverse except maybe mastodon.

It would provide an additional security layer, another governance. They could also benefit a lot from local community and can check vote, email, ip...Other have already mentionned good example with blahaj, beehaw...

On the other hand, it will render the instance more visible.

On my main instance, jlai.lu, i think we don't manage well sexist speech. They are moderated, we do our best to explain to our users what's wrong and slowly change them but we don't have the same sensibility as women.

Men explaining women...So we probably missed lot things.

[–] FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 week ago (6 children)

Lemmy,blahaj,zone is run by Ada, who is a woman

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[–] ZeffSyde@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I want there to be a witchesvspatreiarchy here, but I'm a dude and it'd be messed up if I started it.

[–] EnsignWashout@startrek.website 22 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (6 children)

There's a couple of them, I think.

I found this one:

https://lemmy.ca/c/witchesvspatriarchy

Edit: Better link:

!witchesvspatriarchy@lemmy.ca

Thanks!

[–] cupcakezealot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)

!witchesvspatriarchy@lemmy.ca

instance friendly link for those on other instances :)

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